WDW w/ the MIL AFTERTHOGHT

[kilee]

Once again, thanks for all the support-- you guys are truly great. We've been blessed w/ so many wonderful trips to Disney, that I'm figuring 1 bad one out of the whole bunch can't be too terrible right??

Anyhow, just over the weekend and tonight we've been watching our video and starting my scrapbook. Also, watching the travel channels WDW shows they've had on all day today. Anyhow, DH is ready to go again!! I knew he would. He keeps asking-- ready to go to Disney?? He broke down and told me he-himself wants to make up for all that went bad, and recapture that magic . So, we'll be going back. I'm thinking maybe early December.

I'm not a fan of a 100--- so I'm gonna have to wait until after summer at least. Anyhow, I'm trying to put together a trip to Cape Cod for the summer w/o the MIL!!!

THANKS AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!

 

[d.daniels]

I know exactly how you feel. our family went 5 years ago and my brother in law and my mom went and got into arguments til it escalated. my sister is now divorced. i could not believe people fighting at disney either, until that happend. we now go just o=us. i don't want ot ever go through that again...
i enjoyed reading your report.....

 

[scootron]

As I read your posts, it seemed like you worked a lot of things out by writing it down. I know it wasn't your dream trip by any means, but it seems to me that you salvaged as much as you could from the experience, and you also did your best to keep the negativity away from your DS. I say "Hats off to you!!" You did great under awful circumstances.

I'm so glad your husband is going to join you next time.

 

[kweaver]

I just read the whole saga...and all I can say is...I'm sorry. What an ordeal!

This was a great reminder for me to never invite my MIL (heck, I can't even imagine going with my own mother...and we get along great!). MIL is in her mid 60s...but acts 49...except she's always right, thinks kids are second class citizens and LOVES to tell us how to parent our children!

When DH told her we bought DVC this year, her response was, "Why on earth did you do that?" Nope...no free trips for her!

 

[Montana Minnies]

Thanks for the trip report. I read it all in one sitting and thought I hope our 8 member family trip goes all right next summer. Mom (84), brother,(57) who really does not want to go; SIL (49) hey, she's the same age as your MIL , eldest niece (26), who really is not to enthusiastic about meeting us there, middle niece (24), who is really looking forward to going and celebrating her birthday at WDW; youngest niece (14) who has never been before, very excited to go; my sister (54) very, very excited to go, been planning this trip for the last 3 years and me(44), just wishing it was Aug already.
At least you were able to enjoy a few magic moments, such as Ohana's and TL with your son. It's good to know that someone other than myself gets a little queasy on the TOT, but I will go on it again next summer, just for the memories.
Have fun planning for your trip in December and I was glad to read that your husband changed his mind about going again, I think you all will have a much better time.
Great Reading, thanks again for sharing your trip.

 

[want2go2disney]

When we were at WDW in October (03), I kept seeing extended families traveling together (sisters, brothers, grandparents, nieces, nephews, etc. etc).

I wondered what it would be like if we traveled with our family....Magical Gathering? No, it would most likely be like yours~Horrendous Gathering.

I read your entire trip report, laughing a lot, sympathizing for you since I have a MIL from he** too.

Do you have any pictures of your MIL that you could post? We'd love to see her on her ECV, cigarette in hand.

Dana

 

[MinnieFan4ever]

Kilee- Your trip report was like a bad movie. We just watched Trains Planes and Automobiles this weekend and I thought that was a bad trip.

I'm glad you were able to find some magic time with your son and that you will be going back soon with him. Did you ever find out what The Gift was that she never gave him?

Anyway, I'm glad you made it home and are planning your next trip.

(If that would have been me on the trip, my next trip would be in 25 years, maybe 15 on good behavior because my mother-in-law would be at the bottom of Bay Lake!)

 

[kilee]

I actually only ended up w/ 2 pictures of her. If I had a webhosting site I'd even post those. You'd see what I mean, she just even looks mean!!

Hey-- we were there in 10/03 too. 12 of us-- only this time it was my side of the family. Not 1 single fight-- and DH even said he'd do that one again!!!

I actually started having dreams every night of losing her, or sending her home, things to that extent. After like the 3rd night, I couldn't believe I couldn't shake them.

 

[want2go2disney]

Kilee,

I forgot to say that I busted out laughing (at work!) when you said you caught the footage of the "ECV Canopy vs. Evil Queen" incident.

