WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 11

[iankh]

I know I mentioned this to Ian privately... but since we're talking about it...sort of... there was a "situation" that arose out of my fathers funeral... and it was probably a very good thing that I wasn't there to witness it...

My wonderful stepmother very nicely handed the bill to the funeral to my siblings on their way out the door (along with my grandmothers portrait and a few other personal items...yes, she took the picture off the wall and handed it to them... ) Seems she didn't expect to have to pay for a funeral and bought a boat last year instead... (the man was 77 and has been sick for years... )

IIIIIIII went ballistic over Xmas when it was mentioned to me... It seems I now owe $1250 (my part...) for a party I didn't even attend... I asked them why they planned such a large event if there was no money... (the second memorial in Jersey has now been indefinately postponed...my suggestion...)

Now this is a woman who now solely owns a WATERFRONT house on the Chesapeake Bay...(according to the will...) and I'm told she has no money... I told them to tell her to sell the boat... and then the house... (Can you tell we don't like each other...)

My brother asked what he should have done with the bill... I told him he should have handed it right back to her!!!

AND... on top of that... his ashes showed up at my brothers house on Xmas eve... My niece signed for them (UPS...) thinking that it was a Christmas gift for someone... I laughed and announced to mom... "Look... Dad made the party..."...

And with that... he has alienated EVERYONE on his side of the family BUT wants to be buried with his parents which wouldn't be a problem except his cousin (who he supremely embarrassed in a letter to alot of people several years ago...) holds the deed to the plot. My brothers don't want to have to call Dotty to ask her, so I guess it will be me in the future... until then, Dad's taken up residence in my brothers closet...

My darling stepmother called last week to tell us that she had found his old wedding ring (from my mother) she is very nicely sending it north... I have mom's engagement ring (it was my gift on my 40th birthday...) so I told my brother that I will keep them together if he wants and can pass them on to one of the grandchildren later.

And you wonder why on the other side of the family... we tend to get drunk at funerals..

As I was at the time you told me .. I'm still speechless.

Unfortunately sometimes the worst (and best) comes out in people at times like this.

 

[Tink rules]

Ahhhh... but if you knew my step mother...

 

[nskjerven]

Michelle: Shocked and Dumbfounded here too. I guess I would take the low road and mail back the bill to StepMo(nster). If she inheritied his estate she can handle the service and burial. They were married for a good number of years, right? So strange

 

[HollyTyler]

I know I mentioned this to Ian privately... but since we're talking about it...sort of... there was a "situation" that arose out of my fathers funeral... and it was probably a very good thing that I wasn't there to witness it...

My wonderful stepmother very nicely handed the bill to the funeral to my siblings on their way out the door (along with my grandmothers portrait and a few other personal items...yes, she took the picture off the wall and handed it to them... ) Seems she didn't expect to have to pay for a funeral and bought a boat last year instead... (the man was 77 and has been sick for years... )

IIIIIIII went ballistic over Xmas when it was mentioned to me... It seems I now owe $1250 (my part...) for a party I didn't even attend... I asked them why they planned such a large event if there was no money... (the second memorial in Jersey has now been indefinately postponed...my suggestion...)

Now this is a woman who now solely owns a WATERFRONT house on the Chesapeake Bay...(according to the will...) and I'm told she has no money... I told them to tell her to sell the boat... and then the house... (Can you tell we don't like each other...)

My brother asked what he should have done with the bill... I told him he should have handed it right back to her!!!

AND... on top of that... his ashes showed up at my brothers house on Xmas eve... My niece signed for them (UPS...) thinking that it was a Christmas gift for someone... I laughed and announced to mom... "Look... Dad made the party..."...

And with that... he has alienated EVERYONE on his side of the family BUT wants to be buried with his parents which wouldn't be a problem except his cousin (who he supremely embarrassed in a letter to alot of people several years ago...) holds the deed to the plot. My brothers don't want to have to call Dotty to ask her, so I guess it will be me in the future... until then, Dad's taken up residence in my brothers closet...

