Weddings... smashing the cake?

[Papa Deuce]

Why, oh why do people do this? I was just at a wedding yesterday and the groom smashed the cake on the bride, and she ended up in tears. I don't get it at all.

 

[Beth76]

yuck tacky. It really makes me wonder who came up with this idea and why so many people thought it was a good enough idea to make it a "tradition".

 

[CEDmom]

I have no idea. I agree it's really tacky. From what I've seen it's mostly young couples that do it.

 

[Hannathy]

I hate that and if my new DH did that I would be how fast can you say annulment!

 

[crz4mm2]

One of my greatest pet peeves! DS gets married in May. If he does this to his DB I will kill him.

 

[autumnbaby9]

I see nothing wrong with it IF the couple talked about it before hand and agreed to it. It is not something I would want to do but it is fun for some people.

However it can get out of hand. My uncle got married outside next to a creek. He pushed the cake into his brides face so hard she fell over into the creek. Needless to say she was not happy.

 

[disneyfan67]

I was at a wedding where the bride had her face smashed in the cake and it was an embarrassing sight. She ran to the bathroom in tears, follwed by some of her bridesmaids. She came out of the bathroom about a half hour later and all of her fancy professionally done makeup and "wedding day hair" was ruined. She had to clean her face to get the cake off and came out of the bathroom looking like a different person. My wife told me the bride had spent a lot of money to have her make up done and it was ruined by her new husband. You could tell she had been crying and who could blame her? The mood of the reception had clearly changed. Some of the wedding party had tried to spin the event and say everything was fine, but it was clear it wasn't. To nobody's surprise that marriage didn't last too long.

 

[Disney Doll]

I hate it. The tradition of feeding each other the cake is supposed to signify how you will "nourish" each other throughout your marriage.

So instead, let me smash the cake in your face...so far from what the tradition is supposed to be.

When DH & I were getting married, the only thing my father ever said to me about our wedding was "If you 2 push the cake into each others' faces, I will personal come up here and kick you both in the ___". DH & I had no plans on doing that, so he had nothing to worry about.

 

[lulugirl]

Ugh, so crass. If you don't smash food in one anothers face on any other day then why oh why do it on your wedding day??!!!

 

[Fan2CSkr]

I see nothing wrong with it IF the couple talked about it before hand and agreed to it. It is not something I would want to do but it is fun for some people.

However it can get out of hand. My uncle got married outside next to a creek. He pushed the cake into his brides face so hard she fell over into the creek. Needless to say she was not happy.

Thats awful! Anyone get a picture?

 

[Becky2005]

I think I threatened DH with life & limb if he had done that. Plus I can hold grudges real well.

Luckily (maybe?) our cake was still somewhat frozen for some odd reason so it would not have been an easy task if he tried to.

My DH is not a spotlight type of person so there is no way he would have wanted to do anything to bring MORE attention to himself. As far as he was concerned the less time we had people completely focused on us the better.

I don't know how that tradition got started.

 

[Nana Annie]

I find it tacky, tasteless and indicative of a total lack of class.

However, that is just my opinion. As this is a hot topic with strong viewpoints on both sides, I will add

 

[autumnbaby9]

Thats awful! Anyone get a picture?

No but my father did get it on video which is even better. The whole wedding was a big joke (the couple did this on purpose).

They got married in a ghost town in Northern Idaho. We all had to camp because there was only one hotel in the town and it was more for nastalsa(SP?) then function.

It was bredding season for the cows so all the bulls were fighting during the reception.

My uncle wore a ball and chain down the aisle and his bride had the key around her neck.

It is fun video to watch.

 

[Mady/Sophiemom]

I threatened DH, and he listened. He did not smash it in my face. Instead he shoved a little down the front of my dress.

I was definately not happy.

After going to several weddings in his family- Apparently they all think its just so funny.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Ugh, so crass. If you don't smash food in one anothers face on any other day then why oh why do it on your wedding day??!!!

Exactly... on the one day everything is supposed to go well, and you are there to have fun....

 

[lovetoscrap]

I admit that we did this, but we had both agreed to it and it is the way we are. We actually did the first bite nice and then did it again. But we are fairly lighthearted and neither of us had enough cake to cause a problem. Some did drop down the inside front of my dress (and the relatives had fun with THAT!) and I got a bit up DH's nose accidentaly but it really was all fun. We still laugh when we see the video. Of course I also have a very fancy and expensive Wedding Album that has a photo of an Elmo Doll dressed in a cumberbund and bow tie with a glass of wine on the cover. The photographer almost refused to use that as our cover photo when we picked it out!

And we are actually very conservative, middle class, minivan driving, soccer parent types. We just both have a great sense of humor and enjoy breaking uptight tradition for fun sometimes. But we also have the sense to know when it is appropriate and when it isn't.

 

[ZachnElli]

I don't get it either. Thankfully, my dh didn't do it, but he did bite my finger along with the cake!

 

[EthansMom]

DH and I made an agreement... I wouldn't slip him any tongue during the "kiss the bride" part and he wouldn't smash cake in my face.

 

[julie_yet]

Before my brother got married he made it exquisitely clear that if my SIL smashed cake in his face their honeymoon would be none too pleasant.

 

[Kae]

The photographer asked my friend to step in closer as they were feeding each other & she slipped, pushing the cake into the grooms face & he took it as a sign, so he pushed it into hers. Not a happy bride.

A big hunk of DH's piece went down my dress & in the pictures you can see it falling into my dress.

Kae