WDW w/ the MIL AFTERTHOGHT

[kilee]

So, first I need to thank everyone for hanging in there, and all the great comments. I can definetly say I didn't have a magical gathering. I will next time though, that I'm sure of.

My best advice I can give to anyone. Unless you already get along great, don't ever, ever vacation w/ someone. Especially an inlaw. Because it's gonna put your spouse in the middle. I already knew from the start this was gonna be a bad idea. HOWEVER, we vacation w/ my family alot. So I didn't know how to tell DH absolutely not. I said it was a bad idea, but I couldn't say 100% no. The difference w/ my family is-- DH and them get along really well. There is no tension or bad blood there at all.

We've been home 5 days and haven't heard from the MIL. I'm sure the whole family has heard about what an awful person I am. Oh well, I'm used to the trash talk coming from her.

This trip did have the potential to ruin my marriage, which up until then has been pretty strong (we've been together 7 yrs, known one another 15 and dated in the past as well). I'm still alittle heartbroken by some of DH's actions. So, this trip really wasn't worth it. I usually rush right home, do my scrapbook and transfer the video to VHS so I can show everyone. I haven't done either, my hearts just not in it this time.

To everyone who told me they are going w/ inlaws soon-- I wish you the best. I know not all of them are like HER!!!!!

Thanks again!!!!

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Hmm..are you sure you won't sign up for the next survivor? After this, you can survive anything, right? I hope your next trip is sooo much better. Thanks for sharing with us.

 

[Del]

Thanks for telling your story...I waited for each section...thank you for being so timely. Take Care of Yourself!!

Del

 

[cocowum]

You are a saint. I think I would have killed my MIL and DH. Thanks for sharing!

 

[shatzjsl]

Kilee
Wish your trip had gone better! Thanks for the trip reports.

 

[Oh Kay!]

Wow! I am so impressed that you stuck it out. Perhaps you can laugh about it someday--like in 40 years.

Thanks for your story. Have a doubly wonderful time on your next trip.

 

[donac]

You deserve a great next trip. Thanks for the report.

Dona

 

[dsnycrzy]

Sorry your trip was ruined. You and your DH will get over the tension soon and hopefully he will join you and your sons next trip despite his comment and rekindle the magic.

 

[sk!mom]

I'm sorry that you had a disappointing trip. Everyone on these boards puts so much effort into planning a Disney trip that I think it is such a let down when things don't go well.

 

[Buzzfanmom]

I can't believe your trip. What a bummer. I had to chuckle because your MIL sounds like my MIL and mother combined. I don't know how you did it. Better luck next time. Thanks so much for the great report. It was a great read!

 

[BrerRabbit_fan]

I read each installment and thought you were a trooper. You really earned that trip.

 

[janets]

after all the planning and money it takes to make the trip, it's such a disappointment when it all goes wrong. Your MIL sure sounds like a piece of work. Too bad she doesn't see that she's wasting her life this way. She's still a young woman and has so many years ahead of her. The way she's going, they will just get worse and worse.

Hope you and ds get a chance to go back and have a magical trip the next time.

 

[MAGICinMYHEART]

kilee,

Well your saga was a sad one, and I actually feel sorry for your MIL . I am not sure how much longer your DH will have her, she seems to have embraced her ill health and uses it to justify her unappropriate actions and treatment of other people.

This is so sad, I am glad to say I have meet every few people that cause others grief or anguishment just for their own enjoyment, or justification. She must have a very sad and limited existence.

Best advise stay away from her, she seems to enjoy sucking life out of others, while opting to do nothing to enrich or extend her own. Never let any situation she trys to contrive interfere with your relationship with your DH, if you do she wins
MIL 100 Kilee and family 0.

Hoping your next Trip with DS will return the balance of Magic you missed on this trip.

 

[100%Disney]

I am sorry your trip was ruined. We went with my parents last May and it was pretty bad also. My mother is a tight-wad and didn't want to eat out at Disney she wanted to eat off-site, we were renting a 3 bedroom house for 10 days for $750, she thought that was too expensive. I will never do that again. The major difference is that I don't ever defend anyone in my family if they act inappropriately, I can see the behavior and I won't act as though it's fine.

 

[wilderness01]

I'm sorry your trip was ruined. Stay away from your MIL. She seems like a miserable person that is a real piece of work. Your husband is probably just looking for her approval which he will never get. Sad that is for sure.

 

[MelessaG]

((Kilee)) These trip reports made me feel tired to read. I know people like your MIL and I can't imagine taking them to the MK. Even my step-MIL wouldn't have behaved this badly, and she barely tolerates us. I hope you get to go again soon, and I hope your DH comes around and wants to go back too.

 

[lenshanem]

YIKES! Poor kilee, I can relate! Are you really me?!? LOL
Hang in there. Going to church and being reminded I should be forgiving is about the only thing that keeps me from going INSANE.

After getting the guilt trip regarding the trips I take the girls on with my family I finally broke down and have planned a trip with the in-laws for Vero Beach. I can tell you using our DVC points for a two bedroom on the in-laws is killing me......................
MIL is my and hubby's biggest sore spot. It appears she can do or say anything bad about me and that is OK. Believe me, I can relate!

 

[MandaMom]

Kilee

you need a vacation from your vacation. I am sorry that you didn't have a good time. I am sure many of us can relate to your situation.

Good Luck

MandaMOm

 

[Ron from Michigan]

Thank you for truly honest and wonderful trip reports. You now have a very good reason to be heading back to WDW in the future, minus your MIL.

 

[GreenEyes0205]

Sorry to hear that your trip wasn't magical. I hope your next trip with your son will make up for it. After all, you will be with someone who loves to be with you. Great reading, thanks!