Sorry this turned out to be so long...
I lost a lifelong friend (25+ year friendship) due to money/business trouble. I had a house that I could not sell at the moment (it was in a trust) but I wanted to move in with my boyfriend now hubby. We wanted to get the kids into a good neighborhood for school etc. (35 miles away) which meant the rent was high. My house was in the Hollywood Hills and similiar houses were renting for $3000+ a month. (Im not exagerating). My house needed some work and she was willing to move in with her sister and do the work. Painting etc. She could only afford $1100 per month but I knew she would take good care of the place, and she wasmy friend.
SO I moved out and she moved in. 1st month she refused to pay because she said I had not moved all of my stuff out. I had left stuff in the garage and also a stove around back. Not a big deal really. in my opinion but in order not to start a fight we let it go.
I moved all the stuff and she started paying. After 2 years I was able to sell the house and we decided that would be the best because we could move all 6 of us out of the tiny 3 bedroom apt we were staying in.
I told her we were going to sell and how much we were asking and she freaked. She said I promised she could buy the house when we free to do so but there was no way she could afford what we were asking ($550,000... a very good price for the neighborhood).
She said she had put SO much money into the house thinking she would be able to buy it, but she wanted us to just use her past rent as a down payment and then let us float her until she paid off the $250,000 she thought was reasonable.
I tried to explain to her that I needed the money to get my kids out of our apt and that I never told her to put money into the house, that it was her decision. (She really didnt do THAT much to it).
She was so mad at me that she didnt pay me for the last 2 months she lived there. I called her trying to explain that I HAD to have the money because that was how I paying my part of the rent and I had no other income at the time. I was helping DH run his business and he was supporting ALL of us with it(me and 4 kids that werent his!). She absolutely refused and said I was selfish and dishonest.
I have known her since the 3rd grade. I considered her one of my very best friends. I was so sad and upset. I do believe a lot of it was that her sister was egging her on, and I also think she was jealous that I had a relationship and kids. (She has neither and has a very hard time with men..... she is a child therapist.. you figure she would see what she was doing!) She refused to talk to me after she moved out.
About a year later I wrote her via email and asked if she was still upset and her response: one line.....What do YOU think?
A year ago at Christmas I dropped a package off at her moms house of some chocolate (her favorite) and a card asking if we could just forget the past because I missed her and her friendship. She never contacted me and that was that. I tried.
How sad....
some people just don't get it. Sorry, but there are better people out there who would love to have a friend like you. 
-- I always write myself a note and pay it back the next day.
