Vent - enough already

[dakcp2001]

I have a friend who does a lot of charity walks/runs etc. And I literally get emails and Facebook messages/reminders from both her AND her husband several times a day, every day, all year round. Don't forget time is running out! Pictures of sad children etc.

Look, I am thankful that someone takes the time to raise money for a good cause and I do donate to the cause that is nearest and dearest to my heart but GIVE ME A BREAK from all of the BEGGING and guilt inducing emails. I asked politely to be taken off the email list since I get everything via email from her, her husband, her fb and her husbands Facebook but everyday it is their new beg of the day. Anyone else have a friend like this? I am going to spam them, and delete them from Facebook until they get the hint. Best part? These are the two cheapest people you will EVER meet in your life. Never have they donated to the one walk I do a year. And forget going to dinner with them unless you want to pay for them too. They always somehow end up paying less than their fair share.

 

[Gigi22]

Definitely designate all their junk mail as spam. Spam, spam, spam...

 

[kirstenb1]

Definitely designate all their junk mail as spam. Spam, spam, spam...

Agree!

 

[kdog_1981]

How about the people who hound you about direct sales parties like "pampered chef" ??!!!

 

[meggiebeth]

Eugh. It's one thing raising money for charity, but it sucks pressurizing people into giving money and that isn't really in the spirit of raising money for charity anyway

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[furb & dez]

Mark their e-mail as spam and hide them from your Facebook. Neither are difficult.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I have a friend who does a lot of charity walks/runs etc. And I literally get emails and Facebook messages/reminders from both her AND her husband several times a day, every day, all year round. Don't forget time is running out! Pictures of sad children etc.

Look, I am thankful that someone takes the time to raise money for a good cause and I do donate to the cause that is nearest and dearest to my heart but GIVE ME A BREAK from all of the BEGGING and guilt inducing emails. I asked politely to be taken off the email list since I get everything via email from her, her husband, her fb and her husbands Facebook but everyday it is their new beg of the day. Anyone else have a friend like this? I am going to spam them, and delete them from Facebook until they get the hint. Best part? These are the two cheapest people you will EVER meet in your life. Never have they donated to the one walk I do a year. And forget going to dinner with them unless you want to pay for them too. They always somehow end up paying less than their fair share.

I do one personal fundraiser a year and I felt awful asking for money, at first. Someone suggested this to me and after 9 years, it works really well.

You send ONE email out to everyone and you make it funny. You include the event info, how to sign up if anyone might be interested in joining you, you include HOW to donate and at the end, you ask if anyone wants to be put on the reminder list. To those that reply yes to be on the reminder list, THOSE and only those people get reminder emails until the event happens. And you need to make those funny, too.

Everyone else just gets ONE email a year asking for a donation.

Is there anyway you can suggest something similar to your friends?

 

[Buckalew11]

I'm a new runner but my DH has ran for years and years. I'd never ask people for money, period. I'm sure it has its place but I do not quite get it. If I wanted to donate the money myself, I'd do that but I just am not comfortable asking people for money, ever.

DH did an Ironman and he had a few people contribute to his costs for that. These were guys that really got into him just participating in the race, lol.

I'd do as other said--"spam" and block/unfriend of FB. I know people like this--they do mission work in another country from time to time and they are constantly asking for money to fund their trips. They are Southern Baptists and that's what the mission board does for people called to missions (which is what these people want to do.) Tonight I got invited to a Thirty -One purse party to benefit the cause. Sunday night I got asked to come listen to their talk which would end with a collection or pledges or something, I'm sure. Yet they are from the cheapest family I have met in RL!

 

[goofyintoronto]

Id spam them without hesitation! Do it now. You will be much happier! LOL.

One thing that irks me is when cashiers ask for donations. Every store i shop asks if i want to donate $2 plus, to whatever charity. EVERY store. I shop a lot, so I could quite easily go broke if I said yes every time. I donate on my own time, im not comfortable giving money at the register simply because im skeptical as to where the money is going.

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[ford family]

The one that puzzles us is the regular phone calls for donations to some Police charity. They call about once a month and have a really fast, slick, practised patter. I always say, "no thank you, we are tourists" and then hang up.
Not sure if it is a scam or not but it has been occurring for the last eight years whenever we are at our Florida home.

ford family

 

[The Mystery Machine]

i have a friend who does a lot of charity walks/runs etc. And i literally get emails and facebook messages/reminders from both her and her husband several times a day, every day, all year round. Don't forget time is running out! Pictures of sad children etc.

Look, i am thankful that someone takes the time to raise money for a good cause and i do donate to the cause that is nearest and dearest to my heart but give me a break from all of the begging and guilt inducing emails. I asked politely to be taken off the email list since i get everything via email from her, her husband, her fb and her husbands facebook but everyday it is their new beg of the day. Anyone else have a friend like this? I am going to spam them, and delete them from facebook until they get the hint. Best part? These are the two cheapest people you will ever meet in your life. Never have they donated to the one walk i do a year. And forget going to dinner with them unless you want to pay for them too. They always somehow end up paying less than their fair share.

yikes!

