Vasectomy recovery

[MamaBelle4]

Yes, I think that is very odd. My wife doesn't come to my doctor appointments, I'm not a child.

I think you'll probably find a lot of women handle their husband's appointments, or maybe not. He's content to just go off of what the doctor says and ask no questions.

That isn't to say I've gone to routine doctor appointments with him, but major ones leading up to and including surgery I have.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

I think you'll probably find a lot of women handle their husband's appointments, or maybe not. He's content to just go off of what the doctor says and ask no questions.

That isn't to say I've gone to routine doctor appointments with him, but major ones leading up to and including surgery I have.

I have never been to the doctor with my husband and we have been together 25 years.
Maybe I am a bad wife? I left him with my parents to have surgery while I traveled for work last year.
Yikes, that makes me sound bad.
Then again, he doesn't come with me to the doctor either. And missed my facelift in November!

 

[wvjules]

I think if a man is old enough to get a vasectomy he's old enough to ask the doctor about restrictions and travel. lol

 

[MamaBelle4]

I have never been to the doctor with my husband and we have been together 25 years.
Maybe I am a bad wife? I left him with my parents to have surgery while I traveled for work last year.
Yikes, that makes me sound bad.
Then again, he doesn't come with me to the doctor either. And missed my facelift in November!

Didn't say you were a bad wife not would I imply that someone having a different relationship dynamic than I do would make them a bad spouse.

 

[tcufrog]

Thanks for the advice. I may ask him to postpone the procedure or the trip.

Normally he takes care of his own medical stuff but right now he’s swamped at work. He’s a business owner and they have way more business than they can handle. They are trying to hire more staff but what they need is very specialized so it’s difficult to find employees with the right skill set.

 

[tvguy]

Yes, I think that is very odd. My wife doesn't come to my doctor appointments, I'm not a child.

Well, my wife was required to come to a meeting with the Doctor before my procedure, and had to sign a release that she was aware what I was doing.

 

[jliehr]

Mine took a month to be normal after complications, most are fine, but there are possible issues.

 

[GreatLakes]

Well, my wife was required to come to a meeting with the Doctor before my procedure, and had to sign a release that she was aware what I was doing.

I find that odd too. My doctor asked me a few questions about family planning and if I discussed it with my wife but she didn't need to consent. If that was even hinted at I would have found another doctor.

Then again if my doctor tried to give me Valium for this procedure I would have looked elsewhere as well.

 

[DVC-Don]

Back in 1996 it was a good 10 days or more before I could ride in a car for more than 30 minutes. After 5 days I drove my son to school 15 minutes away and had to stop and get out to stand half way back home.

 

[tvguy]

I find that odd too. My doctor asked me a few questions about family planning and if I discussed it with my wife but she didn't need to consent. If that was even hinted at I would have found another doctor.

Then again if my doctor tried to give me Valium for this procedure I would have looked elsewhere as well.

Certainly your right to find another Doctor, but apparently not an uncommon practice among Doctors to ask the wife to sign off on the procedure. I suspect the Valium came after the procedure, so kind of tough to go elsewhere after the procedure was done. I was not even any medication. Just told to use an ice pack.

https://goodmenproject.com/newsroom...ask-their-spouses-permission-for-a-vasectomy/
https://medicaljustice.com/spousal-consent-for-vasectomy/
https://community.babycenter.com/post/a63087772/requiring-wifes-consent-for-vasectomy
https://www.quora.com/Should-a-doct...or-to-performing-a-vasectomy-on-a-married-man
https://www.chicksonright.com/blog/2015/12/02/vasectomies-and-spousal-consent/
https://community.whattoexpect.com/forums/hot-topics-1/topic/wife-approval-for-vasectomy.html
https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens...ve-to-sign-consent-for-DH-to-have-a-vasectomy

 

[North of Mouse]

make sure he goes for the follow up appointment otherwise you may get another surprise gift down the line (i've known 2 couples that got these surprises-in one case it was many years after the fact and it was just pure luck that it didn't happen sooner).

