Uh oh SIL can't make it for tomorrow!

[MomofStitchandLewis]

But at least my brother is still coming with the kids....but my hubby is miffed. She's going to school to be a nurse practitioner and just got back from a weekend wedding and realized she has too much work to do so she won't be joining us at VB.

I say at least my brother is coming and we're not eating the points but he just feels slighted. Your thoughts?

 

[DebbieB]

But at least my brother is still coming with the kids....but my hubby is miffed. She's going to school to be a nurse practitioner and just got back from a weekend wedding and realized she has too much work to do so she won't be joining us at VB.

I say at least my brother is coming and we're not eating the points but he just feels slighted. Your thoughts?

Her loss. I'd be more miffed if it was your brother.

 

[KAT4DISNEY]

Life happens. I'd be bummed but not miffed especially since the rest of the family is coming. If she's stressed out over all she has to do it probably wouldn't be fun for her and maybe others too.

Miffed might happen if the whole family cancelled after knowing for several weeks that they probably couldn't make it.

 

[Caseheidi]

Wow, school work for that is overwhelming. I would try to be understanding and not let it ruin your time. School is only for a few years, and takes a lot of time and energy. I remember my Mom missed a lot of things with us while she studied for her RN, but it was worth it when she completed the program.

 

[Turbanator]

Yep it's her loss

 

[Dean]

But at least my brother is still coming with the kids....but my hubby is miffed. She's going to school to be a nurse practitioner and just got back from a weekend wedding and realized she has too much work to do so she won't be joining us at VB.

I say at least my brother is coming and we're not eating the points but he just feels slighted. Your thoughts?

It depends but if this is a trend, I'd cross her and hers off the list for future trips, best to avoid drama than to hope it doesn't happen.

 

[TagsMissy]

Life happens OP, I assume your brother and his wife were sharing a bed so it's not like you needed a bigger villa, it's the same number of beds and with points it's not like you are paying extra for her. I have more respect for her that she's doing the right thing in studying as it's her education and future career. It's not like the whole family is bailing on you.

Tell your husband to let it go and look at the bigger picture.

 

[MomofStitchandLewis]

Thanks everybody - showed this thread to hubby. I think he is back to relaxing - which is what VB is for!

 

[DisneyRegulars]

Having just finished my Doctorate and spending countless hours doing school work while 'visiting' friends, I can sympathize with your SIL. I think it's best that she stay home. She will be able to use the time to get some valuable work done which is very difficult with kids around. She also won't be doing work the whole time while on vacation, which would probably be even more annoying to you than her cancelling.

Imagine how you would feel if she went and all she did was hide in her room the entire time doing school work. It would probably be a different thread titled 'SIL hid in her room the entire time!!!! I'm so miffffffed!!!!!'

This is really a win-win for everybody. Kids and brother still have a great time, SIL gets free time to work uninterrupted, you get time with your brother alone which probably doesn't happen too often.

 

[mgrebenc]

My sis cancelled the morning of our trip. No valid reason. The kids were acting up so they just decided to not go. So, there were 4 of us in a grand villa. She sounded absolutely shocked when I told her that they would no longer be invited on any future vacations. (Oh, did I mention that we never charge our guests, it is always our treat.)

Your situation, maybe disappointing, not too bad.

 

[Minniesgal]

I think life is more important than holidays and that coursework should come first.

 

[crisi]

One of my close girlfriends is going to nursing school. She spent a critical weekend before a gating test out of town with us. She stayed home an extra day, she brought her books and studied. And she failed the test by TWO questions. It put her back a year on finishing.

It was a nice weekend, it was not worth a year and having to retake that coursework.

 

[bumbershoot]

Wow, school work for that is overwhelming. I would try to be understanding and not let it ruin your time. School is only for a few years, and takes a lot of time and energy. I remember my Mom missed a lot of things with us while she studied for her RN, but it was worth it when she completed the program.

Yep. Lots of things have to change when someone's in college, and family should be the FIRST to recognize this and be gracious about it.

Thanks everybody - showed this thread to hubby. I think he is back to relaxing - which is what VB is for!

Thank goodness.

This is really a win-win for everybody. Kids and brother still have a great time, SIL gets free time to work uninterrupted, you get time with your brother alone which probably doesn't happen too often.

Yep!



My husband gets weird about my SIL's absences (new partner in a top 10 law firm...her availability ever since law school has been very low), thinking it's because of him, but I won't let him indulge. She's just a busy, busy woman who has to adjust her schedule for work stuff ALL the time, and is truly sad when she has to stay at work when she knows we're there, in the spa and having a great time. She loves the lights-off light saber battles she has with DS (onlookers have our "lightsaber sound" apps on and try to match their battles), and when DH is there he plays, too. It's so fun when she's there, but sometimes she simply cannot be there, and it's not because of avoidance. It's just the career she's chosen.

Same with your SIL; this is her schooling for her career, and absences have to happen sometimes. And there's absolutely no need for an adult, who should understand it, to feel slighted.

 

[Dean]

Having just finished my Doctorate and spending countless hours doing school work while 'visiting' friends, I can sympathize with your SIL. I think it's best that she stay home.

While I think we all understand up to a point, in this case there was clearly poor planning on the SIL part. She knew all of the obligations ahead of time and could have either done both with planning or should have known much earlier if she couldn't.

My sis cancelled the morning of our trip. No valid reason. The kids were acting up so they just decided to not go. So, there were 4 of us in a grand villa. She sounded absolutely shocked when I told her that they would no longer be invited on any future vacations. (Oh, did I mention that we never charge our guests, it is always our treat.)

Your situation, maybe disappointing, not too bad.

I'm betting this wasn't the first drama with the group in question.