I wish that it was that easy. With her she doesn't remember anything, unfortunately that is a result of many years of drinking too much

I've pretty much given up. I just hope that this year we don't hear from her like we did last year. (drunk from the hospital) part of the reason I really wanted to leave this year was the crappy last 2 years with her. The year after my dad died we shared the holiday with MIL and FIL and she kept making comments that were like knives in my heart. Lots of comments about how much fun it was for her to see the kids snow skiing just like her boys did when they were little, and all I could think about was how my dad would never see my kids water skiing, just like we did when we were little. Just typing this makes me cry for missing my dad again. Holidays are so hard when they are spent missing loved ones.
I'm sad for V, Deb and Michelle. It's so hard during the holidays
now now, just remember your lovely holiday in Spain, look at those pictures and you will instead have happy memories instead of envy.
I hope our travels are safe, I tried to avoid snow spots for all my families flights, but it snowed in Las Vegas and one person flies thru there
Time to get started on dinner, pork chops, green beans and crossiants. YUM