Untitled DL chat thread. Everyone is welcome! Part 11

[Alex2kMommy]

I was reading an article in Woman's Day magazine today.. giving advice that it is ok to say NO to your children---- ummmmmmm , duh?????

Sounds like common sense parenting to me.

No, you may not put cheese in the dvd player.
No hitting.
No you can't wear hoochie momma clothes to school.. or anywhere else because I'm not buying them.

I saw an article like that too, and thought, "WTH?! DUH!"

But when I thought about it, there are a lot of parents today who are AFRAID to say no to their child. I had a SIL who wanted to be her child's friend, not mother. She never wanted her child to be mad at her. She now has an adult child who is not self-sufficient, and a 4yo who is a holy terror.

She visited with the kids last spring, and the little hellion was soo unbelievably bratty! And she hit DS7 several times when no one else was looking. Of course he didn't hit her back (but I kinda wished he had!) but he was both physically hurt and emotionally hurt: "Why would she do that, Mama?"

She really loved DS3, however, and he picked up a few bad habits from her that we had to nip in the bud. DH and I agreed we will never let our children around her DD again!

I agree with you. She was asking me about piano lessons for her DD4. I told her that when you're 4 years old, your attention span is very limited. She may sit there for 5-10 minutes but that's it. I suggested she wait until her DD4 is a bit older (maybe 7 years old at least), that way she may have more discipline to sit and learn longer (I think it's my co-worker who wants to force her to learn). She does have very unrealistic visions of her DD4.....everything her DD4 is interested in, she has to take "seriously." She shocked all of us when she said her DD4 is bad at art. I said:" What do you mean she's bad at art??" She said: "Her artwork is so ugly! I don't want to take it home so when her teacher gives it to me, I throw it in the trash can!" My mom has kept everything that me and my siblings have made over the years. It's very sentimental to her and it's fun to look back at it years later. I can't imagine anyone throwing their child's art work away or pushing them to be "serious" in their interests at such a young age. I tried to explain to her that when you're young, your interests change. One day you may want to be a ballerina and next day you may want to be an astronaut.

OMG, that poor child! Does she throw things away in front of the child??? That's the absolute worst thing you can do to kill a child's interest in anything! They work so hard on something and expect to get praise for their efforts, and Mom throws it in the garbage???

 

[eatmypixiedust]

I know! One time DS7 absolutely refused to pick up a bunch of toys he had strewn all over the floor. I tried over and over to get him to pick them up, and finally threatened to pack them up myself and give them all away. He still refused.

So when DH got home and heard this, he said, "Fine." He picked them all up on the spot and tossed the gigantic bag into the back of the SUV. DS7 was like this:

We actually just stored them in our closet, and he's been allowed to earn a few of them back.

My little sister was misbehaving one time and my parents told me that they threattned to take away her cell phone. Well she said: "You can't! I still have the phone!" and she hid it somewhere. Then my dad said: "Good for you! I have your SIM card!!"

 

[funnygarcia]

We had parents that tossed art work even before they left the building.

Toddler teacher would find newsletters/calendars in the trash -- obviously they didn't even read it, so how is the parent going to know policy changes/upcoming events/ curriculum ???? She started writing names on every scrap of paper, scoop it out of trash and put it back into the child's cubby.


I moved the garbage can.. a little harder to throw it away if it's not next to the door

At least take it home! Breaks a teacher's heart to see all that hard work so carelessly thrown in the trash.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

OMG, that poor child! Does she throw things away in front of the child??? That's the absolute worst thing you can do to kill a child's interest in anything! They work so hard on something and expect to get praise for their efforts, and Mom throws it in the garbage???

Yes she does! That's the sad part but she's unphased and doesn't think there is anything wrong in tossing it. She told us she threw away the things that her DD made her for mother's day and such too. I think that's plain awful!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

I'm picturing a small child putting cheese into a DVD player.

