Wedding Thank You Notes

[SleepyMom]

Another vote for send them now.

We attended a wedding in April and have not heard from the bride and groom, and I am really wondering if they got our gift or not. The morning before the wedding the bride's parents offered to take our gift with them (from the hotel, we were all staying at the same one) over to the groom's house and drop it off along with a ton of other things. The bride sent us a thank you within days of the shower, so I am worried that either our card was lost from the gift or maybe it just never got there in the first place. We will be seeing them all again this weekend (another family wedding) and I am wondering if I should ask about it. I hate to seem rude, but I really am worried whether they got it or not.

 

[kim929]

i received a thank you note from my neice in Aug for her wedding in july of 08

I would send them out.

 

[HM]

OP....
what have you decided?

 

[Mrs.Toad]

I would rather receive a wedding gift thank you even 3 or 4 years late, than not at all.

There are a few gifts I've sent over the years that were never acknowledged, and I still wonder whether they even received them.

Send them. Apologize for being late, and thank them for the gift. It's just fine.

 

[tomthebarncat]

Your guests remembered to buy you a gift, how hard is it to write a thank you note and mail it? I tend to remember these types of things, as it tells me that you did not really appreciate my gift! as you could not even be bothered to send a quick note. I also remember this when I recieve future invitation to fundraisers, oops I mean special events that require a gift. Send the note ASAP and please acknowledge the timing!

 

[MiniGirl]

I would rather receive a wedding gift thank you even 3 or 4 years late, than not at all.

There are a few gifts I've sent over the years that were never acknowledged, and I still wonder whether they even received them.

Send them. Apologize for being late, and thank them for the gift. It's just fine.

Same here. There are a few gifts that I have sent and I don't even know if they received them. I'd send them out if for no other reason than that.

 

[Abbie]

Another vote for send them now.

We attended a wedding in April and have not heard from the bride and groom, and I am really wondering if they got our gift or not. The morning before the wedding the bride's parents offered to take our gift with them (from the hotel, we were all staying at the same one) over to the groom's house and drop it off along with a ton of other things. The bride sent us a thank you within days of the shower, so I am worried that either our card was lost from the gift or maybe it just never got there in the first place. We will be seeing them all again this weekend (another family wedding) and I am wondering if I should ask about it. I hate to seem rude, but I really am worried whether they got it or not.

OT, but if you figure out what to do in this situation, please let me know! My daughter was married in July and finally finished up all her notes a few weeks ago. (and yes, OP, please do them even if late, it's the right thing to do!) They ended up with two gifts with no cards. We sat down and went over the guest list and came up with about 10 people that did not match up with the gift list. None of us care if someone chose not to send a gift, but I do feel terrible that two people sent something and they are not getting thanked! But I honestly can't think of any polite way to figure it out unless someone inquires as to whether they got their gift....I wish they would!

 

[A4Disney]

Here is my dilemma....

I got married almost a year ago and procrastinated horribly with the thank you notes for both the wedding and the shower. In fact I have not sent them out yet. I won't make excuses and say I was too busy or anything like that, I just honestly forgot about them.

So my question is:

What is more offensive, not sending them out at all or sending them out a year late?

I assume there are some people who are offended to have not received one. My concern is that by sending a thank you a year late I will offend them again. Or is it better late than never?

I know I will get flamed for this question but I am ready!

Not sending them at all would be worse.Better late than never,I think...
Personally ,I probably wouldn't even remember not getting one but many in myfamily especially the older generations wait for their thank you notes lol

 

[bumbershoot]

Send them! Better late than never. You'll feel so good once they are sent, and people will feel good having received them.

Then maybe something about how you use their gift all the time (every morning when I make my bagel I think of you as it is toasting in the toaster oven) or what you used the money for (Bill & I put your generous gift into our savings in hopes that soon we will be able to buy a house).

oh definitely! That's one benefit of being late (not a good reason TO wait, but a silver lining most definitely), is that you've been using their gift, and you have the experience to talk about.

I thinking at this point, I should just send them every single thank you that I've written them along with a note that says I require a padded cell when it comes to thanking people.

It's so so so bad.

Do at least send the most recent. If everyone has a good sense of humor, send all the letters, but it might cost more in shipping...and take some time (one hour, I'm giving you an hour, not another year) crafting the self-deprecating bit about why you took so long (you don't want to sound weird, ya know?), and send them!

...is it rude to mail the baby shower thank you with the wedding thank you (separate envelopes but mail them the same day )? I haven't gotten all the baby shower thank yous out yet either!

I can't see why it would be rude. I think it would be fun!

 

[aprilgail2]

Your guests remembered to buy you a gift, how hard is it to write a thank you note and mail it? I tend to remember these types of things, as it tells me that you did not really appreciate my gift! as you could not even be bothered to send a quick note. I also remember this when I recieve future invitation to fundraisers, oops I mean special events that require a gift. Send the note ASAP and please acknowledge the timing!

 

[Caradana]

I'd take it a step further ... go to Vistaprint and order a set of really cute notecards with a graphic and quote about how belated they are ... see if you can come up with something cute, and humor will dull the edge of the fact that these are very late and your mother is probably going to be horrified when she catches wind of this.