I think the idea of trips instead of presents is great. We are thinking of doing the same - you spend so much on presents, but really, as adults, you just buy what you need anyway.
Where do sister and BIL live in Maine. We go to Maine quite often. We are less than 40 minutes from the border. My parents have a summer home up in Wells, and our whole big family goes to Old Orchard every labor day.
By the way HRH could definately be romantic,and for sure will be fun. We really liked lounging by the pool, drinking tropical drinks - it was very relaxing - and we had to keep our eyes on our little ones! But still, it was romantic and peaceful - till someone had an "accident" in the pool!! It was a riot. The pool was cleared in about 2 second and the lifeguards, bartenders, waitresses, and every other staff member possible, came around to look at the "accident". Complete with walkie talkies, pointing, and much discussion. It seemed no one knew what to do, and no one wanted that particular job! LOL
surprised he hasn't joined in yet!! 
