W.I.S.H.= Wish I still had Motivation!

[samiet620]

Gosh, I was doing soooo well!I was making good choices, eating well, excercising,lots of water, walking,walking,walking. Now I'm just stuck. My brain is like okay back on track and then its like I know I shouldn't but I do eat the wrong things!!! I'm so not excercising or walking.I just can close my eyes and visualize myself exercising and being slimmer and healthier and I feel a surge of purpose and then...nothing. Honestly I'm unhappy and disgusted and yet I keep doing this to myself. I finally decided that there are too many things happening and that the truth is I AM NOT HAPPY!!! Well I have spurts of happiness like when I think of my trip or I'm doing stuff with the kids. I think I'm just....unfulfilled or something. I am definitly at a weird crossroad in my life and being overweight is just the tip of the iceberg...so my friends I am going to seek a counselor. Something has to give! My question is (especially to the ladies) have you ever gone thru this and went to a counselor and felt like you resolved anything. Did it HELP?!?

 

[ohMom]

(HUG) to samiet

i think you are very wise to seek a professional objective opinioin. I have a good friend who always says that reality is everyone would benefit from counseling. I have gone to my empolyer at the time EAP when i faced a major life change and it helped tremendously

as far as motivational ruts, i'm in one now myself. i just returned from being away for 10 days and i'm so having a hard time forcing myself back into my exercise routine. for 3 mornings in a row now i have avoided an early morning walk, i tell myself what is 30 mins? yet here i sit in my jammies...

 

[samiet620]

Thank you so much for your words. I'll take your friends words regarding counseling at face value because the way I see it something has to give. I can't continue on this path but I know I need help to get through. Thanks for understanding.

 

[Raenstoirm]

We all understand. I am going through something similar, but I can at least pinpoint the cause. It s my job. At face value, it is the best job in the world. The hours are 7-3, but I don't get into work until 8 or 8:30 and no one says a thing. And I still leave at 3. I have near complete autonomy and a boss with a "sure, whatever" attitude. I feel I am trusted and respected by everyone I deal with on a daily basis. So what is the problem you ask? I am SO BORED. My work gives me no stimulation at all. For the first few months, I was so busy getting everything organized, but now-a-days the job pretty much handles its self. But whenever I think about leaving I think about doing a 9-5 and just cant image losing my hours, freedom and flexibility this job offers.

A counselor will help you figure out what is causing your issues and hopefully help you solve them.

 

[swim-mom]

Hi Sam

I am a counselor, so I think it is a great idea to just meet with someone and talk. Sometimes just talking, is the best way to truly discover what you are seekin and/or trying to hide. I am not saying you are hiding anything, but sometimes the pain from one thing hides itself in another form.

The right counselor for you, will not push you into talking about specific topics. For example, if a topic is too hard to answer - then don't. Things/topics should be released at your own pace.

And just remember, you can always leave if you need to ---- sometimes finding the right counselor is like finding a prince charming (alot of frogs first).

 

[samiet620]

Hi Guys! Thanks soooooo much for your support and words. Funny how perfect strangers on a meere computer can pull together in the spirit of understanding or at the very least support.
Well, I booked an appointment for this Tuesday. I am just a touch aprehensive as I have never done such a thing. I have always been decisive, organized and I knew what I wanted and went for it. Boy do I miss me!
Well, its done and I am desperate enough right now to want to take advantage of this. Thanks for warning me about the "frogs".I hope this is my "prince" b/c right now I have all the frogs I can handle.
Well, I'll let you know how it goes. Thanks all.