Wendy & Chuck's PJ and TR Merged 2/4/08 Escape SBP/JIKO: Updated 9/19-Pleasure Island

[Mermaid_Ariel]

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hate those!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Lisella]

Hmmm, did you already have something planned for favors? Or can you think up something quick? I'm just thinking that you could tell your FSIL that you already have/or are working on/or ordered/or planned on a particular favor. This way you can try to kind of squash the jordans without it being an issue - you don't need any more stress at this point. I think you have more than reached your quota...you've probably reached about 6 brides stress quotas

 

[helloirishkitty]

Is there anyway you could "lose" the box of jordan almonds? I never really understood the whole tradition of having them...

I would say something. Your FMIL is WAYYY out of line with "surprise favors".

 

[autumnbride2B]

You probably don't want to hear this, but no one will remember whether or not you had the jordan almonds or not. Maybe some guests who think that they are a reception necessity will notice and remember, but no one else will. There are things that are worth stressing about, but this really doesn't need to be one of them. My FILs surprised us with M&Ms with our initials in little organza bags. We put them in the welcome bags and didn't think about it after that. Everything seems like a huge deal this close to the wedding but you will drive yourself crazy if you worry about everything.

 

[mla1977]

Is there anyway you could "lose" the box of jordan almonds? I never really understood the whole tradition of having them...

I would say something. Your FMIL is WAYYY out of line with "surprise favors".

They are a traditional Italian wedding favor. I do believe her FMIL is old school Italian too. They are supposed to represent good luck or something like that. I personally can't stand them and would be pissed if they were at my wedding.

 

[caryndisneydiva]

i outlawed the yucky jordan almonds from my wedding. they are seriously gross. seriously. i do have an idea though...at the end of the ceremony, when they're supposed to blowing bubbles at you, your guests can "casually" toss them at your fmil...just a thought!

 

[BayouPrincess]

i outlawed the yucky jordan almonds from my wedding. they are seriously gross. seriously. i do have an idea though...at the end of the ceremony, when they're supposed to blowing bubbles at you, your guests can "casually" toss them at your fmil...just a thought!

I Love this idea! I think if you can't "loose" the box of them...then that should be the plan. You need something incredibly relaxing. A drink and a massage!

I'm not opposed to "suggestions" that I have the opportunity to say "NO" to, but this is ridiculous. This is your wedding and if you don't want Jordan Almonds...then it's NO JORDAN F-ING ALMONDS!

Geeze, I just don't get people.

Lots of to you to get through this. Please tell me your FMIL has not invited herself on your honeymoon...THAT would be it!

 

[madfelice]

Ok, best I can make out you have pretty much planned and executed everything for your wedding all by yourself, and with a definate lack of approval from the fmil who has not wanted to help as you because you are not throwing the elaborate Italian 5000 guest deal SHE would like you to have. NOW however she has decided to "surprise" you with something that would be a definate thing at the "traditional Italian affair" if you had gone with what she would have liked to plan. Sounds like she is just trying to insert her wishes into your wedding and make it just that little bit more like what SHE wants.
That said, it is possibly also somewhat of an olive branch and she possibly thinks that she is doing you a huge favour as she would see them as a necessary part of the wedding and possibly think that you either do not know about them or have forgotten them and that she is being of great assistance on providing them. She could just be trying to help.
Is there any way you can let her know that you don't want them? Slip it into conversation that your favours are X and that you decided on them because the almonds are not considered really great these days. Or you could even say that you chose not to have the nuts because so many people have nut allergies these days or something or go further and say that a large amopunt of your guests are almond intollerant. You could even tell FSIL that there are a lot of people allergic to almonds on the guest list so they might not be the best thing and have HER break it to FMIL. A little corny, but a thought!

 

[lov2b@disney]

i outlawed the yucky jordan almonds from my wedding. they are seriously gross. seriously. i do have an idea though...at the end of the ceremony, when they're supposed to blowing bubbles at you, your guests can "casually" toss them at your fmil...just a thought!

 

[Starr W.]

I was just informed on Saturday that my wonderful FMIL wants to "surprise" me by having as favors 5 jordan almonds in mesh (I'm assuming that means tulle) tied with a ribbon with strips of paper with our names and date.
(WHICH WE KNOW IF I DID IT, IT WOULD LOOK AMAZING, I AM THE SCRAPBOOKER AND CRAFTER... HOWEVER SHE'S DELEGATED THIS TASK TO MY FSIL... NOT QUITE AS CRAFTY AND WE DON'T AGREE ON STYLE OR FASION AT ALL.)

I hate to sound petty. And I know I'm about to right here. And no offense to anyone who likes Jordan Almonds either. But ***?!?

It is not her place to come up with favors and then "surprise" me with them. The only reason I know about them is b/c FSIL told me b/c she's actually been put in charge of making this happen.

