Welcome To The Caribbean, Love ~ Updated 5-27 P52

[Charleston Princess]

Awesome, TK!!!

 

[trixiequilts]

Way to go TK!

I just picked up my copy of The Courage To Start from the library yesterday (thanks to Wings ) and I was crying before I had finished the introduction. I'm about half done and I can't believe how inspiring it is!

Keep up the good work. It's hard to take time for ourselves when we have kids, but it's soooooooo worth it.

Run, TK! Run!

 

[TarzansKat]

Darn! I forgot the finger snap!

I have a complex at the gym. I'm the only person who brings a cd player, yes a cd player. Ipods and I don't get along. Then I dropped it today while I was on the bike and it was skittering across the floor to like 5 machines down. Sigh. I can't handle falling off the treadmill too.

Oh, LL.

I'd like to pretend I was super cool and listened to some inspirational music yesterday while I was running, but alas. I decided to start in the middle of the day, while Nemo was at school, so I had Squirt with me.

Therefore, I watched Clifford The Big Red Dog on PBS.

Good for you!!

Unfortunately I ran into some resistance in the form of a torn ligament and I'm paranoid about starting again but I absolutely loved the first few days I was doing it! Go for it!!!!!

Torn ligament = no fun. I hope it heals up soon for you.

Oooh, ooh me too! I have asthma and was a very scrawny unathletic kid, so I was almost always one of the last to finish running in school too. But I was also motivated by some of the other lovely Disers and decided to give Couch to 5K a try. I started almost 2 weeks agos (6 weeks and 2 days after Isabella was born), and did it twice and was feeling great with my progress. Then the day after the second run, I started having some problems related to the childbirth reoccurring, so I stopped again for the last week hoping that would go away again. My doc thinks it's just because of the medication he prescribed me to avoid getting pg again at the moment, and said the excerise should be ok, so I think I may start again on Thursday. Good luck to us!

Hey, if you want a motivational buddy, just let me know! Seems like we're going to be around the same place at the same time, so I'd love to offer support.

I hope you feel better soon and the health issues lessen for you. Having kids is tough work, eh?

Fantastic!
I hope you'll write about your journey.
And I'm sure in the near future, we will be reading your Disney 1/2 Marathon ptr

I'll definitely write about it!

Good lord, don't put me at a 1/2 yet. It's enough to think of doing the 5K!

Good for you, Kat!

 

[TarzansKat]

I had a feeling you were going to do the couch to 5K... or did I already know this????

Your psychic abilities astound me.

Congrats!! You have took the hardest step... starting. Once you get into a routine it will start getting easier. But I will not lie... the first few weeks are the hardest. I think you have the determination to keep at it!

I know it's going to be hard, that's for sure. I am very, very sore today, but a good sore.

As if the muscles that haven't been used in months are saying, hello, Kat. We're here. We missed you.

My gym routine has been erratic at best. I hope to make it there tomorrow. Geez, look at the time. If I don't get to sleep soon, I won't make it there at 9am!

Do we need to send you to bed, young man?

Awesome, TK!!!

Thanks, CP!!!

Way to go TK!

I just picked up my copy of The Courage To Start from the library yesterday (thanks to Wings ) and I was crying before I had finished the introduction. I'm about half done and I can't believe how inspiring it is!

Keep up the good work. It's hard to take time for ourselves when we have kids, but it's soooooooo worth it.

Isn't it a wonderful book? I loved it. I wonder if it comes in an audio book, that could be neat to listen to while running.

I'm really excited about doing something for myself. I think it's one of the healthiest things I've done since my mom passed. I mean that physically and spiritually.

Run, TK! Run!

 

[If U Had Wings]

Congrats on starting the program for yourself! Honestly I think that's the only reason that will really make you stick with it. We all need to have things we do for ourselves to keep us going, even if it's a simple 30 minute run. I think doing things you wouldn't normally do, or things you once told yourself you couldn't are so important. I realize that more and more the older I get.

