Well that is it for me and gifting!no non DIS gifts anymore.

[Maleficent2]

I was in VMK just now and gifted a player some gold ears....I did this mainly because she was willing to trade her crown(said it was her only one) and I thought well if she is willing to give up her crown then I would just gift her the ears....well so I did and guess what.....


not even a thank you!




very sad all I hope is that she was not DIS.

 

[FilamentTheBright]

I've noticed there does seem to be a shortage of Please and Thank you lately.

 

[PrinceLegolas]

You know that was awful nice of you!!
Too bad the little brat wasn't gracious enough to say thanks!!
PrinceLegolas

 

[pinkgalYall]

Aww sorry to hear that Mal. Unfortunetly lots of people seem to not say thanks anymore. I think thats why when i say that in trades people always act surprised. Best of luck Mal and thanks!

 

[Belle1997]

Been there done that and still not learned my lesson. I tend to gift new players. And I would say 75% are thankful. But I do get so mad when I gift a player and they do not say thank you. Even after I say where is the thank you. they do not. Makes you wonder.

But on the other hand I have kids be very thankful. And some have become my friends. So I continue to spread my gifting around. I figure most people on Dis have lots of stuff or someone on Dis will gift them. Or there is a players guide to help them. But for the new players who do not know about the boards playing VMK can be so overwhelming. So I tend to take non dis players under my wings. Until they get the hang of the game and fly away. Well some never get the hang of the game. But are so greatful for the little things I do to help them with their rooms. Or help them get their first pin.
Or build a quest that everyone gets a prize for finishing. That is why I do not have mega rooms of anything. I give most of it away.

That is what brings fun to me. And why I am rarely on Dis RAOK thread.

So it is a risk that some will not say thank you, but is so joyous when you help a new player and they jump for joy saying you made my day.

That is the fun of True acts of Kindness. So it is a gamble and sometimes I lose. But in the end the player looses for I will not be their to help them learn the game.

 

[mking624]

I'm so sorry Mal. Drives me nuts the lack of manners.

 

[KrazyPete]

Does that mean more Mal gifts for Dis'ers?

Please and thank you, PLEASE AND THANK YOU!

 

[Goofy05]

Stinks when you find that rude player that has no manners...but I will never stop gifting. I've had a few who actually complained about quest prizes I'd offered. Don't like them, don't play my quests! However, I've never had someone I'd gifted not appreciate the gift.
My suggestion would be to tell them in the trade window that they need not trade anything, it is a gift. If they don't thank you in the trade window, cancel the trade and tell them you do not gift people who won't appreciate something wonderful for free, you'll just give it to someone else who will.
Hopefully, we can teach them it does pay to be polite.

 

[AvastPirateBen]

I was in VMK just now and gifted a player some gold ears....I did this mainly because she was willing to trade her crown(said it was her only one) and I thought well if she is willing to give up her crown then I would just gift her the ears....well so I did and guess what.....


not even a thank you!




very sad all I hope is that she was not DIS.

same reason i stopped non dis giving about 5 months ago, i gave a Jolly Roger Host Pin, one of the more rarer host prizes, not even a thanks, just accept and i said aren't u missing something?
person:No
end trade.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

I get that a lot too, Mal. Give someone something and they fly away without a thank you.


I think it goes with the self-entitlement that so many feel these days. They expect to be handed things for free and many times they don't need to say thank you. They have been taught this by the adults around them.

I still gift when the mood hits me. No matter who it is.

 

[shadow pirate]

I blame the fact that more and more people think that common courtesy is for fools. I get this at my school and on the internet all the time. Walk through a hall, people flood all around you with no regard to anyone else, bump into you and reply with "Watch where your going, -insert insult here-." Give an item, no reply, try to talk to them, they leave. Talk to someone, get insulted followed by an LOL, counter with a better one, nothing. Sorry to hear it happened in VMK.

 

[Cabelle1863]

I blame the fact that more and more people think that common courtesy is for fools. I get this at my school and on the internet all the time. Walk through a hall, people flood all around you with no regard to anyone else, bump into you and reply with "Watch where your going, -insert insult here-." Give an item, no reply, try to talk to them, they leave. Talk to someone, get insulted followed by an LOL, counter with a better one, nothing. Sorry to hear it happened in VMK.

I agree. It seems like more and more parents don't think it's important to teach their children to be kind and considerate to others. I know my girls consider me to be a bit of a nag but they do look appalled when they see others being rude so I must be doing the right thing with my constant reminders. Rudeness seems to be an epidemic lately. I walk my kids to school and the behavior of some kids on their scooters and bikes as they nearly run us over on the sidewalk makes me shake my head. Some kids don't have the phrase "Excuse me" in their vocabulary. It's a shame. Part of what makes my day brighter is to be nice to others. I like making others smile.