My darling stepmother called last week to tell us that she had found his old wedding ring (from my mother) she is very nicely sending it north... I have mom's engagement ring (it was my gift on my 40th birthday...) so I told my brother that I will keep them together if he wants and can pass them on to one of the grandchildren later.

And you wonder why on the other side of the family... we tend to get drunk at funerals..

Michelle, I'm sorry you have to deal with all that crap. I've learned that funerals can bring out this kind of garbage. I saw a big split in my dad's family with his siblings when their dad died, and things came to a head again when their mom died about 10 years later. It's awful. And again, something similar when my mom and her 2 sisters' dad died (but not too extreme) and then when their mom died just 3 1/2 years ago, things got ugly again and have stayed that way with one sister. At least I have no siblings from my mom to deal with when it's her time, but it will be ugly with all my steps when my dad and stepmom go, since I'm the evil one who moved away.

 

[HollyTyler]

To brighten things, I have a funny story. Today at Tyler's party, while I was sitting by him, he kept leaning over and whispering secrets to me. He pointed out 2 girls and told me their names. Then he pointed out his friend Larry. He told me those 2 girls chase him and Larry every day on the playground because the girls told Tyler they think he's "pretty". I had to correct him and told him, "No, girls are pretty, boys are cute or handsome" and he told me that's what he meant. BUT the point is, I'm glad he's finally able to be a part of "normal" kid activities!

 

[surf2di4]

I know I mentioned this to Ian privately... but since we're talking about it...sort of... there was a "situation" that arose out of my fathers funeral... and it was probably a very good thing that I wasn't there to witness it...

My wonderful stepmother very nicely handed the bill to the funeral to my siblings on their way out the door (along with my grandmothers portrait and a few other personal items...yes, she took the picture off the wall and handed it to them... ) Seems she didn't expect to have to pay for a funeral and bought a boat last year instead... (the man was 77 and has been sick for years... )

IIIIIIII went ballistic over Xmas when it was mentioned to me... It seems I now owe $1250 (my part...) for a party I didn't even attend... I asked them why they planned such a large event if there was no money... (the second memorial in Jersey has now been indefinately postponed...my suggestion...)

My brother asked what he should have done with the bill... I told him he should have handed it right back to her!!!


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hi tink
am curious how is she not responsible for the BILL....if i give the bill for my dinner to some1 at the next table does it make it their responsibility??

karl

 

[HollyTyler]

I'm going to be bad and go get supper from Arby's. This week (you gals will all understand what I mean) is a week I just can't fight my cravings. Oh well, I figure I'm still doing better because I used to eat like this and NOT exercise, so with doing the daily workout, I still must be a bit healthier. At least I hope. And I don't like french fries anymore, so it's just the sandwich, so that's got to be better than when I used to eat it with fries. At least I hope. And I sent some of the leftover cookies from Tyler's party home with him to his dad's and the rest of the leftovers are sitting in my car where I can't easily get to them and I'll put them in the kitchen at work, so they'll disappear very quickly!

 

[JLSE50]

I'm so glad I went to Tyler's party, he was so happy to see me! I got the biggest hug. His teacher asked me if I'd help by setting up all the food outside the classroom on 2 tables, and as I did that, it was fun to watch Tyler through the window, seeming to enjoy himself.

For the first time, he's allowed to sit with other kids. In kindergarten and first grade at his old school, he sat at a desk by himself close to the teacher because that's just what worked best and he was hurting the other kids, etc. But now, his desk is in a group of 4 desks combined, and his aide sits right next to him.

A few kids asked "Are you Tyler's mom?" and I heard lots of things like, "He's my friend, my name is ________." And nice things like that. Before now, kids would run up to me and tell me what Tyler did to them.