Last time I checked it was still my wedding. Therefore, I should be planning it. Things shouldn't be done to "surprise" me in the arena of guest favors. And you know what, I personally HATE HATE HATE Jordan Almonds.

I would just like to reiterate that this is not her wedding. She already had a wedding!!!!!!!!!!!! UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yuck Jordan Almonds! You could plan a covert operation and swipe them before the wedding .

My sister actually likes those things.

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Okay, the first thing I have to say is that everyones responses to the Jordan Almonds has really cracked me up! This is exactly what I needed in this situation.

You probably don't want to hear this, but no one will remember whether or not you had the jordan almonds or not. Maybe some guests who think that they are a reception necessity will notice and remember, but no one else will. There are things that are worth stressing about, but this really doesn't need to be one of them. My FILs surprised us with M&Ms with our initials in little organza bags. We put them in the welcome bags and didn't think about it after that. Everything seems like a huge deal this close to the wedding but you will drive yourself crazy if you worry about everything.

Oh, it's okay. I already knew I was being petty about this. I know I should let it go. I know it's not (in the grand scheme of things) a big deal. But it still P*SSES me off to no end. For a lot of reasons. Some that have already been listed here. Some that have to do with knowing this woman for 11 years and knowing how she loves to play the underdog/ martyr. Instinctively knowing that she's "surprising" me with this b/c she already knows that I would say no to it if she actually suggested it to me.

They are a traditional Italian wedding favor. I do believe her FMIL is old school Italian too. They are supposed to represent good luck or something like that. I personally can't stand them and would be pissed if they were at my wedding.

So true. The exact number of each favor according to FSIL is 5 for good luck. And the thing is... she tells me this as I'm discussing with her what I PLAN ON DOING FOR FAVORS. Keep in mind this is also my MOH who has been MIA. And she says, it's really important to mom. Well, what about what really important to me???

i outlawed the yucky jordan almonds from my wedding. they are seriously gross. seriously. i do have an idea though...at the end of the ceremony, when they're supposed to blowing bubbles at you, your guests can "casually" toss them at your fmil...just a thought!

This would be mean and cruel. rolleyes1 ) I am willing to be totally kind and gracious on my wedding day. UNLESS someone (anyone) decides to step out of line or do something that I've expressly stated that I'm against.

I Love this idea! I think if you can't "loose" the box of them...then that should be the plan. You need something incredibly relaxing. A drink and a massage!

I'm not opposed to "suggestions" that I have the opportunity to say "NO" to, but this is ridiculous. This is your wedding and if you don't want Jordan Almonds...then it's NO JORDAN F-ING ALMONDS!

Geeze, I just don't get people.

Lots of to you to get through this. Please tell me your FMIL has not invited herself on your honeymoon...THAT would be it!

Thanks for getting it. No matter how absurd it is.

Ok, best I can make out you have pretty much planned and executed everything for your wedding all by yourself, and with a definate lack of approval from the fmil who has not wanted to help as you because you are not throwing the elaborate Italian 5000 guest deal SHE would like you to have. NOW however she has decided to "surprise" you with something that would be a definate thing at the "traditional Italian affair" if you had gone with what she would have liked to plan. Sounds like she is just trying to insert her wishes into your wedding and make it just that little bit more like what SHE wants.
That said, it is possibly also somewhat of an olive branch and she possibly thinks that she is doing you a huge favour as she would see them as a necessary part of the wedding and possibly think that you either do not know about them or have forgotten them and that she is being of great assistance on providing them. She could just be trying to help.
Is there any way you can let her know that you don't want them? Slip it into conversation that your favours are X and that you decided on them because the almonds are not considered really great these days. Or you could even say that you chose not to have the nuts because so many people have nut allergies these days or something or go further and say that a large amopunt of your guests are almond intollerant. You could even tell FSIL that there are a lot of people allergic to almonds on the guest list so they might not be the best thing and have HER break it to FMIL. A little corny, but a thought!

I think your first theory of making this wedding more how she wants it is pretty spot on. It's annoying and frustrating. This is something that she wants. Pure and Simple. I'm sure I'm going to talk to her. Let her know there's a limit on how many things I can set out. Let her know that I've taken care of and planned my favors. I even emailed my planner yesterday as I was stewing over this. Since they're going to be in a tulle or mesh, maybe I can get my planner to say that that's a no go for the Animal Kingdom Lodge. It's a stretch, but it doesn't hurt to try, right?

I just wish that if it was a surprise, it was really a surprise and that FSIL didn't tell me. That way when it happens, I can hate it, but at least I wouldn't need to stew over it for three weeks before it happens.

 

[lurkyloo]

I am willing to be totally kind and gracious on my wedding day. UNLESS someone (anyone) decides to step out of line or do something that I've expressly stated that I'm against.

