WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 11

[TammyAlphabet]

Michelle I hope you are feeling better. And Connie, here's a hug:

 

[scottishwee35]

Today I went to funeral... as I didn't want to... as got the cold...

but Alison and David took me to the funeral..

It was my good friend Audrey lost her mother in law due to stroke for 13 years...

I glad that I went as it was really lovely services at Christ of Jesus Church and it was funny too...

Alison said to me that she never laughed at the funeral so I...

then I didn't want to go to cermation after that and Alison and David droped me off at my house and I took car to the hotel for tea and sandwiches...

Because Keith had the Scottish show at school.. So I can drive over after the hotel...

Another funeral tomorrow as I don't think I go but Ian is going because he was his workmates at old job... Ian said not to wear black ties and he want everybody wear colourful ties... Strange...

Now I have bad headache... . I phoned my work that I won't able to go to work tonight....

The weather was snowing this morning then changes to raining... what a stupid weather....

Scottishwee35

 

[granmaz]

Michelle I hope you are feeling better. And Connie, here's a hug:

Hi Tammy.

Today I went to funeral... as I didn't want to... as got the cold...

but Alison and David took me to the funeral..

It was my good friend Audrey lost her mother in law due to stroke for 13 years...

I glad that I went as it was really lovely services at Christ of Jesus Church and it was funny too...

Alison said to me that she never laughed at the funeral so I...

then I didn't want to go to cermation after that and Alison and David droped me off at my house and I took car to the hotel for tea and sandwiches...

Because Keith had the Scottish show at school.. So I can drive over after the hotel...

Another funeral tomorrow as I don't think I go but Ian is going because he was his workmates at old job... Ian said not to wear black ties and he want everybody wear colourful ties... Strange...

Now I have bad headache... . I phoned my work that I won't able to go to work tonight....

The weather was snowing this morning then changes to raining... what a stupid weather....

Scottishwee35

Sorry you have a headache. Funerals are stressful.

 

[HollyTyler]

You know, I kinda expected it. So I was more p issed at myself than I was sad. I went against my own gut feeling, and I know better! But I'm about to go against my gut feeling again! Jenni just got a "new" page after completely deleting it days after the afore mentioned incident. I'm gonna request to be her "friend" again just to see what happens.

Bubba, I know this hurts you, and you might get hurt again, but I believe you're doing the right thing by trying again. I think she just might be very immature and you just might have to be the bigger person here and take the initiative. It might be sort of a test (subconsciously, on her part), to see if you really do care, I don't know. But it's worth it for you to keep on trying. Your adorable little grandson deserves to have a wonderful, caring big teddy bear like you in his life.

 

[HollyTyler]

I need a group hug! I took my mom to the lawyer's office today to get some additional protection for her in case of her incapacity....like Power of Financial Attorney, Power of Medical Attorney, pre-need guardianship papers, etc. and to have the lawyer go over her existing will and investments to see if they meet Florida law.

OH. MY GOODNESS, it was so stressfull! I know it needs to be done, but she is going into "old age" fighting and kicking all the way. Poor Mom, when she feels threatened, she gets very obnoxious and goes into denial. Guess who gets the brunt of her disapproval? Me. She is having such a hard time thinkign that she might not be in control of her life all the way through. But, I feel a LOT more comfortable knowing that I won't have to go in front of a judge when the problems arise to get the care she may need.

Anyway, we did it. But you want to know what's funny? (there's always a funny part of any story) When we left and it was time to pay for the time with the lawyer, Mom says, Connie will pay, after all SHE's the one who wanted to do this!


My mom can be amazing sometimes!

Oh,by the way,when I came home and started talking to Chuck about all this, he was SO understanding, and he really knew where she was coming from! He can be so supportive sometimesQ

Connie, I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. Love Mom's comment to the lawyer about you paying! So glad you have Chuck to help you through this. I hope I find an understanding guy someday to be there for me through tough times.