I had a long talk with the special ed teacher at the end of the day, and she told me she doesn't see any of the anxiety the prior school documented, and she hasn't seen him even try to hurt people like he did before. She says he sometimes will shoulder kids out of his way a bit on days that he's frustrated, but nothing that hurts anybody. She told me he did punch his aide (this Tuesday), but she says that's what they consider one of the job hazards because it does happen with the kids in her room.

She says he has no problem with focus, but they break down the day into short periods of work, followed by a break, usually a break after 15 minutes of work, so he has no problem focusing. They've just started trying to do two 15 minute chunks of work before he gets a break and that's not working very well. That's when he gets angry and aggressive, but they understand why and will just keep working on trying to get him to that goal and then will just keep pushing towards a new goal. I'm very happy with what they're doing!

Such great news!! Tell him Bobby Banana and I are proud of him

 

[JLSE50]

To brighten things, I have a funny story. Today at Tyler's party, while I was sitting by him, he kept leaning over and whispering secrets to me. He pointed out 2 girls and told me their names. Then he pointed out his friend Larry. He told me those 2 girls chase him and Larry every day on the playground because the girls told Tyler they think he's "pretty". I had to correct him and told him, "No, girls are pretty, boys are cute or handsome" and he told me that's what he meant. BUT the point is, I'm glad he's finally able to be a part of "normal" kid activities!

 

[JLSE50]

Ian, Michelle, Holly and anyone else

for getting through funerals.

People can be so odd.




The smartest old person I knew sent a letter to all his descendants. If they wanted anything, they had to come to see him, sign their name on a piece of tape and put it on the back of the item. No one could tag something for someone else. When he was done with things he mailed or shipped them off. If he was still using them, they were shipped off when he died. Shipping expenses were paid out of his estate first, then money was given to some colleges and charities. I do not think there was much money left, but everyone got an equal share of what was left no matter their age.

He had 13 kids and each of them had a couple kids or more so he left a HUGE family and no one fought.

.

 

[HollyTyler]

Such great news!! Tell him Bobby Banana and I are proud of him

I'll tell him for sure!

 

[HollyTyler]

I just discovered something great! I love the mashed potato bowl from KFC, but always feel guilty after eating it because it's so much food and so filling. Well, they now have a "snack size" bowl! It's the same size bowl they use for individual sides, and I'd guess it's about 1/2 the size of the full-size mashed potato bowl. Perfect! That leaves me room to eat a biscuit with it. Yummy!

 

[HollyTyler]

Gee, I sure have been gabby today! Sorry everybody.

 

[HollyTyler]

Oh my gosh, the opening shots of the new location in Survivor are BEAUTIFUL! Wow!

 

[HollyTyler]

I've always wanted to be on Survivor. Maybe I should apply for it again if I get in shape.

 

[iankh]

To brighten things, I have a funny story. Today at Tyler's party, while I was sitting by him, he kept leaning over and whispering secrets to me. He pointed out 2 girls and told me their names. Then he pointed out his friend Larry. He told me those 2 girls chase him and Larry every day on the playground because the girls told Tyler they think he's "pretty". I had to correct him and told him, "No, girls are pretty, boys are cute or handsome" and he told me that's what he meant. BUT the point is, I'm glad he's finally able to be a part of "normal" kid activities!

It sort of makes me wonder if gossip is instinctual. I bet it is.

 

[Tigger1221]

I had to go look at Moe again, he looks so silly sitting in the sink! And a bit grumpy too!

He also sleeps in the tub. I gave him a bed but he likes the sink and tub. Oh well, he is very goofy. He says "me" instead of "meow".

 

[Tigger1221]

Holly- I am glad to hear Tyler is doing much better.

Michelle and anyone else who needs them

 

[HollyTyler]

It sort of makes me wonder if gossip is instinctual. I bet it is.

I think so. At least it seems that way to me.

 

[HollyTyler]

He also sleeps in the tub. I gave him a bed but he likes the sink and tub. Oh well, he is very goofy. He says "me" instead of "meow".