Very OT-I just need some encouragement

[My Gal Minnie]

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years because he wouldn't commit. At 32 I thought that I had found the one but I don't think he can get over his fear of "what if we get divorced". So I had to move on. I recently tryed on line dating and wrote a couple of e-mails back and forth to a guy and then he gave me his number. After a few days I hadn't called yet. I'm a bit nervous. He wrote back saying that I should have called him or texted him by now just to say hi. I don't know if it comes off wrong in the e-mail or maybe I've been out of the game to long. I just thought it was a bit agressive. Anyways thanks for reading.

 

[snickerboo]

That's hard. If you feel the online guy is a little too aggressive for you, I wouldn't meet him. I think it's important to listen to your gut instincts when it comes to the opposite sex.

The right guy for you is out there! Hang in there!

 

[TreesyB]

That is rather aggressive. Don't worry, trust your gut. Your instincts were right in breaking up with a non-commital boyfriend. I hate to say it, but "he's just not that into you" does say a lot about reading men. Follow your gut.

 

[Cdn Gal]

You know... I had given up on men b/c I had met so many creeps. And I was OK with the fact that I could be single for the rest of my life. Then all of a sudden that's when it happened- when I wasn't looking. Who knew??? Also, don't worry about the on-line thing, my friend just got married by meeting somebody on-line. Lovely, lovely guy (from Nfld.- go figure!) and she is 29. My sister- she met her fiance on-line too. She's 30. It will happen, don't worry and be picky! You have to kiss alot of frogs before you kiss your prince!

 

[tone.def]

Yo! Good for you for moving on girl! If dude wants to be all whiny and stuff about "what if" then he's so not worth your time. Don't look back. We're about the same age, so I can tell you that taking care of your wants and your needs is totally crucial right now (at this stage of life) AND that when you least expect it, everything will fall into place.

As for the whole online thing - seriously, don't stress about it. I had to get back in the game after 6 years with the same moron and I tried eharmony, lavalife, plentyoffish and seriously - a bunch of losers contacted me - not a single guy who I showed interest in responded to any of my "smiles" or msgs... then *boom* - the man of my dreams was right beside me at work and had been there along - we had even been nominated for awards against each other, we just hadn't realized we were meant to be yet. We now have a 2 and a half month old daughter.

 

[My Gal Minnie]

Thanks for everyones replies. I'm just sad right now and should probably take some time to myself.

 

[irisesareblue]

I don't know if you are of a faith persuasion, but I hope you take this in the right context, but Church is a great way to meet a guy - there are some singles groups that meet in various faiths and they are a great way to meet someone like minded and who has the same values you do.

I had decided that I wasn't going to get involved with anyone, then ran into this nice fellow at church who really mentored me going through my divorce and encouraged during the tough times. We became friends but then he kissed me and I (literally) fell off the log we were sitting on! We've been married now for 8 1/2 years and are incredibly happy.....

Just wanted to echo the thought that when you least expect love, it comes knocking....

 

[My Gal Minnie]

I go to church every Sunday but there really aren't any events for people my age. I have struggled with my faith lately feeling all alone.

 

[highland3]

Thanks for everyones replies. I'm just sad right now and should probably take some time to myself.

There's never a rush. You deserve some quality "me" time. Relax, reflect and enjoy being single for a little while!

 

[irisesareblue]

Minnie, I'm sorry to hear that there are no church events for singles...the gals at the church where my husband attended before he met me were pretty angry when I took away one of their most eligible bachelors...LOL

I'm sure something will come up....my daughter is trying the internet Christian dating websites, hoping to find someone who shares her faith.

Blessings!!!