Weekend Long Bachelor Parties--Are They Appropriate?

[Jynohn]

Some of you may remember I posted a few months ago about DH's best friend who was having a "destination" wedding that I wasn't invited to. Well he's at it again!

DH just got an email with the information for the friend's bachelor party. Looks like they're headed to Montreal for the weekend. Aside from the expense it would entail (easily well over $500 if you take into consideration transportation, hotel, meals, drinks, etc.) do you think bachelor parties that last all weekend long (and held in another country no less!) are appropriate? Keep in mind that the majority of guys invited are not bachelors themselves. We're talking 35 year old guys with wives and kids here, not guys in their early 20's.

DH agrees that it's over the top and will not be going, I was just curious to hear other's opinion on the subject. Although I did tell DH he was more than welcome to go, as long as I could jet off to the Bahamas for the weekend with a few friends, copious amounts of alchohol, and a few strippers

 

[dadto1]

I see no problem with it! If that's the kind of bachelor party he wants and someone is willing to throw it good for him! I probably wouldn't go on one myself but !

 

[dennis99ss]

A weekend of fun with the hired help....

WooHoo

Unfortunately, never been on a weekend party

 

[mickeyboat]

We live in Vt, and Montreal is less than 2 hours from us. I would not have a problem with an al-weekend party there. If it was alot further from us, I might have issues.

When DH was in HS, it was all the rage to go to Canada to visit the strip clubs.

Denae

 

[Buckalew11]

I, myself, can't get over the fact that you, as his spouse, aren't invited to the wedding. I have never heard of that--destination wedding or not. But what do I know? So, you can guess my feeling on the rest of it! LOL

 

[Jynohn]

I, myself, can't get over the fact that you, as his spouse, aren't invited to the wedding. I have never heard of that--destination wedding or not. But what do I know? So, you can guess my feeling on the rest of it! LOL

I still can't get over that either! Guess that's why I was asking for opinions on this bachelor party. I wanted to make sure it wasn't just me being biased against this "friend" and over reacting.

 

[KelNottAt]

I've heard of over-night bachelor parties that start with golf on Saturday morning, lead to dinner, then bar-hopping, then (perhaps) beach time on Sunday. In fact that was the way is was for my DH when he was the groom, and for most of his friends when they were the grooms. The guests could attend as much or as little as they had time/money for.

 

[diskids2]

I, myself, can't get over the fact that you, as his spouse, aren't invited to the wedding. I have never heard of that--destination wedding or not. But what do I know? So, you can guess my feeling on the rest of it! LOL

I can not get over this either. Is your DH going to go?

 

[grlpwrd]

Well, Montreal allows full contact lap dancing in strip clubs. Some clubs offer minimal contact lap dancing, but still... I know it's not a family friendly subject, but I am being rated G.

Must be a reason for the destination...

 

[pooh4evr]

My brother had his BP in Vegas around July. I think 30 guys ended up going- DH did not go he was on call but the got there Friday afternoon and stayed until Sunday afternoon- we don't know exactly what went on- but the had a good time- I don't think there is anything wrong with it!

 

[goodeats]

They are the norm here. For bachelorette parties too. I'm going to one next month in Vegas. Mine was in Santa Barbara; I've been to others on Catalina, Palm Springs, etc. So I can't begrudge the guys for doing it too!

Although, I think leaving the country is a bit much. One of DH's friends had one in Cabo (but I think the Groom was surprised), and DH declined. It just would have been too much $$$.

 

[Jynohn]

Is your DH going to go?

No he's not going to the wedding. Not after I found out I wasn't invited because the groom wanted him to be another woman's date!

 

[Jynohn]

Must be a reason for the destination...

That's what I thought too!

 

[emilymad]

I can't believe you are not invited to the wedding! I am sure that is a whole other story. When I was engaged my finance wanted to go to Vegas for a bachelor party. It was going to cost about $1000 before any entertainment was added. I said sure he could go if he wanted but I was going to spend that same amount of money when he was gone. We had just bought a house and we were saving to pay for the wedding. Not that many people ended up going and I don't think the groom had all that much fun. It was actually a surprise for the groom, they picked him up at work and went to the airport. I know a lot of people who decided to do the weekend bachelor party. I think it is ridiculous and immature. I can see doing a local all day/night type of event but when travel is involved it is vacation not a bachelor party. My current boyfriend, I got divorced, got invited to a bachelor party in Chicago. I don't think he is going, I forgot to ask!! We haven't been dating long enough for me to object. In this case the wedding is in SC, I think, two weeks after the bachelor party. That is a big part of him not going. That is a lot of expense and travel time so close together. If he is going it still would bother me but at least he has said he doesn't really understand the point of it.

 

[DisneyJen0504]

While I agree it is super odd that you are not invited but your DH is, I don't think there is anything wrong with a weekend bachelor party provided the bride and groom are okay with it and understanding that some might not be able to attend.
DH went to Atlantic City for a weekend with his groomsmen for his bachelor party. They went bar hopping, eating, drinking, checking out the usual strippers, and gambling. Two weeks later, my bridesmaids took me to Atlantic City for the weekend and we too went bar hopping, eating, drinking, gambling and instead of checking out strippers, the girls and I went to the spa for a day of relaxation.
Both DH and I had a great time at our bachelor/bachelorette weekends.
As a side note-we have been to bachelor/bachelorette party weekends in AC, NYC, Miami and the Caribbean.

 

[budbeerlady]

No he's not going to the wedding. Not after I found out I wasn't invited because the groom wanted him to be another woman's date!

Can you link this other thread about the wedding, I gotta read that one. What a great "friend" your DH has . I wouldnt go and I dont know if my Dh would want to go under normal circumstances, that is alot for a long time. What happened to good old 1 night blow outs and crashing at a hotel hoping the pictures never get out.

But knowing his intent to place your Dh with another women would definetly put an end to any discussion about going for a weekend party! Sounds like a great guy this friend, knowing his feelings about the sanctity of marriage I wonder about his poor wife to be. Good luck to the poor girl!

 

[Bob Slydell]

As long as the bride and groom are fine with it, then I see no problem with it.

 

[Beth76]

I remember your thread about the wedding and I agreed that was completely wrong. This, however, I disagree with you. I see nothing wrong with a weekend bachelor party. It's just a "guy's weekend". I go away for girls weekends. No difference.

 

[Jynohn]

Can you link this other thread about the wedding, I gotta read that one.

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=991839&

Not sure how to link a thread so hopefully this works...

 

[budbeerlady]

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=991839&

Not sure how to link a thread so hopefully this works...

Thanks!!!!!!