So... is that a "no" to the blowing an airhorn as we pass your ceremony on a friendship boat thing...?

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

We will prolly be on the boat from the BoardWalk to the Beach Club as your ceremony starts, which I think means we'll go right by you at Sea Breeze Point! I'll be sure to bring an air horn...

I think they have that really loud horn right on the boat. So, you can def. have them blow it during our ceremony. If you can't tell, DF and I really aren't big ceremony people... so it's not like it will 'ruin' anything for us!

So... is that a "no" to the blowing an airhorn as we pass your ceremony on a friendship boat thing...?

No, no, you can blow the air horn. It has been discussed, agreed upon and falls 'in line' with my expectations. (why isn't there a smiley with a clipboard checking things off????? WE NEED THAT!)

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

My email to Kathleen yesterday while I was stewing (it doesn't sound too jaded, angry or against the jordan almonds, does it??)

Hello Kathleen,

My future mother-in-law has decided she wants to "surprise" me with Jordan Almonds at my dinner reception. Since we'll be at Animal Kingdom Lodge, I wanted to check to see what materials were restricted. Is a tulle or mesh material to wrap them going to be a problem?? Please let me know. Thank you!

Wendy

Her immediate response:

Wendy-

Doesn't sound like they'll be much of a surprise That shouldn't be a problem, but I'll verify with the restaurant manager. You'll have the room diagram tomorrow, okay? Thanks!

Kathleen

And then her response today, sent with the diagram of seating in the room...

Wendy-
Here is the room diagram for Jiko's private room (such as it is- my computer drawing abilities are about as good as my regular drawing abilities!). I also attached an actual picture of the room for you to help you envision the room. We should be able to flip the tables the other way if you'd prefer, or we can also do the smaller tables of four each. Let me know, and I'll set it up with the restaurant, okay? I also checked on the favors and Animal Kingdom Lodge is very wary of having anything that could possibly get blown over into the animal enclosures (same reason there's no balloons, straws, etc.). If you want, we can hand those out directly after the ceremony at Sea Breeze Point- just put them in a small basket or something and I can take care of it for you. Thanks!

Kathleen Reynolds
Escape Weddings Coordinator
phone: 407-566-6278
fax: 407-566-2723
email: kathleen.m.reynolds@disney.com

So can I just tell MOH and FMIL that it's a no go??? I don't want to offer the alternatives (pass out at the ceremony, package differently, etc...)

 

[lurkyloo]

Yes! Yes yes yes! This is perfect. Just tell them the bags are restricted at AKL. Now how do we keep them from figuring out the "pass them out at SBP option"....

 

[sunsh1ne]

it mightbme nice for them to havd them to the guests as a little munchy after the ceremony. i dont mean to go against the majority. but hay two gifts for the guests aint bad. and some might like it. i say just do it why cause to much drama for yourself. i am sorry if i made you upset but sometimes we get ourselves to upset for little things. remmeber it will all be wounderful as you let it be!!

 

[mla1977]

sunsh1ne-

Have you ever had Jordan Almonds? Blech! As a guest, I certainly wouldn't appreciate them as a snack right after the ceremony. I'd probably toss them right in the trash!

 

[sunsh1ne]

yes i have had them i am italian so as you know they make an apperance at many event. i am not saying they are the best but it is a bag of almonds once the guest has them is they throw them out so be it but some may like it
i dont want to argue i am just saying some things are not worth a fuss. but again it is her wedding if it is that big of a deal then tell the mom no.

 

[hope1826]

also checked on the favors and Animal Kingdom Lodge is very wary of having anything that could possibly get blown over into the animal enclosures (same reason there's no balloons, straws, etc.)

Congrats!!

Yes! Yes yes yes! This is perfect. Just tell them the bags are restricted at AKL. Now how do we keep them from figuring out the "pass them out at SBP option"....

Maybe you can use the same reason as Animal Kingdom Lodge... The fish or ducks or loch ness monsters in the lake by Sea Breeze Point may choke on any tulle (mesh) that may blow away.

I totally understand the concept of keeping the peace, but being that my FMIL sounds like your FMIL's twin, I vote for putting your foot down.

I've allowed a lot of small things in the name of trying to limit drama and being the bigger person, but now there is a rumor that my FMIL may "surprise" my DF and I with a priest ready for a blessing ceremony at our at home reception the week before our wedding. I don't think it's possible for a number of reasons, including the fact that I am NOT catholic, so I'm not going to stress about it. But my point is that I think that there should be a very clear consistent effort to help your FMIL, and mine, understand that they are NOT in control of their sons weddings, marriages, lives, future children, etc. or they will end up doing a lot worse.

 

[caryndisneydiva]

you have it IN WRITING that they are not allowed at dakl. done. i still stand with my original idea. especially since they'll now be a part of the ceremony.

do you know that they make silver jordan almonds? gross...they look like you're eating metal...