Vent About My Dad

[Christopher Robin]

What a train wreck!

 

[petchie]

"Constantly doing the same thing, but expecting different results every time, is the sign of true insanity."

 

[Wishing on a star]

I'm glad that my life is so comical to you.

Actually, it is not comical to me.
I really do feel for you and your situation.

I am not the one who posted all the ROTFL smileys... I was just welcoming that person. And, yes, while it may not be comical, you do have to realize that this type of thread does kind of become online entertainment.

 

[Wishing on a star]

"Constantly doing the same thing, but expecting different results every time, is the sign of true insanity."

No, actually it is not...

Persistance with using the same action or method, only to gain the same, negative and incorrect result, is called perseveration (sp?).... It can be a sign of a neurological or psychological disability.

 

[lilyv]

You're assuming though that this is the, or one of, the biggest issues in my life at the moment. It's not. It's just something that I was annoyed by that I wanted to vent about. I do have other things in my life that are worse, I just don't like to post major problems on an internet forum.

But you do have a choice. You're making choices every day. People do what works for them.

There may come a day when you decide that privacy, independence, and self-worth are important to you. We'll know, because your ticker will be a countdown to moving out to your very own neat apartment, rather than a Walt Disney World Vacation.

It's not about your Dad, Mom, Grandma, or pudding. It's about taking the steps to live a healthy life, and deciding that being a participant in a passive aggressive relationship isn't for you anymore.

I believe that day will come. I'm hoping it will come soon, and you'll see that
it's important that you take the step. You have the opportunity to take the lead in improving a lot of relationships. Your life, your choice.

 

[Wishing on a star]

But you do have a choice. You're making choices every day. People do what works for them.

There may come a day when you decide that privacy, independence, and self-worth are important to you. We'll know, because your ticker will be a countdown to moving out to your very own neat apartment, rather than a Walt Disney World Vacation.

It's not about your Dad, Mom, Grandma, or pudding. It's about taking the steps to live a healthy life, and deciding that being a participant in a passive aggressive relationship isn't for you anymore.

I believe that day will come. I'm hoping it will come soon, and you'll see that
it's important that you take the step. You have the opportunity to take the lead in improving a lot of relationships. Your life, your choice.

Excellent post.... bears repeating!!

 

[Carly_Roach]

No offense, but I do not want to still be paying off my student loans while I'm in my 30's.

No one does, dear.

You've made a choice to live off someone else while you pay your loans back. Many others (including myself) made the choice to live on their own and pay back the loans in painful bits and pieces even when it meant we couldn't go on vacation or have a new car or furniture that wasn't second-hand or many of the other niceities of life. We had to wait to earn those niceities rather than have them right out of college.

Just remember that when your father eats your food, you were the one who made the choice to sponge off your parents in order to further your goal of being debt-free when you finally moved away from home. The beauty of the situation is that you can choose again. Move out and live your way or stay at your parent's home and stop complaining.

 

[Crankyshank]

Hell I'm 33 and am still taking out student loans
I have my own house though, pay my bills, and have plenty of (instant) pudding in my pantry.

 

[L107ANGEL]

Hell I'm 33 and am still taking out student loans
I have my own house though, pay my bills, and have plenty of (instant) pudding in my pantry.

its like you speak my language!!!!!

 

[Ciao Mickey]

Didn't you learn after your last thread girl? To some people, because they are the parent and you are the child they therefore have the right to consume and take anything of your's that they want to and there is absolutely nothing that you can say or do about it!!

Apparently since they gave birth to you and raised you this gives them carte blanc to run over you for the rest of your life. Nothing is yours, even if you purchased it with the money you earned. If you live in their house, then you can not lay claim to anything. So, if they show up in your room, going through your clothes and putting on your make-up you are supposed to shut up and take it. After all, it's their house!!! It doesn't matter if you pay rent, or go to school. Apparentely once you graduate from HS you are supposed to immediatly leave the house if you expect your stuff to remain your stuff. Somehow, staying, means that all of your stuff that you own or will purchase in the future, while staying at said house, will revert to the ownership of your parents.

If I lived under conditions that were that deplorable, I would do everything in my power to move out of the house.

I would work two jobs, share an apartment with others, do whatever it takes to get out of there and save my sanity.