 

[TarzansKat]

Congrats on starting the program for yourself! Honestly I think that's the only reason that will really make you stick with it. We all need to have things we do for ourselves to keep us going, even if it's a simple 30 minute run. I think doing things you wouldn't normally do, or things you once told yourself you couldn't are so important. I realize that more and more the older I get.

Thanks, Crissy! I agree. It's the determination of I want to, not I have to.

 

[TarzansKat]

After a restless night of sleep, I need to post this here.

In all honesty, I am not excited about this trip. I'm excited about the thought of taking Squirt for the first time, the thought of telling Nemo on Christmas Eve, the thought of having that first ride on POTC.

But in all reality, I'm not excited about it. At. All. There are some possible changes of plans going on (which I don't want to talk about too much since it involves Tink) but basically I'm looking at maybe needing to switch dates...debating whether or not to do a 6 day trip or just a long weekend...and also whether or not to downgrade the resort.

I know I have a tendency to think of switching everything if one thing needs to be switched, and honestly, if I hadn't bought airfare already, I probably wouldn't be trying so hard to make this work. That's how I know something is wrong with me, because the thought of canceling doesn't even make me sad. Right now, it almost feels like a relief. It's still possible that I can use that airfare this summer to go visit my sister, because we're on Southwest, I should be able to transfer the credits with no problem.

It's just that since I've started the Couch to 5K program, I've been thinking I'd really like to go in October of 2011 and do my first 5K at Disney. That gives me a little less than a year to get in shape and feel good about something like that, which I think is a generous goal.

Fall is my favorite time of year to go to Disney. I think with trying to do a big February trip, I've been pushing myself too hard to make it different from what I would have done with Mom. It's almost like not eating at restaurants or going into places because it would be too hard, same concept. Trying too hard to make it easy is just making it harder...if that makes sense.

I'm worried about how many days we're pulling Nemo out of school. I don't want to start a debate here, I know this is a "hot" DIS topic. If we go in October I can take advantage of Columbus Day weekend, with minimal to no days missed, since our school also does some teacher in-service days that the kids get off that week as well.

This trip is a lot of money. I'm not going to lie to you. It's a lot. And although it's not necessarily any more than I've spent on Disney before, it's bordering my comfort zone for something I'm not feeling excited about. If I kept the Wilderness Lodge, and got us down to a four day weekend, it would save $700+. Nothing to sneeze at.

On the other hand, when I woke up completely exhausted this morning, and was bumbling around the kitchen trying to make breakfast, all I could think was...maybe I do need this.

I want to be supportive of Tink. I'm not telling you anything here that she and I haven't been discussing in the past few days. I also have plans to meet with LegoMom, and she and I have been talking about this funk we're all sort of feeling right now.

I talked to my husband, and he's really down for whatever. I think one of the best things he said to me last night was, "If you're not ready to go, then just cancel." It's good to know that he understands how hard it is for me.

I'm not sure where to go with this, and I'm not even sure if anyone can really tell me what to do, but as always, your support is so appreciated. Thanks.

 

[that's nice]

Whatever you do, don't go and cancel anything today!

This is a major decision that is going to take you a few days to figure out. Don't do anything rash. I don't think that taking Nemo out of school for a few days is that big of deal. (I guess I am on that side of the fence)

As any good DISer will tell you maybe you can go in the spring & the fall???

As far as the fiances go, there are always cheaper ways to do a trip. You've stayed at POP before so you know how that is. You can also think of staying offsite. {nobody FLAME me!}

With this being said, ultimately, you have to do what right for you and your family. If you think you aren't ready, then don't try to force yourself to put on a smiling face for your family, while on the inside be all torn up. Disney isn't going anywhere. So if it takes you 6 months longer, 1 year longer, or even 3 years to get back, so be it. (hopefully it won't take 3 years!) I know you have some readers here that are more articulate than I am, so I'm sure they will have some good thoughts on this subject.

 

[MRYPPNS]

I got the funk too and not the kind you find on the dance floor!

I'm actually going to suggest that you go by yourself for a long weekend. Go tackle whatever fears you have about being there without your Mom. Go have some quiet time to yourself. Go and enjoy the wonderful memories you have of your mom there. I think if you do that, you will have the confidence to go back in the fall with your family and know that it won't be all sadness.

