Wedding Food Issue

[JessicaR]

That would have been my husband too. It falls firmly under "weird" in his book, and he has a thing about "weird" foods. This is sometimes a thorn in my own side, I admit.

There was very little listed by the OP that anyone in my family would eat, other than the veggie tray, and a lot of things my oldest is allergic to (any of the tofu/soy dishes). We're all hypoglycemic, so we don't go with the "nibble on celery until it's polite to leave" idea. We'd have been one of the ones to congratulate the bride and groom and slip out to go eat.

It is definitely the bride and groom's choice to serve what they want to serve. It is also my choice to take my family and feed them something they will actually eat.

This is exactly how I feel also. Actually before I would even be aware my husband would have been making the good-bye rounds.

 

[badcramps]

I don't think anyone would have called you a big baby if you left to go get something to eat

Not in *that* situation. But if she came on here and explained that there were boca burgers (but she only likes bean veggie burgers, not soy ones), and there was vegetarian mayo-based potato salad (but she doesn't like mayo), and there was veggie-heavy vegetarian pasta salad (but she doesn't like most veggies and refused to pick them out of the pasta salad) and add a few more dishes which also fail in one of these areas....

If she said there was all of that food she had no health or moral reason for not eating, but she just didn't like it (and further that the host of the party should have known she wouldn't like it and should have served more "normal" food) and therefore she had to leave early?

Yes I would absolutely say she was a total whining baby.

 

[luvmy3]

Not in *that* situation. But if she came on here and explained that there were boca burgers (but she only likes bean veggie burgers, not soy ones), and there was vegetarian mayo-based potato salad (but she doesn't like mayo), and there was veggie-heavy vegetarian pasta salad (but she doesn't like most veggies and refused to pick them out of the pasta salad) and add a few more dishes which also fail in one of these areas....

If she said there was all of that food she had no health or moral reason for not eating, but she just didn't like it (and further that the host of the party should have known she wouldn't like it and should have served more "normal" food) and therefore she had to leave early?

Yes I would absolutely say she was a total whining baby.

Well sure if the guest threw themselves a little temper tantrum complete with stomping and actual whining. However if one just left the event early to get themselves dinner then its really not an issue, its like leaving for any other personal reason.

 

[luvsJack]

I have never been to a wedding with an open bar. Most weddings I have been to only serve water and coffee/tea with dinner and sometimes coffee during the reception. Nothing else is free at the reception for the guests. As a kid I hated this because I had to ask my parents for money for a soda every time. This was including my sisters wedding when I was in the wedding party.

As for not having a bar. At least in our area most wedding locations this isn't an option because the location has a bar for the public, so the option for guests to buy drinks is there.

My wedding I paid for all coffee/tea/soda from the bar (so pretty much anything without alchohol is free - because I wanted those that didn't drink coffee to have something to drink!) guests had to pay if they wanted to drink anything besides the glass of champagne provided for the toast. This was done partially because DH's family has several people that if they could drink on someone elses tab they wouldn't stop drinking until they couldn't stand to get to the bar. I doubt anyone gave less money due to this... most of my guests that gave money it was in the form of a check so unless they wrote a new one at the reception...


to the original part of this thread I actually had only one dish with meat in it at my wedding, and both my husband and I eat meat! We had baked ziti, an alfredo pasta, Ceaser salad, rolls, and chicken parm (separate from the ziti so that the vegetarian could have both pastas)

Then we had cake and ice cream for dessert (I don't like cake much, the cake was more for show and for those that expect it... I wanted ice cream sundaes) this turned out to be better then I thought as the family has a few diabetics in the extended family that I forgot about but one of them loved the sundae bar since she was able to have some of the fresh fruit toppings for her own dessert.

But you did offer something besides water and punch. The PP that said she took money out of the envelope had to buy her own soda--that was kind of what I was meaning.

Both of my sister's daughters had alcohol at their weddings but not actually a "bar". They had beer, wine coolers, and wine offered and then the usual soft drinks, sweet tea and coffee. One of the receptions was at a country club so there WAS a bar simply because the club has a bar that was open; so technically if anyone wanted something else, they could have purchased a drink--but it wasn't actually a part of her reception.

Other weddings I have been to had soft drinks, punch, tea and coffee but no alcohol at all.

And still others had complete open bars.

I would pick one of those three options, depending on my budget, rather than expect my guest to only drink something if they paid for it. (I don't usually consider the punch as a good option because punch sometimes tastes AWFUL )

 

[CurlyGirl]

Personally, if I was close enough to the bride and groom, I'd know they were vegan and I'd expect a vegan menu.

Apparently, you didn't read the entire thread which might've been helpful. Everyone at the wedding was close to the bride and groom and nobody had any idea that the food would be vegan. The couple turned vegan less than 2 months before the wedding. It was a surprise to everyone there that only vegan food was served. It's gotta tell you something when the bride's parents (who, I am sure are EXTREMELY close to the bride & groom) ducked out for fast food. My guess is that they didn't know it was vegan fare because they would've been prepared for it and not have ducked out for fast food themselves.

Vegans are serious about it and to them, offering meat options would be like offering poison. Some people are pretty childish, especially those who went out for other food.

Hmmm ... the bride who was stuffing herself with poison 2 months before the wedding wouldn't offer poison to her guests (many of whom were at her shower). I find that interesting. The couple went vegan to lose weight, not for ethical reasons. Had you read any of the other posts, you would've known that the bride was into poison 2 months before her wedding.

Big babies. And look, vegans eat a lot more than tofu. Many very good vegetable dishes have lots of protein and are very tasty. It's 2011 folks, not 1953, you can figure out what to eat for one meal where there's no meat served.

Name calling is always klassy. And, did you even look at the menu? While vegans eat a lot more than tofu, most of the efood that was served was tofu laden. Most food is tasty when prepared properly. Have you never had a bad meal? Even veggies can taste bad if not prepared well. And have you told a hungry kid to figure it out when only presented with veggies? Especially if that kid didn't like veggies? And especially if the child did try the food and found it inedible?

I thought the food (save the fake italian tofu sausage) was good. But not everyone is me.

 

[aprilgail2]

Wow, open bar is the norm here and it's looked on as extremely tacky to have a cash bar at a wedding. It just isn't "done". If you can't afford to liquor up your guests, invite fewer . Or have a backyard BBQ or something.

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Its the norm around here too--which was why no one was prepared for paying for drinks LOL.
I went to one wedding down south where all they had was cake and these tiny sandwiches with cucumbers and things in them . We left pretty quickly to go get some food. We had just driven all the way from NY to Virginia and our mistake was to assume there would be food like every other wedding we had been to and not stop on the way and eat....

 

[tlbwriter]

Its the norm around here too--which was why no one was prepared for paying for drinks LOL.
I went to one wedding down south where all they had was cake and these tiny sandwiches with cucumbers and things in them . We left pretty quickly to go get some food. We had just driven all the way from NY to Virginia and our mistake was to assume there would be food like every other wedding we had been to and not stop on the way and eat....

It's definitely a regional thing. I have literally been to TWO weddings with a sitdown dinner, and one was a very small family-and-closest-friends affair.