Untitled Hyena Thread

[Alex2kMommy]

{sigh} I miss the days before erectile dysfunction commercials...

 

[dizzyami]

What are you talking about? High school kids love warped!

I know - exactly!!! There is just one girl in general who reminds me so much of me...and don't get me wrong, I am totally happy with where I am and wouldn't change a thing...but I wouldn't necessarily recommend the path to others

 

[dizzyami]

{sigh} I miss the days before erectile dysfunction commercials...

Oh - that so reminds me of a story!!! My 16yo high school girl went to her car to get some cash (she was hungry and wanted a sandwich). She comes storming inside with a sample drug package that was in her car. Her dad is bi-polar and can't take any extra medication, and had used her car that day. She goes on the phone, yells at him for having this medicine, and can't understand why her mom was laughing. She brings it up to the front counter (thank goodness it was shortly before close and we had no customers) just fuming about how her dad is taking medicine he shouldn't be. At that point the manager I am training and I look at the package and realize it is for cialis. We kind of look at her, look at eachother and chuckle. She had no clue!!! At this point is totally mad because she could not believe her parents were doing the dirty

 

[Alex2kMommy]

I know - exactly!!! There is just one girl in general who reminds me so much of me...and don't get me wrong, I am totally happy with where I am and wouldn't change a thing...but I wouldn't necessarily recommend the path to others

So what is your story? Did you go to college or skip college? Fall in love and get married right away?

I think no matter what path you take in life, you always wonder what if...? It's perfectly natural.

 

[dizzyami]

Ok, DS is passed out on my leg, with his head wedged under the keyboard. Give me a minute while I try to remove him and put him where he belongs

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Oh - that so reminds me of a story!!! My 16yo high school girl went to her car to get some cash (she was hungry and wanted a sandwich). She comes storming inside with a sample drug package that was in her car. Her dad is bi-polar and can't take any extra medication, and had used her car that day. She goes on the phone, yells at him for having this medicine, and can't understand why her mom was laughing. She brings it up to the front counter (thank goodness it was shortly before close and we had no customers) just fuming about how her dad is taking medicine he shouldn't be. At that point the manager I am training and I look at the package and realize it is for cialis. We kind of look at her, look at eachother and chuckle. She had no clue!!! At this point is totally mad because she could not believe her parents were doing the dirty

I remember as a teenager asking my mom (snottily, I might add), "You don't still DO that, do you?" and she laughed and said, "Yes, of course we do."

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Ok, DS is passed out on my leg, with his head wedged under the keyboard. Give me a minute while I try to remove him and put him where he belongs

Kids can fall asleep in the darndest locations and positions!

 

[dizzyami]

Kids can fall asleep in the darndest locations and positions!

Oh yes, I do understand you are an expert in that department

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Wow, apparently a lot of older men watch CBS on Thursday nights (Survivor, CSI, Without a Trace), judging by the frequency of the erectile dysfunction commercials. GEESH already!!!

 

[eatmypixiedust]

HELLO

 

[dizzyami]

Wow, apparently a lot of older men watch CBS on Thursday nights (Survivor, CSI, Without a Trace), judging by the frequency of the erectile dysfunction commercials. GEESH already!!!

I guess I am thankful I have a TiVo and skip all the commercials

 

[dizzyami]

HELLO

PIXSTER!!!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Oh yes, I do understand you are an expert in that department

Mine, unfortunately, loves to fall asleep in MY BED.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

PIXSTER!!!

DIZZMEISTER!!!

 

[dizzyami]

Mine, unfortunately, loves to fall asleep in MY BED.

Mine usually just end up IN my bed at some odd hour of the night. DD for example at 1:14am yesterday, crying incessantly that her ear hurt (hence why DH has been passed out since 4pm tonight )

 

[Alex2kMommy]

HELLO

Pixster! Please save us from discussing ED!!!

 

[staley7580]

She is saying the one thing that HER out the most was a parenting class for parents with special needs..She went through the Childrens network to help pay for it.. It helped her so much, and taught her how to deal withhim in a way that she didnt know before.. This is her A #1 thing that she recommends. It has helped her in the best possible way.

Therapy for him.. They will do play therapy with him, and it taught him how to relate cause and effect to what was happening in his life. It makes them nderstand that when you do one thing... this s what happens. Therapy was what taught him to deal with his emotions, and how to control them. That is what helped HIM the most.

She said that FIRST and FOREMOST, you have to stay calm with him. Bury your feelings with what is happening at the moment, because he will feed off that, and it causes more chaos for him. Which just escalates the bad things going on.

When I asked about meds, she said that they would put him on meds while he was in school, because it helped him stay calm anough that he would learn things. It kept him under control long enough that he got help. When he was off school, they would wean him off of them so he could learn to control himself when he wasnt on the drugs. Does that make sense? It made total sense when she told me. He would take them long enough to learn the skills, and as they weaned him off of them, he taught himself how to function without the meds.

Holidays were very bad because it was a huge change in things. Consistancy is so important, because it gives him a sense ofcontrol, Of knowing what is going to happen at every moment.. So he wouldnt have the feeling of chaos. EVERYTHING happening at the same time every day is so important.

I know that even to this day, John eats, sleeps, and even poops at the same time every day. But he is in a regular school, in regular classes, and doing SO WELL. you would never know that he has aspergers.

Okay.. Overview.

Special needs parenting class. My sister was quite insistent that I tell you to get into one of these. She says that it saved her life. It truly is THAT important to her.

Therapy for him. It teaches them how to deal with life. MOST important for them.

Stay calm, otherwise they just feed off you, and they lose control even more.

Meds. GREAT for short term help, but they are not the solution. Only a way for them to stay calm enough to learn how to deal with things.

Consistency. SO important. Helps give them a sense that they are in control.


I really hope this helps you out, she has been dealing with this for 11 years now, and her son is doing so well now. She also wanted me to tell you that the meds. take 6-8 weeks to start working, and it will get worse before it gets better. AND all the therapy in the world for him, wont do a bit of good unless you are informed on how to deal with him. She also says good luck, and she understands what you are going through.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Pixster! Please save us from discussing ED!!!

I just got home from Target and Kohl's. Go!

 

[dizzyami]

DIZZMEISTER!!!

Wow, I think I am getting dizzy just looking at that

 

[dizzyami]

Pixster! Please save us from discussing ED!!!

Yes Pix, so how's it hanging (j/k)