Squirt will be fine without you for a long weekend. You can pump and dump while you are there if you are still breastfeeding him. (Danica was 5 months old when I went on my solo trip.)

 

[TarzansKat]

Whatever you do, don't go and cancel anything today!

I hear that.

This is a major decision that is going to take you a few days to figure out. Don't do anything rash. I don't think that taking Nemo out of school for a few days is that big of deal. (I guess I am on that side of the fence)

Now we know where you stand in that debate.

As any good DISer will tell you maybe you can go in the spring & the fall???

That's definitely on my radar as a possibility.

As far as the fiances go, there are always cheaper ways to do a trip. You've stayed at POP before so you know how that is. You can also think of staying offsite. {nobody FLAME me!}

I know I want to be onsite, that's for sure.

See, I can make a decision!!!

With this being said, ultimately, you have to do what right for you and your family. If you think you aren't ready, then don't try to force yourself to put on a smiling face for your family, while on the inside be all torn up. Disney isn't going anywhere. So if it takes you 6 months longer, 1 year longer, or even 3 years to get back, so be it. (hopefully it won't take 3 years!) I know you have some readers here that are more articulate than I am, so I'm sure they will have some good thoughts on this subject.

Tim, you're plenty articulate, trust me. I understand what you're saying, and thank you for being supportive. I really appreciate it.

I got the funk too and not the kind you find on the dance floor!

I think it's a weird week, I really do.

I'm actually going to suggest that you go by yourself for a long weekend. Go tackle whatever fears you have about being there without your Mom. Go have some quiet time to yourself. Go and enjoy the wonderful memories you have of your mom there. I think if you do that, you will have the confidence to go back in the fall with your family and know that it won't be all sadness.

Squirt will be fine without you for a long weekend. You can pump and dump while you are there if you are still breastfeeding him. (Danica was 5 months old when I went on my solo trip.)

You know, I'd like to say that I could do that...but I don't know if I can. Normally, I'm the type who would totally want that solo trip, but I just don't know if I'm strong enough to handle all that alone time.

I think I need the children to distract me from the sadness, need their joy to replace that ache in my heart.

 

[If U Had Wings]

I understand exactly where you are coming from about this trip. I was feeling the same lack of enthusiasm for my fall trip. I know how much you love going in the fall, and maybe you just need a little bit more time before making the big family trip back to Disney. Going in the fall may make it a bit easier. Plus you could do the 5k when your there. They give out really cute Mickey Halloween medals. This is going to be a tough few months for you this year. Rushing into a Disney trip right afterwards could either be too much, or a bit of a relief.

That week really is quite a bit more expensive too over the fall. Saving some extra money wouldn't hurt I'm sure either. I've been having some of the same thoughts about my possible Feb. trip, and finally made some decisions that I feel really happy about. You'll know what the right decision is when you make it, just take some time to think about something else and then come back to the decision in a week or so with a fresh mind.

 

[Smileybug]

Just poking my head in to say hi.

 

[KatMark]

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Don't make a rash decision today or tomorrow; maybe give it the weekend or after the holiday (which I am sure is heavy on your mind). You'll do what is right for YOU and your family in the long run. And we are here for you.

 

[LegoMom3]

Ok, I'm going to reiterate here that I am behind you 100% no matter what you decide.

Now, I'm going to enable you.

First of all, as others have said, do NOT make the decision on a "down" day. Bad karma and all that. It's just not a good idea!

Next -- would it help you at all if you told Nemo before Christmas Eve?...maybe catch some of his enthusiasm? I know you've got this awesome plan for the big reveal, but just something to think about meantime.

Finally -- I'm going to be as subtle about this as I possibly can.....One word: 5k. Me. (well, that's two words I guess, isn't it?!).



.

 

[TarzansKat]

You'll know what the right decision is when you make it, just take some time to think about something else and then come back to the decision in a week or so with a fresh mind.

