becauseisaid
You are what you eat. So don't order the jerk chi
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I CAN'T TAKE IT ANY MORE! I've tried to be nice and bite my tongue. I've made every excuse in I can think of, but I've hit the end of my patience!
I love my mother. I promise. But sometimes I really don't like her very much.
I have been tentatively planning on taking my DH and DD to Disney World this coming October for over a year. I've been squirreling away my nickels and dimes but didn't want to make any concrete plans because I just didn't know if it would be in the budget. After discovering that we would be getting back a larger-than-expected tax refund, I decided to just pull the trigger. Neither my husband nor my daughter (who will be 7 come Oct.) have ever been to Disney and I haven't been in 15 years. So I'm excited!
Unfortunately I made the severe tactical error of announcing our plans on Facebook.
Mainly this was to see if any of our other friends wanted to go at the same time. I actually had several friends step up. Then my mother decided to put in her $.02.
Now, my mother is the type of person who truly believes that she is always right and, of course, everyone wants her opinion. The woman has no tact whatsoever. And, quite honestly, the older she gets, the worse it is!
Immediately after announcing we were going to Disney, my mother made a comment "You can afford Disney World after you pay all your bills?! Wow....we never could manage something like that at your stage of family life." Yeah Mom, we can. Because, first, you have no idea how much our tax refund was and, second, what sort of bills we have. I would also like to point out that my husband and I are firmly entrenched in middle age (me, 38 and DH, 45) and are not the wet-behind-the-ears kids my mother seems to think we are. But I bit my...keyboard...and didn't say anything.
A couple of planning days later, I mention Grand Gatherings. At this point I've had several friends mention they would like to come with us. WhooHoo!
Apparently my high spirits needed a reality check by my mother who decided to ask, "What ever happened to a single family enjoying private FAMILY TIME and just enjoying the rides and food. Why do you all spend a fortune for junk events? Put that money to the kid's college fund. Signed, An Old Poop!" Not sure I would put Disney in the "junk events" category, but thanks anyway, Mom.
I had a hard time letting that pass, but gave a tempered response (I thought!) explaining that we LIKE our friends and enjoy doing things with them. To which my mother decided to make a crack about skipping some of the reservations since kids don't need to have everything they want and can, instead, learn to do without. Again, I bit my tongue...err, keyboard...and went on my merry way vowing to never speak to my mother again and, perhaps, invest in a voodoo doll whose fingers I could sew together. I didn't. But I sure thought hard about it!
Now we get to this week when it is FINALLY time to make our ADRs. It's now down to us and one other family and we've poured over our dining choices, make spreadsheets, shared spreadsheets, made fun of the other's spreadsheets, swapped things around, and basically had a ball explaining why my plan is better than yours.
I'm ready. Bring it on!
After getting all the ADRs that I wanted, I am giddy
and want to share the love with anyone foolish enough to listen. But this time, I'm going to be smart! I'll post that we got our ADRs on Facebook, but I'll block my mother from the post this time. This way I can't upset her with my obviously ill-thought out and irresponsible plans and she can't upset me with her obviously ill-thought out and derogatory comments.
Yeah. That didn't work out so well. I'm not sure if I did it wrong or what, but later that day, here comes my mother with a comment. "Where on Earth are you eating that requires reservations? Heck, it's Disney World you are supposed to eat at the little stands and countries (in Epcot), etc. Those you just stand in line for. Why screw up a nice vacation by requiring your child to have good table manners at a fine restaurant?".
Grrrr! Well, Mom, according to you it's NOT a nice vacation anyway since we're obviously refusing to pay our electric bill to go to Disney with friends rather than staying at home with each other and letting our child run wild at any place that is not a "fine restaurant".
I mean Come On! The woman lives several thousand miles away (she's in NM and we're in TN) so it's not like she has any idea of how we live. Plus she is basing all her comments on HER last trip to Disney. Which was approximately 20 years ago. Why is she insisting on being such a Debbie Downer? What is the purpose of her raining on my parade? So you don't like our plans. Okay, I can live with that. But they are MY plans. Not yours. They have absolutely not one thing to do with you. Your comments are not helpful; they are insulting and derogatory.
I have already spent a lot of time making sure that our trip is well thought out and planned out so that we can have maximum enjoyment while we are there. I've read the guides. I've perused the Boards. I've got a list of tips and tricks gleaned from other Mousiacs (Mouse Maniacs) that sneaks up and violates some innocent paperwork reduction act. This is not a whim so keep your comments to yourself!
I do love my mother, but I swear, if she were my neighbor, she would find a burning bag of dog poop on her porch one morning!
End Rant. Please exit the ride on the opposite side and have a nice day!
I love my mother. I promise. But sometimes I really don't like her very much.
