Vent About My Dad

[disneyfav4ever]

I didn't know she was asking for advice, just venting.

I was just venting, people just like to give me unasked for advice.

 

[MzDiz]

In my house, we ask. If there's something unique in the fridge, like a cake, or a bowl of pudding, we find out who made it and ask to have some. It's just considerate to do so. I would never dream of just eating something I found on the counter, no one around here would. All other issues aside, that's just plain rude.

 

[Crankyshank]

I think that people just get frustrated when someone vents repeatedly about the same thing. It gets to a point when you're like "pee or get off the pot" YKWIM?

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I think that people just get frustrated when someone vents repeatedly about the same thing. It gets to a point when you're like "pee or get off the pot" YKWIM?

I post once every couple of months, it's not like there is a new issue every day, or even every week.

 

[Crankyshank]

I post once every couple of months, it's not like there is a new issue every day, or even every week.

Never said you did and really itdoesn't matter if you've posted 3 times about it, 5 times, or 500 times. Same thing applies - Your situation has not changed, you ignore or find excuses for any positive suggestions to make life easier for you (beyond moving out). So either start doing something about it, or suck it up. Because posting here about it is going to get you advice or opinions.

 

[Jack-Jack]

I post once every couple of months, it's not like there is a new issue every day, or even every week.

It might be cool if you were to post more often.

 

[Todd&Copper]

I'd be p.o.'s too, if I made dessert and some else just came along and ate it all. I remember back when I was in college, a sorority sister baked a pan of brownies and left them on the counter to cool. Another girl came in and grabbed herself a handful of still warm brownie, leaving finger trails in the remainder. She didn't even bother to cut it.
Regardless of whose house it is, courtesy would dictate that you ask, especially if everyone in that household goes so far as to label their own food.
Maybe until you move out you need to stick to the snack packs (even if you don't like them as much as cooked pudding) so you can label them as belonging to you.

 

[mickeyfan2]

All this talk of pudding has made me crave a pudding. Thankfully we had a Hunt's snack pack in the fridge. Don't worry I check it out first to see that DH did not have his name on it.

 

[Missy1961]

All this talk of pudding has made me crave a pudding. Thankfully we had a Hunt's snack pack in the fridge. Don't worry I check it out first to see that DH did not have his name on it.

It's making me want to cook pudding. I prefer the taste & texture of cooked pudding. But I like it cold better than warm.

 

[ckay87]

She just wanted a little pudding.

10 pages?



These boards amaze me!

 

[Heidict]

Didn't you learn after your last thread girl? To some people, because they are the parent and you are the child they therefore have the right to consume and take anything of your's that they want to and there is absolutely nothing that you can say or do about it!!

Apparently since they gave birth to you and raised you this gives them carte blanc to run over you for the rest of your life. Nothing is yours, even if you purchased it with the money you earned. If you live in their house, then you can not lay claim to anything. So, if they show up in your room, going through your clothes and putting on your make-up you are supposed to shut up and take it. After all, it's their house!!! It doesn't matter if you pay rent, or go to school. Apparentely once you graduate from HS you are supposed to immediatly leave the house if you expect your stuff to remain your stuff. Somehow, staying, means that all of your stuff that you own or will purchase in the future, while staying at said house, will revert to the ownership of your parents.

 

[MAKmom]

She just wanted a little pudding.

10 pages?



These boards amaze me!

There are people who come to this board to get people. It entertains them & gives them a rush.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

She just wanted a little pudding.

10 pages?



These boards amaze me!

When I went to bed last night, this thread was on page two, when I woke up it was on page seven, I was offline for about an hour, and it grew another two pages.

Of course about half of those posts were people telling me I was ungrateful, and spoiled.

 

[mickeyfan2]

She just wanted a little pudding.

10 pages?



These boards amaze me!

But you had to look didn't you.

 

[Wishing on a star]

1. Why did the heck did the OP buy (ONE) little box of pudding, then, prepare it right there openly in the kitchen. where everyone could hear, see, and smell it. Then walk off and leave it sitting openly in the public/community area... And then have the gall to complain about what happened!!!!

2. Yes, it is apparant that the OP's father/parents do these things on purpose... But, hey, the OP is getting EXAACTLY what is coming to her.

3. I don't care what kind of cultural-religious background here. Personal responsibility for ones self, and respect for others has NO cultural or religious boundaries!!! There are NO excuses for these people having these serious pschological issues, and choosing to perpetuation them.

4. We are not talking about some 18-19-20 year old here... So, yes, as long as you live under mommie and daddy's roof, you have no rights... MOVE OUT. It is called being an adult.

Yes, it is very obious that the OP needs some very serious professional help... MOVE OUT and GET SOME HELP!!!!!

(either that, or it is just some idiot kid troll who likes to post about pudding and see how many pages of replies they can generate.)

 

[boomhauer]

When I went to bed last night, this thread was on page two, when I woke up it was on page seven, I was offline for about an hour, and it grew another two pages.

Of course about half of those posts were people telling me I was ungrateful, and spoiled.

Just to give a clearer picture, I read that you are 23 and your fiance is 33. Where does your fiance live? Between the 2 of you, you can't afford an apartment?

 

[Christine]

Despite all the supposed "history" with this poster , I have to say that it doesn't matter who is living in the house and paying for whatever, it's rude not to check with people before you eat their food.

If my 16 y/o DD whipped up some pudding on the stove and walked away to check her e-mail or something, there's just no way any of us in the house would dream of walking up and saying "oooh, free pudding" and proceed to chow down.

Nor do I even thing that my two teenagers, who can be buffoons at times, would do that to me.

Just seems ill-mannered.

 

[frndshpcptn]

It's so interesting to see all the different replies - really shows the difference in family dynamics.

In my house, if I make something and leave it on the stove my DBF (we live together) knows he's more than welcome to have any of it at any time. I generally make enough for more than one person anyway...

OP - again - if you don't let stuff like this bother you, maybe your dad will stop doing it. He seems to be like my friend's Dad - just does it to get a rise out of you.

Control the situation by ignoring it. Be the grown up - I think you'll find a couple months from now you have less to vent about.

 

[ckay87]

But you had to look didn't you.

Oh heck yea! I wouldn't have these boards any other way. I preview it and see it's a minor roommate gripe (cause that's all it is you know) and then I see it's got 10 pages on it and I'm absolutely intrigued. I just HAVE to know how it got to that point.

No wonder I get nothing done!

 

[disneyfav4ever]

1. Why did the heck did the OP buy (ONE) little box of pudding, then, prepare it right there openly in the kitchen. where everyone could hear, see, and smell it. Then walk off and leave it sitting openly in the public/community area... And then have the gall to complain about what happened!!!!

Why did I prepare it in the kitchen? Umm, because I had to use a microwave to cook it. Or why did I leave it in the kitchen while it was cooling? And even if you want to argue that it was just one box, there was definatly enough for at least two people, (that would've been one cup each,) even if the sugessted four servings wouldn't be enough.

4. We are not talking about some 18-19-20 year old here... So, yes, as long as you live under mommie and daddy's roof, you have no rights... MOVE OUT. It is called being an adult.

So paying rent doesn't give me a right to eat my own food, that I buy and cook, (and clean up after, I might add, since I had to clean the dish that my dad just threw in the sink.) I find that theory flawed.

Yes, it is very obious that the OP needs some very serious professional help... MOVE OUT and GET SOME HELP!!!!!

I need help? For what? All I did was get annoyed at my dad for eating four servings of pudding, that I had made, leaving none for anybody else.