You were so right. I knew what the right decision was when I made it, and I made it last night. Or more accurately, yesterday afternoon, and then implemented it while waiting to get Nemo off the bus.

It's sad when you have your resort confirmation number memorized.

Just poking my head in to say hi.

Thanks, Smiley.

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Don't make a rash decision today or tomorrow; maybe give it the weekend or after the holiday (which I am sure is heavy on your mind). You'll do what is right for YOU and your family in the long run. And we are here for you.

Thank you so much, Kat. I was actually able to make a decision that I was comfortable with yesterday, and feel good about it. I got some wise counsel as well, and that really helped.

Ok, I'm going to reiterate here that I am behind you 100% no matter what you decide.

Now, I'm going to enable you.

First of all, as others have said, do NOT make the decision on a "down" day. Bad karma and all that. It's just not a good idea!

Next -- would it help you at all if you told Nemo before Christmas Eve?...maybe catch some of his enthusiasm? I know you've got this awesome plan for the big reveal, but just something to think about meantime.

Finally -- I'm going to be as subtle about this as I possibly can.....One word: 5k. Me. (well, that's two words I guess, isn't it?!).



.

I took part of your advice, and started talking to Nemo last night about a hypothetical Disney trip. I explained to him that it made me sad because Mimi wouldn't be there, but that it made me happy because it would be Squirt's first trip. Long story short, I had a really nice conversation with him about it.

I'm so proud of you for signing up for the 5K! That's awesome!

 

[If U Had Wings]

You were so right. I knew what the right decision was when I made it, and I made it last night. Or more accurately, yesterday afternoon, and then implemented it while waiting to get Nemo off the bus.

Isn't a relief when you figure it all out?

It's sad when you have your resort confirmation number memorized.

That is definitely a sign of a Disney planning addict!

 

[jenjolt]

Good Evening Kat!! I hope you had a good day!!

I'm glad to hear you have come to a decision!! Having peace of mind is worth its weight in gold!!

 

[All7OfUs]

I like Tim's advice. Sit on it a few days, and re-evaluate. Maybe your talks with Nemo will help you find that perspective you need.

I also like what Heidi said. Maybe soem time there by yourself will give you the time you need to tackle some of those fears that you need to face. AGain, regaining that perspective that is muddled right now. Whatever you decide, I'm sure it will be the very best for your family. And for you. If it's waiting, great, if it's going, I'm sure it will still be a good trip. Maybe not the same, maybe not GREAT, but surely good- even if it helps you get the "first one" over with.

 

[Native NYer]

I hope you're feeling better. Glad you were able to make a decision that's right for you.

 

[TarzansKat]

Isn't a relief when you figure it all out?

Yes. Except I have ADR angst all over again.

That is definitely a sign of a Disney planning addict!

I know, right?

Good Evening Kat!! I hope you had a good day!!

I'm glad to hear you have come to a decision!! Having peace of mind is worth its weight in gold!!

Thanks, Jen. It definitely helps.

I like Tim's advice. Sit on it a few days, and re-evaluate. Maybe your talks with Nemo will help you find that perspective you need.

I also like what Heidi said. Maybe soem time there by yourself will give you the time you need to tackle some of those fears that you need to face. AGain, regaining that perspective that is muddled right now. Whatever you decide, I'm sure it will be the very best for your family. And for you. If it's waiting, great, if it's going, I'm sure it will still be a good trip. Maybe not the same, maybe not GREAT, but surely good- even if it helps you get the "first one" over with.

Well, I did go ahead and make the change already, but I find that the more I think about, the more pleased I am about my decision. It feels more "right" if that makes sense.

I know that eventually I would love to do a solo Disney trip, but this is not the time. I know myself well enough to know that I would be absolutely miserable if I were there by myself. It's hard enough for me to miss Mom in day to day life, never mind by myself in Disney World.

I think it will be nice, though, to go eventually on my own (hopefully with some DIS meets thrown in) and to honor her in my own way, on my own time.

I hope you're feeling better. Glad you were able to make a decision that's right for you.

Thank you, hon!

How was your conference?