 

[HollyTyler]

Deborah, sorry about having to go to the funerals. I hope you feel better soon. I called in today too because of a migraine. It's the first one I've had in quite a long time though, so I'm not complaining.

 

[HollyTyler]

My head feels like it will explode. I set my alarm for 12:30pm, so I just woke up 20 minutes ago and my brain feels very fuzzy. I have to go to Tyler's classroom Valentine's Day party today at 1:30pm. He doesn't know I'm coming, other than to drop off the cookies and his special cookies on a stick that we bought for his 2 teachers and his aide. He also wanted to give one to his former kindergarten teacher, so we dropped hers off yesterday after school.

Some of the kids were still being picked up by parents, so he got to see some of his old friends. He wasn't too thrilled, but the kids were so happy to see him! Each one we saw ran up to him, yelling "HI TYLER!!!" It was nice to see that they really do like him, despite his issues.

We saw his old 1st grade teacher, the social worker, and the special ed teacher (Team Tyler, they were called) and they were thrilled to see him! His former teacher took us to her room because she said she had a surprise for him. Hanging on her classroom wall was a picture of him that was in the paper for the "Block Kids" lego building event! She had individual letters that the kids in her class wrote to him about it! That was so nice, it almost made me cry. She was planning on sending them over to him at the new school.

The special ed teacher ran to his room quickly and came back with a cool Batman valentine for Tyler, a giant pile of candy that was too much for Tyler to hold in both hands (we found a bag for it) and a fudgesicle! You should have seen the look on Tyler's face! Again, I almost cried! They all miss him and still care about him. The special ed teacher has come a couple times to visit him at his new school and helped him to math one day, and he's planning on coming to have lunch with Tyler soon.

 

[Tigger1221]

Monica- The cat (really a kitten) we are fostering has lived in a cage for the past 10 months. All his brothers and sisters got a home except him. He doesn't like humans. I know the lady who runs the shelter and she needed someone to work with him, so he came home with us. He is really cute but HUGE and hard to control.

 

[granmaz]

Monica- The cat (really a kitten) we are fostering has lived in a cage for the past 10 months. All his brothers and sisters got a home except him. He doesn't like humans. I know the lady who runs the shelter and she needed someone to work with him, so he came home with us. He is really cute but HUGE and hard to control.

Best of luck - you really must love cats to do that. Poor thing living in a cage.

 

[Tigger1221]

We really do love cats and really hope we can help Moe. Here is a pic of the new monster.

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Also here is the tree in the back

 

[HollyTyler]

Jill, good luck with Moe. What a sad life he's had until you took him in. And WOW about that tree! What a pain to clean up. And the fence. That stinks!

 

[HollyTyler]

I had to go look at Moe again, he looks so silly sitting in the sink! And a bit grumpy too!

 

[HollyTyler]

I think my head is finally done hurting. Figures....it's the end of the workday. When I called in and left a message saying I wouldn't be in, I did say I'd try to come in later in the day if my head stopped hurting. Oh well, I'm just glad it's done.

 

[HollyTyler]

I'm so glad I went to Tyler's party, he was so happy to see me! I got the biggest hug. His teacher asked me if I'd help by setting up all the food outside the classroom on 2 tables, and as I did that, it was fun to watch Tyler through the window, seeming to enjoy himself.

For the first time, he's allowed to sit with other kids. In kindergarten and first grade at his old school, he sat at a desk by himself close to the teacher because that's just what worked best and he was hurting the other kids, etc. But now, his desk is in a group of 4 desks combined, and his aide sits right next to him.

A few kids asked "Are you Tyler's mom?" and I heard lots of things like, "He's my friend, my name is ________." And nice things like that. Before now, kids would run up to me and tell me what Tyler did to them.

I had a long talk with the special ed teacher at the end of the day, and she told me she doesn't see any of the anxiety the prior school documented, and she hasn't seen him even try to hurt people like he did before. She says he sometimes will shoulder kids out of his way a bit on days that he's frustrated, but nothing that hurts anybody. She told me he did punch his aide (this Tuesday), but she says that's what they consider one of the job hazards because it does happen with the kids in her room.

