wedding questions

[JerseyJanice]

let it drop

OP never came back and I think we are just being trolled by her/it

Yo! You would be completely wrong, DF95. The OP posted 8 times on this thread.

Anybody can find out who posted on a thread and how many times just by clicking on the "Replies" column of the forum's main page. Next time, DF95, you should try doing that before you accuse a sane-sounding and long time poster of being a troll.

 

[Crazy4Disney72]

Yo! You would be completely wrong, DF95. The OP posted 8 times on this thread.

Anybody can find out who posted on a thread and how many times just by clicking on the "Replies" column of the forum's main page. Next time, DF95, you should try doing that before you accuse a sane-sounding and long time poster of being a troll.

Thanks JerseyJanice!

 

[Abbie]

So many people are saying they are familiar with this large gap of time between ceremony and reception that I'm starting to wonder if it's a more recent kind of thing? I've been married 30 years and attended a lot of weddings, although not a lot recently, and I've just never seen that! And a lot of these were Catholic weddings so it can't just be that. It seems very odd to me too.

OP, I'm sorry you are hurt by your sister. It would catch me by surprise too if I only had one sister and she bypassed me for attendant, and even though you are admirably rising above it, I sure understand the hurt. I like what a PP said about instead of focusing that she didn't pick you, focus on how pleased your mom must be. Enjoy the wedding either way!

 

[rie'smom]

So many people are saying they are familiar with this large gap of time between ceremony and reception that I'm starting to wonder if it's a more recent kind of thing? I've been married 30 years and attended a lot of weddings, although not a lot recently, and I've just never seen that! And a lot of these were Catholic weddings so it can't just be that. It seems very odd to me too.

OP, I'm sorry you are hurt by your sister. It would catch me by surprise too if I only had one sister and she bypassed me for attendant, and even though you are admirably rising above it, I sure understand the hurt. I like what a PP said about instead of focusing that she didn't pick you, focus on how pleased your mom must be. Enjoy the wedding either way!

99% of the weddings we've attended have been Catholic and not one has had lag time. Of course, we have an abundance of places for receptions.

 

[Nancy]

So many people are saying they are familiar with this large gap of time between ceremony and reception that I'm starting to wonder if it's a more recent kind of thing? I've been married 30 years and attended a lot of weddings, although not a lot recently, and I've just never seen that! And a lot of these were Catholic weddings so it can't just be that. It seems very odd to me too.

OP, I'm sorry you are hurt by your sister. It would catch me by surprise too if I only had one sister and she bypassed me for attendant, and even though you are admirably rising above it, I sure understand the hurt. I like what a PP said about instead of focusing that she didn't pick you, focus on how pleased your mom must be. Enjoy the wedding either way!

I got married almost 26 years ago in a Catholic church and my ceremony was at 5:15 and we had the reception right after. There were no Saturday masses at my church back then..so they did weddings in the morning around 10, then at 2:00 and at 5:15. We did pictures after so we had an hour open bar at the reception hall..no food though, that wasn't common then.

I was just at a wedding (my nephews) and the ceremony was afternoon. We just went back to the hotel after church, the later took the shuttle to the reception hall. I actually thought nothing of it...we just sat around the hotel. I didn't expect anyone to host anything for me. My kids went to Starbucks on the way back to the hotel..they were all set. LOL.

 

[aprilgail2]

As for the other issue...am I the only person who actually prefers when their friends and family do not ask them to be in the wedding party? The one wedding party I was a part of ended up being a huge drain; both financially and time wise.
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I HATE HATE HATE being asked to be in wedding parties! The cost of throwing the bridal shower, dress, shoes, getting hair done, shower gifts, bachlorette party & gift and then the wedding gift totally kills me--you are talking thousands of dollars for the "honor" of being in their wedding LOL.

 

[happygirl]

I don't see either one a big deal,

The time gap is so common, I once went to afternoon wedding that was at 2 pm and the reception was at 7 that night, they wanted to have a dance and an open bar I guess they thought 2 was to early for dancing and drinking LOL

A lot of time the gap has to do with photos, most of the weddings I have been to to the time gap is nice to go back and relax

 

[Conservative Hippie]

I'm not sure if this applies to your sister, but is it possible that she does not realize that the Mother of the Bride already has a place of honor in the wedding party? I sold wedding gowns for several years and ran into many many brides who were unfamiliar with the "traditional" wedding party and what the roles and titles actually were. I had one bride who insisted that her 5 year old daughter was her MATRON of Honor.

 

[Crazy4Disney72]

I'm not sure if this applies to your sister, but is it possible that she does not realize that the Mother of the Bride already has a place of honor in the wedding party? I sold wedding gowns for several years and ran into many many brides who were unfamiliar with the "traditional" wedding party and what the roles and titles actually were. I had one bride who insisted that her 5 year old daughter was her MATRON of Honor.

No, that definitely does not apply. My sister is a very well-educated and worldly person who has been a bridesmaid in many weddings.

 

[Crazy4Disney72]

So many people are saying they are familiar with this large gap of time between ceremony and reception that I'm starting to wonder if it's a more recent kind of thing? I've been married 30 years and attended a lot of weddings, although not a lot recently, and I've just never seen that! And a lot of these were Catholic weddings so it can't just be that. It seems very odd to me too.

OP, I'm sorry you are hurt by your sister. It would catch me by surprise too if I only had one sister and she bypassed me for attendant, and even though you are admirably rising above it, I sure understand the hurt. I like what a PP said about instead of focusing that she didn't pick you, focus on how pleased your mom must be. Enjoy the wedding either way!

I see you are in MD, that's where I am from and where all of the weddings I have attended have been held. I was thinking about it today, and I can remember attending 18 weddings over the years, I'm sure there may have been a few more, co-workers or friends of my dh that I am forgetting because I really didn't know the bride or the groom that well, etc., but anyway, out of those 18 weddings that I can for sure remember, none of them had a significant gap. The bridal party wasn't around immediately following the ceremony because they were doing pictures, but the reception venue was open and available to the guests for drinks, perhaps hor d'oeuvres, and socializing. This is the only reason this seemed foreign to me, and I was curious if it was commonly done, which apparently it is.

Thank you for understanding my feelings I had my tears over not being asked to be in the wedding (privately, I forced myself not to cry in front of my sister when she told me because I did not want her to feel bad, it's her day, her choice) and I've accepted it. Yes, it stings, but overall, I am just thrilled for my sister and that is what I will be focusing on for her wedding day.