Poor punkin. How's she doing tonight?Mine usually just end up IN my bed at some odd hour of the night. DD for example at 1:14am yesterday, crying incessantly that her ear hurt (hence why DH has been passed out since 4pm tonight)
Yes Pix, so how's it hanging
Alex was transfixed my it. He LOVED that movie. He is my odd little duck.I sat down with the boys to watch it, and they both got up about halfway through to go play!
I loved it, I can't believe they were bored.
And I asked DH if he wanted us to wait to all watch it together, and he said, "No." Oh!
When dh and I were dating, I had an itty bitty little baby, so I was always tired. Plus I worked 10-12 hour shifts... Everytime we watched a movie I would fall asleep. Every darn time!
How cool!!! You super smart chick!Oh sorry, bad habit I can't break. In junior high/high school I was obsessed with British rock, therefore also paying a lot of attention to anything British. I actually was offered a full ride scholarship to Oxford (including free room and board, annual flights for family to come visit, etc...) I used British spellings for years, and still (obviously) tend to
I hear that.I know - exactly!!! There is just one girl in general who reminds me so much of me...and don't get me wrong, I am totally happy with where I am and wouldn't change a thing...but I wouldn't necessarily recommend the path to others
Oh - that so reminds me of a story!!! My 16yo high school girl went to her car to get some cash (she was hungry and wanted a sandwich). She comes storming inside with a sample drug package that was in her car. Her dad is bi-polar and can't take any extra medication, and had used her car that day. She goes on the phone, yells at him for having this medicine, and can't understand why her mom was laughing. She brings it up to the front counter (thank goodness it was shortly before close and we had no customers) just fuming about how her dad is taking medicine he shouldn't be. At that point the manager I am training and I look at the package and realize it is for cialis. We kind of look at her, look at eachother and chuckle. She had no clue!!! At this point is totally mad because she could not believe her parents were doing the dirty
(you didnt happen to keep them did you?) I do all the time.So what is your story? Did you go to college or skip college? Fall in love and get married right away?
I think no matter what path you take in life, you always wonder what if...? It's perfectly natural.
Mine, unfortunately, loves to fall asleep in MY BED.
She is saying the one thing that HER out the most was a parenting class for parents with special needs..She went through the Childrens network to help pay for it.. It helped her so much, and taught her how to deal withhim in a way that she didnt know before.. This is her A #1 thing that she recommends. It has helped her in the best possible way.
Therapy for him.. They will do play therapy with him, and it taught him how to relate cause and effect to what was happening in his life. It makes them nderstand that when you do one thing... this s what happens. Therapy was what taught him to deal with his emotions, and how to control them. That is what helped HIM the most.
She said that FIRST and FOREMOST, you have to stay calm with him. Bury your feelings with what is happening at the moment, because he will feed off that, and it causes more chaos for him. Which just escalates the bad things going on.
When I asked about meds, she said that they would put him on meds while he was in school, because it helped him stay calm anough that he would learn things. It kept him under control long enough that he got help. When he was off school, they would wean him off of them so he could learn to control himself when he wasnt on the drugs. Does that make sense? It made total sense when she told me. He would take them long enough to learn the skills, and as they weaned him off of them, he taught himself how to function without the meds.
Holidays were very bad because it was a huge change in things. Consistancy is so important, because it gives him a sense ofcontrol, Of knowing what is going to happen at every moment.. So he wouldnt have the feeling of chaos. EVERYTHING happening at the same time every day is so important.
I know that even to this day, John eats, sleeps, and even poops at the same time every day. But he is in a regular school, in regular classes, and doing SO WELL. you would never know that he has aspergers.
Okay.. Overview.
Special needs parenting class. My sister was quite insistent that I tell you to get into one of these. She says that it saved her life. It truly is THAT important to her.
Therapy for him. It teaches them how to deal with life. MOST important for them.
Stay calm, otherwise they just feed off you, and they lose control even more.
Meds. GREAT for short term help, but they are not the solution. Only a way for them to stay calm enough to learn how to deal with things.
Consistency. SO important. Helps give them a sense that they are in control.
I really hope this helps you out, she has been dealing with this for 11 years now, and her son is doing so well now. She also wanted me to tell you that the meds. take 6-8 weeks to start working, and it will get worse before it gets better. AND all the therapy in the world for him, wont do a bit of good unless you are informed on how to deal with him. She also says good luck, and she understands what you are going through.
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Wheeee!
Alright...goodnight guys
Thank you!!! Great info there, I will definitely look into a special needs parenting class, I never thought they would be that important (its a kid, feed it bathe it, can't mess it up too bad
Honestly, one of the reasons we moved and the main reason DH demoted was he knew that he physically/emotionally could not deal with the stress ofh is job and then come home and relax and cope, (and just be calm enough) to deal with Alec. I will definitely try to work harder on that one too.
Maybe a more rigid schedule would be good for him...it is funny, he is at the age now that he asks when things are going to happen (i.e. what time I work, etc), and then he runs to the clock (constantly) to let me know what time it is.
Once again, thank you, and tell her thank you too
(not literally)
Well, I guess that makes you a very lucky girl!
So what is your story? Did you go to college or skip college? Fall in love and get married right away?
I think no matter what path you take in life, you always wonder what if...? It's perfectly natural.
Thank you!!! Great info there, I will definitely look into a special needs parenting class, I never thought they would be that important (its a kid, feed it bathe it, can't mess it up too bad
Honestly, one of the reasons we moved and the main reason DH demoted was he knew that he physically/emotionally could not deal with the stress ofh is job and then come home and relax and cope, (and just be calm enough) to deal with Alec. I will definitely try to work harder on that one too.
Maybe a more rigid schedule would be good for him...it is funny, he is at the age now that he asks when things are going to happen (i.e. what time I work, etc), and then he runs to the clock (constantly) to let me know what time it is.
Once again, thank you, and tell her thank you too
I really dont know what I'm jumping in on because I havent read back but send the kiddos down to me anytime you like. They are cute as buttons! I wouldnt mind watching them for a weekend if you guys can ever get time off together. and i'm sure the kids WONT mind. GEESH they still ask when they are going to go over to your house again....well Jake does. morgan gets it but she's sad.
Roll them down the mountain for a weekend!
Alright, I am marking this down (and I have witnesses). You too SO have to come up here sometime...you know when it is 120 and you shed the jacket...put it back on and enjoy our 90 degrees...it is absolutely beautiful, and as I told you before you can leave the kiddos with me and take Jeff to some sleezy hourly hotel (that was your preference)
Aint that the truth.Well, I guess that makes you a very lucky girl!
We love you.
No problem! The parenting class was something that surprised me too. but she said that it really taught her how to go about things differently, and how to better deal with him.
The schedule thing was super important with him. It still is. with Autism/aspergers they have so much chaos inside, that when they have a super strict schedule it is SOO calming for them. It really helps them to have something they feel in control of.
If you have anything else, feel free to ask. I know she would be more then happy to help, she went through this as a single parent with no help from anyone. Doctors, teachers... the school system. She definitely feels your pain.
I still can't believe just how little there is out there for help...I think word of mouth and learning from other parents is really the best option right now, so I appreciate the both of you 
