Washing Feet at Wedding

[KAMLEM]

And some people may consider you a <bad word> because you had your first kiss at age 12...

I think you're misreading because it was NOT me who said they had their first kiss at age 12, it was the same poster that I was quoting.

 

[WowLookAtThat]

Agreed. I love it when DH holds my hand.

Since I've been married as long as she's been alive, I think I'll take marriage advice from someone who actually knows what they're talking about.

I have to admit I still get that little tingle in my heart when my husband holds my hand at a movie. It doesn't happen often so its a bit of a surprise and its nice.

 

[SaraJayne]

I have to admit I still get that little tingle in my heart when my husband holds my hand at a movie. It doesn't happen often so its a bit of a surprise and its nice.

Me too.

And even though it embarasses him, I tell him he still gives me butterflies.

 

[Magic Mom]

I'm with you. I love when my husband reaches out for my hand when we are walking along. There's something just warm and romantic about it. I've been married almost twice as long as she's been alive, so I'm not too inclined to care what her opinions are on relationships.

Me too.

 

[dngnb8]

Agreed. I love it when DH holds my hand.

Since I've been married as long as she's been alive, I think I'll take marriage advice from someone who actually knows what they're talking about.

Considering the polarizing nature of her responses, I highly suspect troll. Who knows.

 

[MrsPete]

I have bad opinons about promise rings to be honest because I believe that it puts too much adult symbolism on a young adult relationship.

I agree. If you're ready to be engaged, be engaged. If not, don't do something that's a fake-y engagement, an engaged-to-be-engaged.

Doesn't matter that I'm fifteen, it's possible to be in a relationship that young.

Yes, but a 15-year old relationship should consist of the boy coming over to your house for dinner, you going to the movies with his family -- you were clearly in over your head; where an older, more mature person would've known how to extricate herself from that relationship when the red flags appeared, you lumbered on down the road towards trouble (for example, an older woman wouldn't have fallen for the I'll-kill-myself line). At 15 you can't be expected to know how to spot these things, but someone should've been watching after you. Someone should've cared enough to prevent you from putting yourself into dangerous spots. You're below the age of consent, so you have the option of criminal charges.

I urge you to back up and take a look at where you are and where you're headed. If you consider holding hands to be the "new ten foot away", you really aren't on a good tract for life, and you can expect more of what you've already experience -- but you don't have to stay on that path. You can make better choices.

This would bug me too. Not because they saved themselves, etc but because they wouldn't shut up about it. Everyone should make the choices that are best for them but that doesn't mean everyone wants you to broadcast it 24/7. I'd also feel the same way about a couple who went on & on about their sex life being so great.

Absolultely -- the couple has no business broadcasting these things to their guests.

 

[DebIreland]

I really think it's time mom sat her daughter down for a talk about humility and the inappropriateness of 1) divulging so much information and 2) arguing with adults about mature subjects on the internet.

Well said.

 

[disykat]

TMI! My husband and I waited to have sex until we were married. We certainly didn't announce it at our wedding.

 

[ilovemk76]

TMI! My husband and I waited to have sex until we were married. We certainly didn't announce it at our wedding.

But you just announced it on the internet!!

 

[indimom]

But you just announced it on the internet!!

Twenty year old news isn't really news anymore.

Dang, we might need a "Did you wait for marriage" poll.

 

[disykat]

Twenty year old news isn't really news anymore.

Dang, we might need a "Did you wait for marriage" poll.

Nor is mentioning something in a discussion on an annoymous forum the same as making an "announcement."

We've discussed this many times on the DIS. I have no problem talking about my sex life (or lack of!) or my values having to do with sex in a conversation. Neither do most people. That's very different than having them announced during a religious ceremony.

 

[SaraJayne]

Twenty year old news isn't really news anymore.

Dang, we might need a "Did you wait for marriage" poll.

Pretty sure that's been done once or twice already.

 

[Alyssa88]

I am an atheist and femnist. I ee nothing wrong with this ceremony. Both individuals did it, it is a nice sentiment. If it were one doing it and not the other, I'd take issue (unless it was the man who washed the woman's feet, lol).

For me, sex would play a role in commment (and has). I also would want to live with him first. I want to be sure of what I am getting into. There is nothing wrong with more traditional beliefs. It depends on what works for the couple. I am also known to have an issue with commitment, and do not see marriage (lifelong commitment, maybe) in my future, lol. I am 23, so on a much different level than most of the women here.

I am very concerned over what this young poster is expressing here. Regardless of how much truth has played a role in her posts, she clearly needs more guidance. She is posting so much personal information. Some lessons on self-preservation may be necessary. Please be careful of what you post!

 

[sookie]

I've seen this done, though not at a wedding. It's basically something that is intended to symbolize that neither person is superior to the other, and that they should serve each other. The basis for it is a story in the Bible.

Jesus washed the feet of his followers. Its meant to show love and humility- and how the husband and wife serve each other equally. I went to a wedding where it was done and it was just beautiful.

 

[tlbwriter]

I think you're misreading because it was NOT me who said they had their first kiss at age 12, it was the same poster that I was quoting.

No, I'm sorry, I knew it wasn't you. I was just trying to add on to what you said.

 

[punkin]

I was just wondering about the logistics of washing feet when you have a wedding dress on with stockings and shoes and a tux (or suit) with socks and shoes. Or maybe they just wore sandals for quick access?

 

[Conservative Hippie]

I was just wondering about the logistics of washing feet when you have a wedding dress on with stockings and shoes and a tux (or suit) with socks and shoes. Or maybe they just wore sandals for quick access?

I got married barefoot!

 

[shirleyb]

I was just wondering about the logistics of washing feet when you have a wedding dress on with stockings and shoes and a tux (or suit) with socks and shoes. Or maybe they just wore sandals for quick access?

I was just thinking the same thing! It sounds messy.