Yes & Yes! Some close friends of ours had twin girls 11 months after their 'last' child - a dd.

 

[ronandannette]

Recovery time was like 2 days for my DH. I reminded him that I gave birth to 4 kids and was up walking the same day, so he had no excuses.

And being that my DH was there to witness what that involved, compared to his vasectomy procedure, he didn't dare complain!

Thanks for the advice. I may ask him to postpone the procedure or the trip.

Normally he takes care of his own medical stuff but right now he’s swamped at work. He’s a business owner and they have way more business than they can handle. They are trying to hire more staff but what they need is very specialized so it’s difficult to find employees with the right skill set.

It sounds like your vacation time is a bit hard to come by. In your case I'd definitely try to re-schedule the procedure. When he does finally have it he will not be completely unable to work for very long (maybe just a day), unless his profession is very rigorous.

 

[low-key]

After someone cuts your junk, there is know coming back from that

 

[Disney_Alli]

My husband asked me what I wanted for Valentine's Day and now I'm really bummed I didn't ask for this gift too!

My friend just had one done and he was back to work two days later but very uncomfortable - he's also a police officer so a pretty physical job.

 

[tcufrog]

He co-owns the business so he makes his own hours and has more flexibility than most people. For example, this past summer we went to the UK for a month.

When he’s at work though, his entire focus has to be there because they are so busy. When I went to the office today to pick up something, some of the staff was looking at blueprints of some office remodeling they’re doing. When they moved in last year it was 4 times bigger than their previous space. They’re already running out of room so they’re redoing the second floor to eke our more space by creating a more efficient layout.

Thanks for the advice y’all. I’m going to tell him that he either needs to postpone the trip or reschedule the vasectomy. I don’t mind either way. I’m currently on the pill and don’t plan to quit because my cycles are awful when I’m off it.

I’m very prone to sinus infections that often only respond to antibiotics which is why he’s going though with this. I hate the fact that I can’t trust the pill to work while I’m on antibiotics and for a month afterwards. When I went off the pill to have kids I got pregnant very fast. We’ve finally decided that my uterus is closed for business and I don’t want to want to chance having another kid.

 

[MamaBelle4]

We’ve finally decided that my uterus is closed for business and I don’t want to want to chance having another kid.

That's actually why I had a tubal ligation after our last child. We didn't want another baby and I don't want another baby. I still have a fair amount of child rearing years and if I should lose him (I hate even typing that out) and eventually remarry, I still do not want another child.

But you didn't ask about that, lol. I'm just sharing my thought process. DH offered to have the procedure when we decided we were done, but I told him I wanted it. Plus, it lessens the chance of ovarian cancer because they now remove the fallopian tubes and it is currently believed that that helps prevent the cancer (somehow?)

 

[tcufrog]

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That's actually why I had a tubal ligation after our last child. We didn't want another baby and I don't want another baby. I still have a fair amount of child rearing years and if I should lose him (I hate even typing that out) and eventually remarry, I still do not want another child.

But you didn't ask about that, lol. I'm just sharing my thought process. DH offered to have the procedure when we decided we were done, but I told him I wanted it. Plus, it lessens the chance of ovarian cancer because they now remove the fallopian tubes and it is currently believed that that helps prevent the cancer (somehow?)

I completely understand where you're coming from. We weren't sure after our second if we wanted another so I didn't take care of matters then. Since I've had three stomach surgeries including 2 emergency c-sections he thought it was his turn to take one for the team.

 

[kdonnel]

Well, my wife was required to come to a meeting with the Doctor before my procedure, and had to sign a release that she was aware what I was doing.

As was mine. Kaiser Permanente would not perform the procedure without her signature. I asked if they required my signature for a tubal ligation and they said yes. This was in 2003.

 

[penn19]

My husband drove himself to the procedure and then (tmi I know) there was something about him having it done that when he got home I couldn’t resist....and then we went shopping. I think the shopping pushed him over the edge because he started to bleed.

 

[TCRAIG]

Know what a man should wear to his vasectomy- a tuxedo - cause if you’re gunna be impotent you mught as well look important!