She says he has no problem with focus, but they break down the day into short periods of work, followed by a break, usually a break after 15 minutes of work, so he has no problem focusing. They've just started trying to do two 15 minute chunks of work before he gets a break and that's not working very well. That's when he gets angry and aggressive, but they understand why and will just keep working on trying to get him to that goal and then will just keep pushing towards a new goal. I'm very happy with what they're doing!

 

[granmaz]

I'm so glad I went to Tyler's party, he was so happy to see me! I got the biggest hug. His teacher asked me if I'd help by setting up all the food outside the classroom on 2 tables, and as I did that, it was fun to watch Tyler through the window, seeming to enjoy himself.

For the first time, he's allowed to sit with other kids. In kindergarten and first grade at his old school, he sat at a desk by himself close to the teacher because that's just what worked best and he was hurting the other kids, etc. But now, his desk is in a group of 4 desks combined, and his aide sits right next to him.

A few kids asked "Are you Tyler's mom?" and I heard lots of things like, "He's my friend, my name is ________." And nice things like that. Before now, kids would run up to me and tell me what Tyler did to them.

I had a long talk with the special ed teacher at the end of the day, and she told me she doesn't see any of the anxiety the prior school documented, and she hasn't seen him even try to hurt people like he did before. She says he sometimes will shoulder kids out of his way a bit on days that he's frustrated, but nothing that hurts anybody. She told me he did punch his aide (this Tuesday), but she says that's what they consider one of the job hazards because it does happen with the kids in her room.

She says he has no problem with focus, but they break down the day into short periods of work, followed by a break, usually a break after 15 minutes of work, so he has no problem focusing. They've just started trying to do two 15 minute chunks of work before he gets a break and that's not working very well. That's when he gets angry and aggressive, but they understand why and will just keep working on trying to get him to that goal and then will just keep pushing towards a new goal. I'm very happy with what they're doing!

Wow Holly, that is so good to read. sounds like you have found the right place for him and he is beginning to thrive.

 

[Tink rules]

Michelle, I posted and ran! sorry you are awake - I guess you still are poorly.

Well, I'm sick, but I'll have to check the account to see if I'm Poorly...

I think there's nothing ready with being prepared.

In the case of my father, everything was prearranged, for a number reasons. Partly because he was in the spend down phase and it was prudent to do it before the funds ran out and we needed to apply for assistance.

A larger part was because, traditional Jews bury within 24 hours. No wiggle room, that's it, under within 24 hours.

When my mother passed away suddenly and unexpected, I was quite unprepared to make funeral arrangements in Texas for a funeral in New Jersey hours later. My mother passed away at 2AM early on a Sunday morning and was buried in New Jersey at noon on Monday.

I also had to get myself, my father and my sister to New Jersey. Alert the family, and insure that there was a minyan (prayer quota, 10 bar mitzvahed males) so that there could be a proper funeral.

It was emotionally stressful for me in I can't even count how many ways. I had to be practical and take hold of everything and so, had to suppress everything I was feeling and block it out.

I convinced my father that it might be prudent to arrange as much beforehand, so as to avoid chaos. He was resistant, gave in when I told him we might get a better "deal" (I did).

When my father passed away, it removed some of the emotional stress.

On a lighter note, and in the tradition of our family, 2 funny things did happen around my mother's funeral.

I was making air reservations to Newark, NJ and called some airline. I asked about airfare and explained the situation and said to the res agent, "We are bereaved on a budget."

I'm not sure how, but we had dueling rabbis at the graveside. Two showed up. Both gave eulogies. We were too stunned to say anything.

One of the rabbis gave a eulogy about how sweet my mother was. The entire family started glancing at each other. A word no one who met her would ever use, was "sweet." Later, my father, sister and I were sitting in Newark airport waiting for our flight, my father said, "What that rabbi said was very nice (long pause), I don't know who he was talking about, but it was very nice."

Ian... you make even the serious things in life a bit lighter...