Another co-worker of mine said that her niece wore skanky clothes underneath regular clothes. Kissed her parents goodbye and ran over to the neighbor's house and took off what she was wearing. Then she would wear the hoochie clothes to school. My co-worker said her niece's parents are dumb as rocks and don't want to believe that their precious child could do wrong in any way. Her niece's mother got a thong as a gift and it was a joke. Her niece snuck into her mom's dresser and wore it to school when she was 12 years old.

DS7, when he was 2yo, stuffed a bunch of Matchbox cars in the tape player. At first I thought it was just one or two, but there were like 15 or 20~

Incredibly we were able to get them all out, and the thing still worked.

In jr. high school one of my friends got in with a bad crowd. Her parents were too strict with her, always made her wear her hair in a ponytail at the back of her head and dress very conservatively, really very childish at an age when they want to wear make-up and pantyhose and heels, etc.

So she saved up some babysitting money, bought make-up and hoochie clothes and would keep them in her locker at school. Then she'd change when she got to school, and after school she'd scrub her face and change back. I don't think her parents had any idea until she turned up pregnant in 9th grade. GEESH, they were so clueless!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

My little sister was misbehaving one time and my parents told me that they threattned to take away her cell phone. Well she said: "You can't! I still have the phone!" and she hid it somewhere. Then my dad said: "Good for you! I have your SIM card!!"

 

[funnygarcia]

My little sister was misbehaving one time and my parents told me that they threattned to take away her cell phone. Well she said: "You can't! I still have the phone!" and she hid it somewhere. Then my dad said: "Good for you! I have your SIM card!!"

Good one!

Your dad is one smart cookie!

ohhhhh, hubby was sharing with a dialysis tech that his school's clothing policy has changed. They can no longer wear tank tops/camis.
The tech got pissed off and told him that the school calls her all the time to bring clothes for her middle school daughter. She brings the replacements, the staff say those are not appropriate either.. she got pissed and brought her daughter home from school for the day.
She plans to just bring her home everytime they call.... what the heck??? You would rather your child miss school then just send her in clothes according to policy??? I don't get it.

 

[funnygarcia]

ok, off to the laundry building to switch my three loads.

We found a laundry bin on wheels at Walmart- worked great! I can carry two loads with no strain on my back or worrying about missing a step and breaking my head ( couldn't see over the basket).

 

[Alex2kMommy]

Good one!

Your dad is one smart cookie!

ohhhhh, hubby was sharing with a dialysis tech that his school's clothing policy has changed. They can no longer wear tank tops/camis.
The tech got pissed off and told him that the school calls her all the time to bring clothes for her middle school daughter. She brings the replacements, the staff say those are not appropriate either.. she got pissed and brought her daughter home from school for the day.
She plans to just bring her home everytime they call.... what the heck??? You would rather your child miss school then just send her in clothes according to policy??? I don't get it.

I don't get it, either. If there is a dress code, follow it. It ain't rocket science! I suppose she's making a point? That her daughter should be allowed to dress hoochie? doesn't the parent get in trouble if the child misses so many days of school?

DS3 just woke, so I need to go. It's been nice chatting with you all. I'll try to get on tonight. I need to get packing, though, haven't done that yet!

 

[tinkermell]

Good grief there are bad parents out there!!!! Can you imagine throwing your childs art project away? I don't care if it was just a scribble..........to them it was art. How sad. That parent is in for a world of hurt and trouble.
And to think a 4 year old needs to know now if she wants to be a professional ballerina. Someone needs to hit that ladys' head a time or two, and knock some sense into it. What if she just took it for fun. So what?? Does she even figure in the fact that dance is good for you, gives confidence and helps build esteem? Not to mention down the road in athletics too.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

DS7, when he was 2yo, stuffed a bunch of Matchbox cars in the tape player. At first I thought it was just one or two, but there were like 15 or 20~

Incredibly we were able to get them all out, and the thing still worked.

