oh wendy! pixie dust for you my friend! if it were me, i'd just forget about all that cra*@ and go to disney for YOUR wedding with chuck and not worry about anyone else. just concentrate on him and be thankful that you're not a spiteful rat like anthony's wife who doesn't care about anyone but herself.
this really stinks that all of this is going on right now, when your wedding is so close, but-you know what they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger! sooo mushy and cheesy but true!
hang in there. i have faith that everything WILL turn out 100% fantastic for you! and feel free to vent to us anytime you want!
I hear you. I've gone through sadness and anger. What are the other stages of greif?!? Chuck is pretty shaken up on this one. So now I feel even worse.
Dump the family and invite 18 of your closest DIS friends!
Brilliant. Now how do I get rid of the pesky nay-sayers and drama creators?
I'm so sorry to hear about all the stress that you have been under
For the initial problem, is there anyone else that you think could spend the night before the wedding with Anthony? Maybe another relative or another friend that is coming to the wedding, even his sister?
I'm sure we can all relate to the stress you're under being so close to your wedding. I looked at my mom the other night and said, "I am so over this wedding." Besides the wedding everyone expects you to be their personal travel guide too! Kris is living in another state right now, so he isn't any help either. All I can say is that I know where you're coming from and I completely understand your stress
Just remember your wedding is in a little over 3 weeks and then it will all be over and you can be relaxed again
Afterwards none of this stress will matter and you'll be happy that you actually went through with the wedding.
I'm so sorry that any of us have to have these sorts of experiences. Notice it's not even the wedding itself that is causing this stress. It's all the people envolved. These people are supposed to be our closest friends and family. I just don't understand how we got to this point!
Chuck has a girlfriend coming in from AZ (who's plane ticket we paid for, by the way!
) who may stay with him. So he won't be completely alone, I guess...
My mom offered to have my step-father take him out and get him drunk to which I started crying! I don't want him depressed, drunk and then hung-over on our wedding day. She promply said she was joking.
this is a great idea!
don't worry wendy, mark is of NO help to me at all either. is it possible for you to call the evil wife and plead your case? not that that's exactly something that i would do, but it's an option...
Chuck actually adressed Erin directly. (see below) Again, I can't blame her 100%. Anthony did do a lot to create this situation. However, now that they are married, she's gotta exercise that trust clause, I would think! What do I know?!?
Yeah, I'm coming back to the main points. With everyones help. I get to marry Chuck. We're get to be in Disney. Then we'll be married. That's exciting. And really all that should matter!
I'm so sorry Wendy! I know how you feel. I'm having similar problems, that's why I stopped writing in my PJ. I don't really have any suggestions, because I'm at a loss for what I can do myself. I guess just try to focus on yourself and your relationship with Chuck. This is a formality that will be over soon.
It really seems like we are so focused on making our wedding such beautiful experiences for all of our guests and our DFs but no one is focusing on making that day a beautiful experience you us, the brides!! I don't think it's fair. But you have to try to just focus on how beautiful your day will be regardless of everyone else being inconsiderate babies.
I've been fighting with my DF, yesterday and today. He's been miserable since he proposed in October because he doesn't understand why I have to plan so much and why we can't play video games and go out every night for the next few months. I try to explain that it is very simple, because he said "NO" to the 8 person wedding I wanted at Disney, I am planning the 46 person Disney wedding, and the 200 + NJ reception that he and his parents wanted. And since Tinkerbell doesn't really exist, somebody has to plan.
I'm done also. Everyone seems so selfish and obnoxious. And I am starting to regret that I am not a Bridezilla. I definitely feel for you and am wishing you the best on your wedding day (and the days leading up to it).
Hope!!!
I know it gets so overwhelming, you don't even want to post anymore. It takes the fun right out of it. You've hit the nail on the head about how I feel! I haven't wanted to be a bridezilla and I think I'm doing okay. But again, I think everyone has taken that as license to crap all over us! I'm sorry it's been so rough for you.
I don't really know what to say but I just wanted to send you a
My DF hasn't got a Best Man at our wedding. He did ask his close friend but they said they couldn't afford it even after that had come into some money but then went and booked their own wedding for just a few months after us. All this after they said they didn't want to marry for another three years. People are funny and sometimes its better just to let them get on with it than worry over them.
I am worried over my DF being on his own the night before the wedding. But my brother is staying in the same hotel and he said he will look after him.
Ugh, I speechless. I'm sorry you've had to go through this. I don't think anyone should have to go through this. It's awful and wrong and ugh!
Is there anyone who can spend time with DF the night before? Father? FFIL? anyone?
Oh Wendy, I'm so sorry to hear about all the stress and sadness you are going thru right now.
I wish I could offer some real advice, but all I can say is try to remember that this truly is about you & your DF and what the two of you want. Everybody else is so determined to force their own personal dramas on you, you've just got to find a way to turn their noise down.
Hang in there and know that we're all here for you
Bonnie
Thank you Bonnie!! I appreciate all the kind words from you and everyone!
This is the email that Chuck sent to both Erin and Anthony. Is it weird that I'm posting it here? I have no shame. (you'll also see that Chuck's a little lost about the wedding to, b/c we are having the cake and champagne toast directly after the ceremony before pictures and our dinner later. LOL.)
Erin,
I'm assuming you are involved in this same day flight thing happening am I right? Does this have to do with my sister? In case it does, I just want you to know a few things here...
First and foremost, I can understand how you feel and I can't fault your for your emotions. I don't feel it justifies the situation, but I can't fault you for being uncomfortable.
None of that in the past has anything to do with me...matter of fact I always made it a point to keep things separate. Don't ask, don't tell...I didn't want to be involved and never was. Perhaps some of my disbelief on what's going on here is because I don't know all the details that would lead to this happening so I can admit that without reservation.
I already paid for a night for Doc's room because I was going to stay with him the night before my wedding. Now I'll be alone. Pretty sad for me but I'll manage.
If the tux doesn't fit or something crazy happens where something is absurdly too small (like happened with me for your wedding) then nothing can be done to fix it. Which adds worry.
I started out with 2 best men...basically my 2 best friends...1 dropped out completely already, you can imagine how that feels for something that is once in a lifetime. Now to add insult to injury, there's complications with my other.
My best man is now going to miss my wedding reception. And although I'm not a big wedding guy, the one thing I've always looked forward to was the wedding toast. I guess I'll toast myself now.
I'll spare you the rest about if you didn't trust him then you shouldn't have blah blah blah, my support of your wedding and other stuff since I'm at work and I'm starting to come apart here which is embarrassing. I can only hope that I'm completely wrong here and this seemingly selfish situation is a complete misunderstanding.
Doc,
I know you gotta do what you gotta do and what you feel is right. You always do the right thing so if this is what you had to do, whatever the reason, then it was a good decision and I don't fault you. I got some rumblings that this might happen but I didn't want to jump to conclusions so I left it alone. Call me next time yeah? If you had to cut back this much it must be pretty bad so I appreciate that you were able to come at all so I'll always remember the effort.
Sorry for the email as opposed to a phone call or calls but I can't muster the will to pick up the phone right now. And sorry for directing this email to Erin and not through you I hope you can forgive me for that and for not waiting until I calmed down before sending. 
that is what it is about! All of the rest really stinks. People can be so inconsiderate! 
I think this is a bright spot - even in the middle of all this, you still have a wicked sense of humor. 
and stop caring about pleasing anybody but you and DF. You have obviously bent over backward trying to please everyone else, and if it isn't working, let it go. 
<-- that's me. I've gone psychotic!