I have been tentatively planning on taking my DH and DD to Disney World this coming October for over a year. I've been squirreling away my nickels and dimes but didn't want to make any concrete plans because I just didn't know if it would be in the budget. After discovering that we would be getting back a larger-than-expected tax refund, I decided to just pull the trigger. Neither my husband nor my daughter (who will be 7 come Oct.) have ever been to Disney and I haven't been in 15 years. So I'm excited!
Unfortunately I made the severe tactical error of announcing our plans on Facebook.
Mainly this was to see if any of our other friends wanted to go at the same time. I actually had several friends step up. Then my mother decided to put in her $.02.Now, my mother is the type of person who truly believes that she is always right and, of course, everyone wants her opinion. The woman has no tact whatsoever. And, quite honestly, the older she gets, the worse it is!
Immediately after announcing we were going to Disney, my mother made a comment "You can afford Disney World after you pay all your bills?! Wow....we never could manage something like that at your stage of family life." Yeah Mom, we can. Because, first, you have no idea how much our tax refund was and, second, what sort of bills we have. I would also like to point out that my husband and I are firmly entrenched in middle age (me, 38 and DH, 45) and are not the wet-behind-the-ears kids my mother seems to think we are. But I bit my...keyboard...and didn't say anything.
A couple of planning days later, I mention Grand Gatherings. At this point I've had several friends mention they would like to come with us. WhooHoo!
Apparently my high spirits needed a reality check by my mother who decided to ask, "What ever happened to a single family enjoying private FAMILY TIME and just enjoying the rides and food. Why do you all spend a fortune for junk events? Put that money to the kid's college fund. Signed, An Old Poop!" Not sure I would put Disney in the "junk events" category, but thanks anyway, Mom.I had a hard time letting that pass, but gave a tempered response (I thought!) explaining that we LIKE our friends and enjoy doing things with them. To which my mother decided to make a crack about skipping some of the reservations since kids don't need to have everything they want and can, instead, learn to do without. Again, I bit my tongue...err, keyboard...and went on my merry way vowing to never speak to my mother again and, perhaps, invest in a voodoo doll whose fingers I could sew together. I didn't. But I sure thought hard about it!
Now we get to this week when it is FINALLY time to make our ADRs. It's now down to us and one other family and we've poured over our dining choices, make spreadsheets, shared spreadsheets, made fun of the other's spreadsheets, swapped things around, and basically had a ball explaining why my plan is better than yours.
I'm ready. Bring it on!After getting all the ADRs that I wanted, I am giddy
and want to share the love with anyone foolish enough to listen. But this time, I'm going to be smart! I'll post that we got our ADRs on Facebook, but I'll block my mother from the post this time. This way I can't upset her with my obviously ill-thought out and irresponsible plans and she can't upset me with her obviously ill-thought out and derogatory comments. Yeah. That didn't work out so well. I'm not sure if I did it wrong or what, but later that day, here comes my mother with a comment. "Where on Earth are you eating that requires reservations? Heck, it's Disney World you are supposed to eat at the little stands and countries (in Epcot), etc. Those you just stand in line for. Why screw up a nice vacation by requiring your child to have good table manners at a fine restaurant?".
Grrrr! Well, Mom, according to you it's NOT a nice vacation anyway since we're obviously refusing to pay our electric bill to go to Disney with friends rather than staying at home with each other and letting our child run wild at any place that is not a "fine restaurant".
I mean Come On! The woman lives several thousand miles away (she's in NM and we're in TN) so it's not like she has any idea of how we live. Plus she is basing all her comments on HER last trip to Disney. Which was approximately 20 years ago. Why is she insisting on being such a Debbie Downer? What is the purpose of her raining on my parade? So you don't like our plans. Okay, I can live with that. But they are MY plans. Not yours. They have absolutely not one thing to do with you. Your comments are not helpful; they are insulting and derogatory.
I have already spent a lot of time making sure that our trip is well thought out and planned out so that we can have maximum enjoyment while we are there. I've read the guides. I've perused the Boards. I've got a list of tips and tricks gleaned from other Mousiacs (Mouse Maniacs) that sneaks up and violates some innocent paperwork reduction act. This is not a whim so keep your comments to yourself!
I do love my mother, but I swear, if she were my neighbor, she would find a burning bag of dog poop on her porch one morning!
End Rant. Please exit the ride on the opposite side and have a nice day!
This is it in a nut shell. OP: if you know how she is, stop giving her the ammo.
She thinks of Disney as a waste, so we just don't talk about it. She thinks our money shoudl go to X,Y and Z but the way I see it, we have been married alomst 18 years and have never asked for a penny from them so they don't get a say.
THANK YOU!! I've got some people on FB who I don't necessarily want to "un-friend", but who I really rather would not see some of my posts, y'know? Kewl...!
You want her to stop commenting on your plans, STOP TELLING HER.
And I am, in no way, afraid to stand up to my Mother. I do, however, try to temper my responses by reminding myself that *I* have manners and a sense of decorum and the woman IS my mother. 