I can't relate to her situation. If I cook something in my home, I cook enough for everyone. If my kids make cookies or whatever, they bake enough for everyone.

If her parents have such little regard for her feelings and possesions, why is she staying there? She should get out and save herself before it's too late.

 

[Ciao Mickey]

I said in a previous post that what really annoyed me was that he ate all of it, all four servings, and this was after I'd let him have leftover steaks I had gotten for dinner, (two nights in a row I might add.)

If he was trying to teach me a lesson, it definatly wasn't about sharing.

And he was wrong for doing that. But maybe in his mind he was trying to teach you a lesson about sharing. Maybe he got mad because you only made enough for yourself and didn't ask anyone else if they wanted some.

In my house, one box of pudding will feed one person, maybe two. I've got big eaters.

 

[Crankyshank]

its like you speak my language!!!!!

can't make rum cake without it!

 

[disneyfav4ever]

And he was wrong for doing that. But maybe in his mind he was trying to teach you a lesson about sharing. Maybe he got mad because you only made enough for yourself and didn't ask anyone else if they wanted some.

In my house, one box of pudding will feed one person, maybe two. I've got big eaters.

A box of pudding is two servings for me if I'm really hungry.

 

[yearbook50]

I'm sorry...if you are putting up with an unhappy situation to pay off student loans....you shouldn't be going to Disney in September as that money could greatly help pay off the loans faster.

I'm 25k in debt because of school & that was with me working almost full time while in it...I haven't lived at home since I was 18 & I bought my own groceries since I was 16. I also finished school this December & have a good job in my field that I started on Monday. This job also means I commute an hour each way every day. Guess what...its part of growing up and being a productive adult in society. Most people with degrees take a little bit to pay off student loans. I'll have mine paid off by the time I'm 30 but I also am an engineer who is making decent money; not every degree field is so lucky.

I think its time to stop and realize what your doing is making excuses for yourself. There are ways of getting out of the situation you are in if you step up and act like a grown up. Get a job in your degree field or if you don't like that field, at least get a professional job that pays more. If you are determined on staying at your high school job - move to a better paying position even if it means moving to another store.

 

[lilyv]

A box of pudding is two servings for me if I'm really hungry.

I'm guessing you're still pondering pudding. It's not about pudding, or loans, or any of the cast of characters you've outlined. It's about you.

Someday, at 24 or 34 or 44 you are going to decide that passive aggression isn't your deal. When you move out and quit playing, you'll be on the path to a happy adult life.

 

[mickeyfan2]

For me a box of pudding is 2.4894548945489487566572 servings.

 

[kejoda]

its like you speak my language!!!!!

I'm only here for Chachi!!!

 

[Bonnie40]

I think its time to stop and realize what your doing is making excuses for yourself. There are ways of getting out of the situation you are in if you step up and act like a grown up. Get a job in your degree field or if you don't like that field, at least get a professional job that pays more. If you are determined on staying at your high school job - move to a better paying position even if it means moving to another store.

 

[MushyMushy]

Boomhauer said: This is pretty simple. You say you pay rent. Either you don't pay enough rent to complain about your dad eating your pudding, or, you could get an apartment with the money you're paying your parents for rent.



When I lived at home before I got married (to my ex) I paid my parents $300 per month in rent. This is not even close to the amount it would have cost me to get even a crappy basement apartment where I lived (Long Island).

BTW, I'm pretty sure I've seen you on the receiving end of the lynch mob around here. Perhaps you could lighten up a bit?

Not to mention, doesn't HE live in his own MIL's house? Uh, and complains about her quite a bit?

But he's trying to be one of the "cool kids" now.

 

[Chloe'sMom]

How old are you? I've never followed your post before so I'm not jumping on the mob mentality but - how old are you?

You sound like an adult, and your buying your own food - why don't you just move out? You said your family is anything but normal - so I'm just trying to understand. Why don't you move out? Get your own place and then you don't have to worry about this.

FWIW - my father and mother felt that anything under their roof was fair game - however we never paid rent. But at 16 they told us to get out and get a job. We could live with them while we were in school but once we were out we had to get our own places. therefore "your" pudding would have been their property.

Perhaps you need to leave the nest.

~Amanda