In jr. high school one of my friends got in with a bad crowd. Her parents were too strict with her, always made her wear her hair in a ponytail at the back of her head and dress very conservatively, really very childish at an age when they want to wear make-up and pantyhose and heels, etc.

So she saved up some babysitting money, bought make-up and hoochie clothes and would keep them in her locker at school. Then she'd change when she got to school, and after school she'd scrub her face and change back. I don't think her parents had any idea until she turned up pregnant in 9th grade. GEESH, they were so clueless!

Preggers in 9th grade??? Geeze! I still consider 9th graders to be babies! I bet her clueless parents were thrilled to know that they would be raising her child.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Good one!

Your dad is one smart cookie!

ohhhhh, hubby was sharing with a dialysis tech that his school's clothing policy has changed. They can no longer wear tank tops/camis.
The tech got pissed off and told him that the school calls her all the time to bring clothes for her middle school daughter. She brings the replacements, the staff say those are not appropriate either.. she got pissed and brought her daughter home from school for the day.
She plans to just bring her home everytime they call.... what the heck??? You would rather your child miss school then just send her in clothes according to policy??? I don't get it.

My dad is funny and yes, he's smart! I thought it was funny because he pulled out the SIM card from his shirt pocket and she was like: *stomp stomp stomp* *slams door*

My older sister was there too and she thought it was funny

 

[Albort]

Good one!

Your dad is one smart cookie!

ohhhhh, hubby was sharing with a dialysis tech that his school's clothing policy has changed. They can no longer wear tank tops/camis.
The tech got pissed off and told him that the school calls her all the time to bring clothes for her middle school daughter. She brings the replacements, the staff say those are not appropriate either.. she got pissed and brought her daughter home from school for the day.
She plans to just bring her home everytime they call.... what the heck??? You would rather your child miss school then just send her in clothes according to policy??? I don't get it.

but yet, Uniform for girls seems to always have short skirts...

 

[funnygarcia]

but yet, Uniform for girls seems to always have short skirts...

Did you read about my husband following the mini skirts yesterday? They were all college aged ladies in a group.

He is easily entertained.

 

[funnygarcia]

J and I were torturing the cat, making her dance while we hummed/lalalaaad Iron Man.
Which made me wonder if we have it on our computer... well we don't have it.. so I looked it up on Itunes. There is some funky versions of Ozzy Osbourne's Iron Man.

Jazz, folk, pop, electronic, dance, country-- very amusing to listen to the samples of each.
The country version made us want to spewwwwwwwww UGH!

 

[eatmypixiedust]

J and I were torturing the cat, making her dance while we hummed/lalalaaad Iron Man.
Which made me wonder if we have it on our computer... well we don't have it.. so I looked it up on Itunes. There is some funky versions of Ozzy Osbourne's Iron Man.

Jazz, folk, pop, electronic, dance, country-- very amusing to listen to the samples of each.
The country version made us want to spewwwwwwwww UGH!

I never liked that song. I could never understand what Ozzy was saying...unless he was singing. Then I understood perfectly well. I saw a few episodes of their show on MTV before. I had to turn on the subtitles just to understand his muttering.

 

[funnygarcia]

I never liked that song. I could never understand what Ozzy was saying...unless he was singing. Then I understood perfectly well. I saw a few episodes of their show on MTV before. I had to turn on the subtitles just to understand his muttering.

