Eeyores Butterfly
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Nobody can say whether or not this is for you, but there may be things that are painful for you to watch. Here are things to take into consideration:
-Infertility is touched on in one scene as part of a montage. It is literally ony a few seconds in the film and very subtle (they never come out and talk about infertility or miscarriage), but it is there.
-The beginning scenes are about Carl and the relationship with his wife and shows their life together up to her death. It shows the hearbreak he experiences when the love of his life passes away and his curmudgeonly behavior is scene through that lens. I actually liked it because it gave you a basis for the behavior. So often we think of the bitter old person stereotype without thinking about why they are bitter. You don't feel the same way about him as you would if they skipped straight to the incident that acts as a catalyst for the entire plot.
-It is clear that Carl has never really gotten over the loss of Ellie, and this movie really touches on the theme of moving on after a loved one has passed away.
While it is often sad, there are many hilarious parts and I came out feeling uplifted, not down. It did bring back memories of my stepgrandmother/grandfather. I grew up with only one living biological grandparent. My father's father died when my dad was a toddler, my mother's mother died before I was born, and my father's mother died when I was 5 so I have no clear memory of her. My only grandparents that I have memories of are my mother's father and stepmother (grandpa remarried after his wife died) who treated me like her own grandchild.
We lived several states away so only saw them once or twice a year, but I loved them a lot. As my grandparents aged they were no longer able to really live on their own. They were able to take care of each other, but not themselves. After grandpa broke his arm they ended up in an assisted living facility (kind of like the one Carl is supposed to go to). Shortly after my grandfather died. He was the third husband Helen had buried (one lost in the war, one who died of a heart attack, and now grandpa). I remember going to grandpa's funeral with her and how heartbroken she was. She wanted to move back into her house, but could not take care of herself and had to stay in the facility. She died a few months later.
This movie certainly reminded me of grandma after grandpa's death. The idea of needing to live in a facility, the loneliness, the heartbreak. But it wasn't overwhelming. So many times the elderly are not really portrayed in movies or are only peripheral characters. It is nice to have one that tackles the issues that come up with aging in a sensitive and funny way.
-Infertility is touched on in one scene as part of a montage. It is literally ony a few seconds in the film and very subtle (they never come out and talk about infertility or miscarriage), but it is there.
-The beginning scenes are about Carl and the relationship with his wife and shows their life together up to her death. It shows the hearbreak he experiences when the love of his life passes away and his curmudgeonly behavior is scene through that lens. I actually liked it because it gave you a basis for the behavior. So often we think of the bitter old person stereotype without thinking about why they are bitter. You don't feel the same way about him as you would if they skipped straight to the incident that acts as a catalyst for the entire plot.
-It is clear that Carl has never really gotten over the loss of Ellie, and this movie really touches on the theme of moving on after a loved one has passed away.
While it is often sad, there are many hilarious parts and I came out feeling uplifted, not down. It did bring back memories of my stepgrandmother/grandfather. I grew up with only one living biological grandparent. My father's father died when my dad was a toddler, my mother's mother died before I was born, and my father's mother died when I was 5 so I have no clear memory of her. My only grandparents that I have memories of are my mother's father and stepmother (grandpa remarried after his wife died) who treated me like her own grandchild.
We lived several states away so only saw them once or twice a year, but I loved them a lot. As my grandparents aged they were no longer able to really live on their own. They were able to take care of each other, but not themselves. After grandpa broke his arm they ended up in an assisted living facility (kind of like the one Carl is supposed to go to). Shortly after my grandfather died. He was the third husband Helen had buried (one lost in the war, one who died of a heart attack, and now grandpa). I remember going to grandpa's funeral with her and how heartbroken she was. She wanted to move back into her house, but could not take care of herself and had to stay in the facility. She died a few months later.
This movie certainly reminded me of grandma after grandpa's death. The idea of needing to live in a facility, the loneliness, the heartbreak. But it wasn't overwhelming. So many times the elderly are not really portrayed in movies or are only peripheral characters. It is nice to have one that tackles the issues that come up with aging in a sensitive and funny way.
). UP was certainly more poignant, but I genuinely felt the message was overall a postivite one-that our loved ones don't want us to be sad. They want us to take those happy memories and go forward. 
We LOVED UP. That includes DH, myself, DS10 and DD9. We cried and felt sad, laughed really hard and left feeling happy.