 

[Tampa]

I feel weird when I random gift.

One time I gave a boy a crown right after they became retired, and yup, no thanks.. no nothing. I didn't care I guess, I didn't gift in hopes of recieving anything, not even a thanks. But once he pranced around our park's castle section saying, "now i king of room".. he had to go.

I also was on the Pixar Cars Quest by a player and someone in the room said thanks for gifting her when she was poor. I gifted her again with a gold firework pin, and really wish I hadn't. She was thankfull and all, but I could have put it to better gifting use amongst friends.. oh well eh?

 

[Maleficent2]

Stinks when you find that rude player that has no manners...but I will never stop gifting. I've had a few who actually complained about quest prizes I'd offered. Don't like them, don't play my quests! However, I've never had someone I'd gifted not appreciate the gift.
My suggestion would be to tell them in the trade window that they need not trade anything, it is a gift. If they don't thank you in the trade window, cancel the trade and tell them you do not gift people who won't appreciate something wonderful for free, you'll just give it to someone else who will.
Hopefully, we can teach them it does pay to be polite.

I did tell them it was a gift and I should have cancelled out when no thank you was given.

I even said several times to them after, wow where is the thanks. All she did was keep changing her outfit while keeping the gold ears on her little horn laden head!


I will still gift to DIS but non DIS or not on my friends list and buddy you will have to do cart wheels to get a gift from me from now on.

 

[judimouse]

What about the ones you gift and then they beg for more. Tis sad.

 

[cat_herder]

I was in VMK just now and gifted a player some gold ears....I did this mainly because she was willing to trade her crown(said it was her only one) and I thought well if she is willing to give up her crown then I would just gift her the ears....well so I did and guess what.....

I did the same thing the other day. She claimed she wanted gold ears so bad and that she had been trying to get one for months. So I gave her a pair. And about 1 minutes later she was trying to trade them to someone else.

 

[Califgirl]

I love gifting, but I am not discouraged when the receiver doesn't give me a 'thank you'. I realize that when they first get out of that trade window they can be so excited that the first thing they do is open the 'stuff' or clothes window and start changing their clothes (or putting on the new pin, or going straight to their room to place that new piece of furniture, or whatever) and those screens take up a great deal of the VMK screen. I take it as a compliment when they immediately put on whatever I just gave them.

I will admit that in general I prefer gifting newer players (DIS and DISKids always have priority) but that is because those of us who have been around for a long time already have everything. While I give without expectation, I will admit that I am sad when I end up gifting just so someone can turn around and trade it for something else (or make another *star* magic pin arg!). I always try to give something that I think will make the receiver happy, not something that will just add to their riches...

But, I will say that while thank you's are always appreciated, sometimes the receiver is eccestatic and their screams of excitement just don't come through the computer. I prefer to give them the benefit of the doubt.

 

[AllisonY2K]

What about the ones you gift and then they beg for more. Tis sad.

ugh, don't even get me started on that.

I still have 2 fireworks pins to give away. I'm just trying to find a few certain DISers to give them to. I've decided to gift to DISers instead of the GP for alllll the reasons mentioned in this thread.

 

[AmberDaze]

...I will admit that I am sad when I end up gifting just so someone can turn around and trade it for something else...

I have had this happen... I read a post here once upon a time and was taken in by someone not being able to get something that they really, really wanted because of no Internet access at a certain time that this item was given out. As soon as I gifted them this item, they turned around and asked if I would mind if they traded it away. Well, it was now theirs to do with what they wanted, but it still made me a bit sad...because I truly believed that they would finally be able to enjoy that item.

What about the ones you gift and then they beg for more. Tis sad.

Arg...Too many stories...so little time...

 

[AbsoluteAwesome]

I occasionaly gift my items to new players, but I usually just try to help them. I met a girl the other day who needed my help, and I told her everything she wanted to know. She responded with a "thank you so much for helping me!" And it just made me feel great. She's on my friends list now Yesterday she visited me just to thank me again. These new players make me feel good. On the other hand, there's the annoying new players that do not say a simple please (even a "plz" would do) or thank you (even a "thx" would do). It's a real mix, and unfortunately, most of the new players are the second kind I mentioned. Maybe they don't yet realize yet that there's a REAL PERSON on the other side who has feelings, and not just a computer.