We were prepared for my grandparents, that's how I know what to do... my siblings have no clue.

We usually end up having the traditional or untraditional "Irish Wake" - it starts out sad and serious and it turns into a party... I guess you have to celebrate life...

so beautiful

so beautiful

remind me about Puppy Love which I have not finish yet Ian was right he said I won't finish by Xmas I told him wrong but he is right enough...

Deborah... you just didn't tell him WHICH Christmas!!!

 

[Tink rules]

Michelle I hope you are feeling better. And Connie, here's a hug:

Thanks Tammy... still sore... will give it until tomorrow... then I'll haul my butt to the Dr. Like I want to see them for the second time in a couple of weeks...

Today I went to funeral... as I didn't want to... as got the cold...

but Alison and David took me to the funeral..

It was my good friend Audrey lost her mother in law due to stroke for 13 years...

I glad that I went as it was really lovely services at Christ of Jesus Church and it was funny too...

Alison said to me that she never laughed at the funeral so I...

then I didn't want to go to cermation after that and Alison and David droped me off at my house and I took car to the hotel for tea and sandwiches...

Because Keith had the Scottish show at school.. So I can drive over after the hotel...

Another funeral tomorrow as I don't think I go but Ian is going because he was his workmates at old job... Ian said not to wear black ties and he want everybody wear colourful ties... Strange...

Now I have bad headache... . I phoned my work that I won't able to go to work tonight....

The weather was snowing this morning then changes to raining... what a stupid weather....

Scottishwee35

Sorry about the funerals... and the headache...

My head feels like it will explode. I set my alarm for 12:30pm, so I just woke up 20 minutes ago and my brain feels very fuzzy. I have to go to Tyler's classroom Valentine's Day party today at 1:30pm. He doesn't know I'm coming, other than to drop off the cookies and his special cookies on a stick that we bought for his 2 teachers and his aide. He also wanted to give one to his former kindergarten teacher, so we dropped hers off yesterday after school.

Some of the kids were still being picked up by parents, so he got to see some of his old friends. He wasn't too thrilled, but the kids were so happy to see him! Each one we saw ran up to him, yelling "HI TYLER!!!" It was nice to see that they really do like him, despite his issues.

We saw his old 1st grade teacher, the social worker, and the special ed teacher (Team Tyler, they were called) and they were thrilled to see him! His former teacher took us to her room because she said she had a surprise for him. Hanging on her classroom wall was a picture of him that was in the paper for the "Block Kids" lego building event! She had individual letters that the kids in her class wrote to him about it! That was so nice, it almost made me cry. She was planning on sending them over to him at the new school.

The special ed teacher ran to his room quickly and came back with a cool Batman valentine for Tyler, a giant pile of candy that was too much for Tyler to hold in both hands (we found a bag for it) and a fudgesicle! You should have seen the look on Tyler's face! Again, I almost cried! They all miss him and still care about him. The special ed teacher has come a couple times to visit him at his new school and helped him to math one day, and he's planning on coming to have lunch with Tyler soon.

Sounds Good Holly!!!

Monica- The cat (really a kitten) we are fostering has lived in a cage for the past 10 months. All his brothers and sisters got a home except him. He doesn't like humans. I know the lady who runs the shelter and she needed someone to work with him, so he came home with us. He is really cute but HUGE and hard to control.

We really do love cats and really hope we can help Moe. Here is a pic of the new monster.

[/IMG]

Also here is the tree in the back

Looks like he has found a comfy place to snooze...

I think my head is finally done hurting. Figures....it's the end of the workday. When I called in and left a message saying I wouldn't be in, I did say I'd try to come in later in the day if my head stopped hurting. Oh well, I'm just glad it's done.

How's the headache?

I'm so glad I went to Tyler's party, he was so happy to see me! I got the biggest hug. His teacher asked me if I'd help by setting up all the food outside the classroom on 2 tables, and as I did that, it was fun to watch Tyler through the window, seeming to enjoy himself.