If it was half as funny as what I imagined it as....

 

[4greatboys]

Im sorry your trip was not nearly as fun as it should have been because of your mil. Is your dh an only?? The way he caters to his mom kind of sounds like years of doing it. Just wondering. I love my family too but I wouldnt let them misbehave like that on a trip. But some people, my dh included, dont like to make any waves so they just bite their tongue.
My mil is going with is on our next trip. Now I will say she is a nice lady but she is crazy. Our last trip we had a layover in the airport she SANG and DANCED in front of the whole crowd (the attendants asked if anyone knew any good jokes so she popped up to sing and dance ). She personally went up and down the airplane to greet EVERYONE. She shook everyones hands goodbye at the end of the flight and she tries to get in every picture I take of the kids or of my family. SOME is okay ALL is not okay

 

[afsi3838]

Thank you for sharing your trip with us. You are def. a lot braver and strong than I would be given your situation. Your reports made me crack up one second and be in disbelief the other. One things for sure, you came out the bigger person by even taking her on this trip and allowing yourself to have "magic" in the midst of a not so positive vacation.
I wish you tons of fun and magical moment on your next one. Start planning now!
***just cutt out and crop your MIL head out of the pictures of your son and do your scrapbooking. Then take the ones of your MIL and make a nifty little dart board out of her head

 

[Irish Kelly]

Thanks so much for sharing the details of your trip with the MIL. I think you have the patience of a saint... Next time, don't let your husband invite his mother.

 

[HaleyB]

I just read the whole trip report in one sitting. DH is getting a bit antsy, wants to put DD to bed. There is a MIL from he** in my marriage but I have to admit it is my Mother. We moved across the country. Best thing we ever did for ourselves. She is so snide with my poor DH and she so brings out the worst in him. It is good for me to see things from the other side of the fence, sometimes I forget how much he puts up with (My Mother likes to come stay with us for about 3 weeks twice a year).

I grew up outside of Buffalo in Amherst/Williamsville area. So we would be neighbors, except we moved three times... but I will always consider Buffalo home... and it has been 25 years (so maybe you are to young) but there was a little local park (not Darian Lake, before that) and the comercial was some music I can still hear... da na na nana da na Fun! Wow! It must have been some subliminal thing because 25 years and I can still hear it. That and the It's a small World music...

 

[luvmy2sams]

Just read through your trip report in one sitting. I used to have a MIL like that. She would have been thrilled to split DH and I up. I finally decided that the best way to deal with her was to not give her the satisfaction of being the cause of problems between DH and I. She finally gave up.

You're a saint for putting up with her, and I'm sure your DH realizes that and will be duly appreciative. Good to hear that he's ready for a return trip. You'll be able to replace those horrid memories in no time.

 

[xraydave]

Wow, glad to hear I'm not the only one disappointed with a DW trip. We took both MIL's. Talk about stress. They are both very different and had different ideas about what OUR vacation should be. They helped a lot with the youngens and some of the finances but I'm still not sure it was worth it. Going back this year. We'll send them postcards.



1995 CBR Honeymoon
1997 Bro's house
2000 ditto
2001 alone off site
2002 MILs

 

[Pinnie]

WOW!!!!

All I can say is if that had been MY MIL I think she would have been thrown in the canal at the BCVs and fed to the gator.

It just goes to prove my point;

You choose your friends but are stuck with your relatives.

I travel with Friends almost ALL the time but I will NOT travel with anyone outside my DH and DSs from my family. It's just not worth the trouble.


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[mecook]

BLESS YOUR HEART!!!!!

I'm glad you get to go back soon and try to find the magic once more. I just thought DH made me miserable in October. DD(almost 10) and I spent 3 nights there week before last. I was SOOO GLAD that it didn't work out for one of her friends (and her mom) to go with us. We were able to do just what we wanted, when we wanted, and I catered to her desires on this trip. Melanie

 

[addlema]

After reading this I thank god for my cool in-laws. They love disney as much if not more then my wife and I and they were the ones dragging us around the parks practically

I'm so sorry you had a horrible time, and I hope your husband can get his love for disney back.

 

[Mary Anne]

I have really enjoyed your trip reports. Sorry that it wasn't magical for you. You are a saint for dealing with MIL. Mine would have been locked up in the hotel room after the 3rd day.

 

[kilee]

Thanks everyone for reading and sympathizing!! I really enjoy the comments!! I have to say the dart board one is tempting!!!!