Unexcited: How Many Of You Have Lost Your Love For WDW?

[BCV23]

disneygirl21, how does everyone else in your family feel?

 

[Lisa3]

I may be off base but I am concerned about the desperation in your posts. I have no idea how old you are or whether you are going with your parents or if you have a family of your own. If you are going with your parents I really would sit down and talk to them about how unhappy you are and try to work out a solution as a family. If you are older and have a family of your own I would discuss this with the adult you will be taking these trips with (husband or significant other).

In either case please talk to someone close to you about how you feel. These boards are great to share ideas but they are not a replacement for the people who care about you most.

 

[*Fantasia*]

Originally posted by disneygirl21
IS IT STILL TOO LATE TO CANCEL???????

You better call tomorrow if you want to cancel. You're very very close to that 5 days out for cancellation.

If your family doesn't mind not going to WDW because you don't feel like you want to be there, then go ahead cancel. Just do Hawaii or Bermuda. It sounds more relaxing anyway. You can always come back to WDW when you feel ready.

 

[phamton]

Originally posted by Lisa3
I have no idea how old you are or whether you are going with your parents or if you have a family of your own. If you are going with your parents I really would sit down and talk to them about how unhappy you are and try to work out a solution as a family.

She is 15 years old. She needs to discuss it with her parents.

 

[JKanownik]

 

[kangaandroo]

Originally posted by Lisa3
I may be off base but I am concerned about the desperation in your posts.

I have to agree with Lisa3. Talk to your parents!

 

[bigbabyblues]

Maybe if you don't want to go, you could stay with a friend and the rest of your family can go? If you booked a room only, the only thing they're out for you is probably your PHP, and they don't expire. If they booked package, maybe they could cancel one person?

As far as the money from the last trip, you couldn't help getting sick, don't feel bad. As a parent, I would rather leave a trip a couple days early than know my child is miserable and sick and can't enjoy the vacation.

Please talk to your parents and see what they say. Let them know how you feel, tell them everything.

Steph

 

[cdpa4d]

I think part of is planning, preparing and getting excited about your trip for 365 days prior to actually leaving does drain your excitement, especially right before you leave. I must be on these boards once a day, sometimes twice a day 8 months before our scheduled trip. By the time we get ready to leave my excitement is lost because of all the pre planning hype! However, once I get to the Orlando airport I get so excited my DW thinks I am crazy. I hope you have a great trip. Take the advice from the other posters and try to enjoy just being away from the daily routine. Have a great Trip!
ADP

 

[Magickndm]

Have to say, I live 2 hours away, with annual passes, go at least 2 times a month...and nope....I have never lost my love of WDW.

 

[goofyernmost]

I guess that this proves it...I am a fossilized fud! I am older than the hills! One foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel!

Not as a slam against the poster but at what point in time did the world change and a 15 year old is left to make the decisions that effect everyone around them. My guess is a boyfriend at home or just the old teenage, "I don't want to be seen with my family" syndrome.

I look at that list of vacations and can't help but shake my head in wonder. When I was 15 the furthest I got from home was a campsite about 20 miles for the house. I was 35 before I ever went to Disney and that took a couple of years of planning and saving to do so.

It appears that this isn't a case of having unappreciative children, it is a case of being an unappreciative child. I'm having a hard time feeling to much sorrow for the situation. If I was the parent, in this case, I would find a responsible relative and leave her home. Why waste a good vacation on someone that doesn't know what they have until it is gone.

Sorry for the negativity in this post but it just hits me in some very sensitive spots.

 

[Lisa3]

I could not stop thinking about this all night. Knowing that Disneygirl21 is 15 years old sheds a whole new light on this thread. There is no way you can compare what she is feeling to someone who is 24, 30 or 40+. I do not get the sense that she feels overwhelmed by things to be done before the trip or the need to get away from everyday stresses. These are adult problems. I do hear guilt about getting sick on the last trip, guilt about the fact that her parents have spent alot of money on this trip and more guilt about not being happy for all her parents have done for her.

Many of you might think I am "over the top" but I can't help being concerned for a 15 year old who seems depressed. Many times as parents we try to give our kids everything thinking that they will feel more loved for our efforts (I know I am guilty of this). Sometimes I really think this overburdens them and we need to step back and discuss as a family what is important.

Traveling is educational and a wonderful way to spend family time together but at some times in our lives needs to be done in moderation. During the teen years friendships and school activities are very important. Developing a sense of responsibility and good self esteem are equally important. I would think that traveling every couple of months especially during school is alot for a teen to cope with.

Disneygirl 21 - Again, please talk to your parents. Don't be afraid about dissappointing them. When you become a parent you vow to put that child's needs before your own . What my child is feeling is more important than all the trips or any amount of money. Please let us know how you made out.

 

[Grumpy37]

Maybe at a younger age the drama of the situation ratchets up the anxiety a little higher?

 

[JKanownik]

Originally posted by Grumpy37
Maybe at a younger age the drama of the situation ratchets up the anxiety a little higher?