For the first time, he's allowed to sit with other kids. In kindergarten and first grade at his old school, he sat at a desk by himself close to the teacher because that's just what worked best and he was hurting the other kids, etc. But now, his desk is in a group of 4 desks combined, and his aide sits right next to him.

A few kids asked "Are you Tyler's mom?" and I heard lots of things like, "He's my friend, my name is ________." And nice things like that. Before now, kids would run up to me and tell me what Tyler did to them.

I had a long talk with the special ed teacher at the end of the day, and she told me she doesn't see any of the anxiety the prior school documented, and she hasn't seen him even try to hurt people like he did before. She says he sometimes will shoulder kids out of his way a bit on days that he's frustrated, but nothing that hurts anybody. She told me he did punch his aide (this Tuesday), but she says that's what they consider one of the job hazards because it does happen with the kids in her room.

She says he has no problem with focus, but they break down the day into short periods of work, followed by a break, usually a break after 15 minutes of work, so he has no problem focusing. They've just started trying to do two 15 minute chunks of work before he gets a break and that's not working very well. That's when he gets angry and aggressive, but they understand why and will just keep working on trying to get him to that goal and then will just keep pushing towards a new goal. I'm very happy with what they're doing!

I'm glad to see he's doing well... Maybe he was afraid to go back to the old school because of old memories... but he's making progress and that's the best part... small steps can turn into a journey...

 

[HollyTyler]

Wow Holly, that is so good to read. sounds like you have found the right place for him and he is beginning to thrive.

I think so too. He's happier too. Yesterday he was frustrated and grumpy when I picked him up because he felt the teacher wasn't listening to him when he said something to her just before he came out of the classroom. I told him that at the end of the day, she has 19 little voices surrounding her while she's trying to get them out the door, so she really might not have heard him. I managed to get him calmed down quickly enough. But he's been happy all the rest of the days when I pick him up after school.

 

[HollyTyler]

How's the headache?

It's gone. I'm about to do my workout, so hopefully it doesn't come back with all that jumping around.

Need to get the workout done so I can have supper and just relax the rest of the evening. Can't wait to watch Survivor!!!!

 

[Tink rules]

I know I mentioned this to Ian privately... but since we're talking about it...sort of... there was a "situation" that arose out of my fathers funeral... and it was probably a very good thing that I wasn't there to witness it...

My wonderful stepmother very nicely handed the bill to the funeral to my siblings on their way out the door (along with my grandmothers portrait and a few other personal items...yes, she took the picture off the wall and handed it to them... ) Seems she didn't expect to have to pay for a funeral and bought a boat last year instead... (the man was 77 and has been sick for years... )

IIIIIIII went ballistic over Xmas when it was mentioned to me... It seems I now owe $1250 (my part...) for a party I didn't even attend... I asked them why they planned such a large event if there was no money... (the second memorial in Jersey has now been indefinately postponed...my suggestion...)

Now this is a woman who now solely owns a WATERFRONT house on the Chesapeake Bay...(according to the will...) and I'm told she has no money... I told them to tell her to sell the boat... and then the house... (Can you tell we don't like each other...)

My brother asked what he should have done with the bill... I told him he should have handed it right back to her!!!

AND... on top of that... his ashes showed up at my brothers house on Xmas eve... My niece signed for them (UPS...) thinking that it was a Christmas gift for someone... I laughed and announced to mom... "Look... Dad made the party..."...

And with that... he has alienated EVERYONE on his side of the family BUT wants to be buried with his parents which wouldn't be a problem except his cousin (who he supremely embarrassed in a letter to alot of people several years ago...) holds the deed to the plot. My brothers don't want to have to call Dotty to ask her, so I guess it will be me in the future... until then, Dad's taken up residence in my brothers closet...

My darling stepmother called last week to tell us that she had found his old wedding ring (from my mother) she is very nicely sending it north... I have mom's engagement ring (it was my gift on my 40th birthday...) so I told my brother that I will keep them together if he wants and can pass them on to one of the grandchildren later.

And you wonder why on the other side of the family... we tend to get drunk at funerals..