I was telling J... this is Ozzy before he friend his brain cells

 

[disneegrl4eva]

Though the recipe I "followed" listed several spices I didn't have on hand, so I just skipped them, used only the sweet spicy mustard and the honey. It was VERY bland, but still edible. I was very disappointed. So yes, I could still use a good recipe that is lowfat for DH's heart.

have you thought about using dijon mustard alex???? that has some good spices and you can add honey too it...being in seattle I cant even begin to imagine the options available to you in regards to herbs and spices...do you ever go to pikes peak? I bet they would have some great stuff and also you should buy the coarse grain mustard that has the whole mustard seeds in it and put it in a blender or processor along with the dijon and honey and see how that tastes...if its too thick then stream in a little olive oil

Darn, my flowers died over the weekend. I had to throw them out. I put enough water too but I guess it's not good to have them in this office.

dang pix that sux....next time you decide to be creative make sure you put an aspirin in the water...that will help them last longer...and every time you fill the water back up put another aspirin

The only part of that recipe that would be fatty is the butter; I wonder what would happen if I left it out? And I don't have curry, but I'm sure it's easy to find these days... Yellow curry?

oh man I love curry...curry chicken and jasmine rice plus naan is the best ever

Also got a few snackish things for the trip; I'm trying not to fill our suitcases with food, since Staley is going to take me to the grocery store when we get there. But I think they're probably cheaper here...

OH! And the DIS designers came through today! I re-posted my request and somebody made several versions of the design for DL!!! I'm so excited!

wtg alex...whoo hoo...as far as the snacks you are right about getting them at walmart but also have staley take you to Food4Less for water, juices perishable stuff you can keep in the fridge...its straight down harbor all the way by garden grove but it is a clean store and cheap cheap cheap...also I bought a nice tray of fruit..it had canteloupe, green melon, grapes and pineapple...that was the best fruit I have ever bought at a store...I just bought some baggies and split the fruit in the tray up in the baggies so it would fit in the fridge and it worked out great...every am me or andrea would pull out the bags of fruit and the kids would eat some while everyone was getting ready for the day and we had cereal and mini muffins and stuff as well...good breakfast and if you dont have time all that can go in your bag and take it to the park

I don't know. A lot of times using margarine (or low-fat margarine) doesn't work out well with some recipes. A 1/4 is what, half a stick? Probably not too bad health-wise... Worth checking out though!

i know exactly what you mean....however, a few years ago my aunt turned me on to a margarine called "canola harvest" it comes in a little tub thats green with yellow writing and its made with canola oil...the stuff is awesome especially for frying because it doesnt water down like alot of margarines...it just fries up...and the taste is really good...I would definitely substitute the butter in a recipe for that

Hi everyone,
I'm back from the dead . ("So to say.")
I finally felt like going on the internet today. And it has taken me this long to catch up. My recovery time took longer than I anticipated. My stomach is still swollen, and it took awhile for the pressure to absorb back into my body. I had terrible pain in my shoulders and neck. Weird huh??? But they did tell me to expect that from the gas. I think plumbing problems on my behalf caused some of these problems too, if you get my drift. And now I have the opposite problem. Yes Megan, if you were here, I now have to be close to the bathroom. I hope that doesn't last very long. Geesh!!!


I've been reading up on everyone.
I wish I could respond to all. But I did want to let Lynn know that she will be in my prayers too , and I hope her diagnosis is wrong!


Oh and one more thought. I was thinking it was a good thing, I'm not going this weekend. I don't think I would have been very much fun, not to mention not getting to eat very much. Bummer! But I am still thinking of trying to make it on the 26th. I should be much better by then. We'll see.

aww thanks tink and I hope your feeling better too...hey when I go down to DL later in the month I should stop buy and check on you to see how your doing...

oh and btw...Christina its not a nunya(none of your business)...my doctor ran some blood tests last week and said he was concerned because something showed up on the blood panel that may be in relation to Lupus which is a non curable disease that causes my body to attack its own self and I am going back Friday for more testing

 

[disneegrl4eva]

I never liked that song. I could never understand what Ozzy was saying...unless he was singing. Then I understood perfectly well. I saw a few episodes of their show on MTV before. I had to turn on the subtitles just to understand his muttering.

I AM IRON MAN dum dum dumdumdum dadadadadada da dum dum dum

 

[eatmypixiedust]

I AM IRON MAN dum dum dumdumdum dadadadadada da dum dum dum

Neener neener! I can't hear you!!