At a younger age many higher level anxiety defense mechanisms have not had a chance to develop yet. This doesn't increase overall anxiety per se, but makes it much harder to deal with the anxiety and can very easliy lead to a mental breakdown. (I should point out that getting older doesn't necessarily give you higher level defense mechanisms, it merely allows you the time to develop them.) In the case of a mental breakdown anything that increases anxiety will be seen as "bad". In this case there are obviously mixed feelings on the Disney trip that are causing anxiety. Disney may or may not have been the source of the original anxiety that is causing the mental breakdown. School or relationships with parents or friends could be the source of the original extreme anxiety.

I should point out that while I have used the term mental breakdown I am by no means being negative. It is a completely normal thing and happens to everyone at one or more points in their life. Without knowing exact personal situations I can only offer the following general ideas for dealing with this situation:

1) Try to figure out the source of the original anxiety. Write down anything that is weighing on your mind right now and what your feelings are on that subject. Start out with a simple sentence to describe the topic and then write a single word that best describes your feelings. Go into more detail from there until you figure it out.

2) Repeat step #1 with the Disney trip. Split the trip up into dinstinct parts such as "planning", "flying", "staying at the hotel", "being away from home", "being away from my friends".

3) After you write down what is weighing on your mind and what your feelings are, look for solutions to remove any sources of anxiety. For example, if you are worried about missing your friends while you are down there, buy a phone card before you leave so that you know that you can call them at any time while you are down there. If you are having trouble coming up with solutions I'm sure there are many people on this board that will be happy to help you.

4) If you are unable to resolve these issues on your own, you need to turn for support to whomever you feel most comfortable with. If you aren't comfortable talking with your parents about your anxiety, don't talk to them quite yet (you do however, need to let them know that you are having reservations about taking the trip). You could try seeking support from friends on the internet (which provides a very safe psychological environment) or from an actual pschologist/psychiatrist. If you have difficulty speaking with your parents you will eventually need to go to them if you are unable to resolve your anxiety through other support groups.

Please remember that the feelings you are having are perfectly normal, perfectly acceptable and are treatable. If your parents are unwilling or unable to help you it is not your fault, and there are other sources of support.

-DH

 

[kdibattista]

I really, really, really love to plan so I get a little bummed out when the planning ends . I sometimes rearrange my itinerary so I can continue planning

 

[ktulu]

For some reason, I wasn't that excited last time we went, until the morning of, but the hustle to get to the airport and making sure we had everything kept the excitement down, it didn't hit me really until I saw the Wilderness Lodge as we drove up, then I was a little kid again, wondering around the Lobby all wide eyed. Just thinking about that makes me really want to go back

darrrrren

 

[kangaandroo]

Originally posted by kdibattista
I really, really, really love to plan so I get a little bummed out when the planning ends . I sometimes rearrange my itinerary so I can continue planning

ME TOO! Glad to hear I'm not the only crazy one!


Disneygal, listen to what JKanownik has to say. It sounds like he/she know's what they are talking about. I hope all is well, andd let us know how you are!

Stace

 

[disneygirl21]

disneygirl21, how does everyone else in your family feel?

They are excited. And guess what? I'm excited again! I guess it was that we were just there and we've never been to WDW in less than one month before.

Thanks for all your help. I thought it over and over. I even watched videos of our last trip (April 2004) and I got my excitement back! Thanks so much! Without you guys, I would be a sourpuss throughout the vaca!

Sorry to have kept you up all night Lisa3! lol


Excited to return to and !!!!!

 

[JKanownik]

Originally posted by goofyernmost
I look at that list of vacations and can't help but shake my head in wonder. When I was 15 the furthest I got from home was a campsite about 20 miles for the house. I was 35 before I ever went to Disney and that took a couple of years of planning and saving to do so.

It appears that this isn't a case of having unappreciative children, it is a case of being an unappreciative child. I'm having a hard time feeling to much sorrow for the situation. If I was the parent, in this case, I would find a responsible relative and leave her home. Why waste a good vacation on someone that doesn't know what they have until it is gone.

I think you hit the nail on the head! I was waiting for someone to say this. I wish my biggest problem at 15 was that I was tired of going to WDW because I was spoiled with too many vacations.

-DW (Colleen)

PS. My husband is way too compassionate for this particular situation.

 

[sodaseller]

Last summer as we were going through Florida four trips, I found the magic “waning”. Without realizing it, I overplanned trips two and three, and my daughter got sick. Then we went to AK for our last trip on a day there was hardly a soul in the Park. My daughter overcame her fear of roller coasters that day at Primeval Whirl and the day was just so special overall. The Magic was back. Then we tried MVMCP, which was also magical. We are in the midst of this year’s four trips (the period expires 6/4) and the last two visits have been magical. We saw Fantasmic for the first time (again a fear factor had to be overcome) and went on Test Track. If you take it slow and go on uncrowded days, it’s wonderful