 

[jennyjinx3]

Id spam them without hesitation! Do it now. You will be much happier! LOL.

One thing that irks me is when cashiers ask for donations. Every store i shop asks if i want to donate $2 plus, to whatever charity. EVERY store. I shop a lot, so I could quite easily go broke if I said yes every time. I donate on my own time, im not comfortable giving money at the register simply because im skeptical as to where the money is going.

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Coming from one of those workers... I refuse to even ask the customer to donate to anything. Refuse. Won't do it, I hate it myself. They pressure the cashiers to do it, but some of us just won't.

 

[beaucoup]

Thanks for the reminder. Time to donate to our favorite charities. I'm glad none of them beg. That is really annoying.

 

[cassandrap83]

I have a facebook friend (acquaintance in real life) who started a "foundation" for a cause. And OMG - it is so poorly managed, and the only thing they every post about - EVER is donations. They run these auctions on facebook every few months, but the stuff they put up is awful, or horribly over-priced!

I hate it.

 

[Andtototoo]

Ugh. I have a relative who only posts on FB or emails me when she wants me to buy some of her stupid products. And her FB posts in particular are so needy and whiney. "Pleeeeeeeease buy my products. They're really great. I need the money so bad. Make me your charity this holiday season -- LOL! Don't forget I have two kids and I have to buy them Christmas! So please visit my page and buy something. The bigger the better!"

Why not just panhandle on the street corner? Less annoying and she'd probably rake in more money than by doing this crap.

 

[mhsjax]

The one that puzzles us is the regular phone calls for donations to some Police charity. They call about once a month and have a really fast, slick, practised patter. I always say, "no thank you, we are tourists" and then hang up.
Not sure if it is a scam or not but it has been occurring for the last eight years whenever we are at our Florida home.

ford family

I like that comeback

 

[kimblebee]

I have a FB friend who begs all the time for people to buy her Partylite stuff. She goes as far as saying if you are really my friend you'd prove it by buying something and I'd do it for you. She also is constantly posting that she needs a ride somewhere or does anyone have a spare dryer you could give to me : O

She has recently been unfriended. It just too much.

 

[furb & dez]

She goes as far as saying if you are really my friend, you'd...

I would stop the conversation there, with "If you were really MY friend, you wouldn't use the terms 'if you were really my friend'. BYE." Then I would leave, and never talk with the person again.

This is kindergarten crap. Why the heck do purported adults put up with this? (answer: because they are cowards and "want to be liked." Hard to be "likeable" when obviously there no self-esteem there whatsoever, KWIM?)

 

[kathie859]

The one that puzzles us is the regular phone calls for donations to some Police charity. They call about once a month and have a really fast, slick, practised patter. I always say, "no thank you, we are tourists" and then hang up.
Not sure if it is a scam or not but it has been occurring for the last eight years whenever we are at our Florida home.

ford family

I am stealing your "we're tourists" line

 

[Disney Doll]

We have had a spate of "begging" type behavior in our town in the past few months.

One couple wanted to send their twins to some kind of special camp over the summer...space camp, military camp....something like that. It was $1400 per kid. They actually created a foundation and spent every weekend in front of the local grocery store asking for donations to pay for their kids to go to this camp! No the kids aren't sick or dying....it's not Make-A-Wish camp or anything like that. It was just some fancy camp they wanted to go to that the parents claimed they "couldn't afford"....meanwhile, they threw a $10,000 bar mitvah party for their kids. I couldn't imagine begging for money in my hometown's local grocery store....can you imagine the humiliation?

The other one was a couple who have a child recently diagnosed with diabetes and they want to get him a service dog which apparently costs $20,000 according to them. They too, are begging for money @ the grocry store. Meanwhile, the father works, the mother stays home, the 2 kids are in school all day. Perhaps she should consider getting a job and earning money to pay for the dog rather than begging for it?

And FTR, I am not talking about poor folks in a run-down town. I am talking about folks in my hometown...a very nice suburban town where most people are comfortable in terms of lifestyle.

My crazy sister-in-law's son needs a special device that he could wear to help him stutter less....poor kid has a TERRIBLE stutter. She told us at her last visit that it cost $4000 & insurance doesn't pay. My response was "That's what credit cards are for. Buy the kid what he needs and make a specific payment to your CC every month till it's paid off". Perhaps I would have been more sympathetic had she not just finished telling me about the TWO wonderful conference trips she had just been on , where she stayed in upscale hotels and was able to find enough time to have a spa treatment & go sightseeing. Now I know that often conferences are paid for in part or in full by one's place of employment, but I doubt the spa treatments were covered by work.