Ugh! Why do people say such things?!!?

[mickeymouse1017]

I have gotten all of these replies at some point during my last 36 trips. However, I think that the person that shocked me the most was the mother of one of my first graders that said that they were not going to take her 6 year old son to Disney World because he is too mature for something like that. EXCUSE ME??? Made me wonder what she thought of me. Notice that I said wonder because I sure don't care!

 

[wannago2disney]

my DM has the same reaction about our 2nd trip. It's even worse since I told her I hope to save up the $$ to go back next year. Again? "Isn't that expensive" "not as expensive as your cigarettes" SHe didn't say another word.

that is soooooo the right reaction....I have a friend that had that same reaction....She tells me "it must be nice to have a husband who can afford to take you everywhere and buy you whatever you want while you sit a on you @$$ at home"....I'm a stay at home Mom with a 2 and 4 yr old, 2 dogs and 2 cats...I work...I just don't receive a paycheck in the form of money.

I think that when people have these kinds of negative verbal reactions it is more of a jealousy thing than anything else...even if they are in denial, they would so rather be able to say they are going to Disney than not!

 

[bellebud]

"not as expensive as your cigarettes"

that really made me chuckle!!

 

[SusanMomOf2]

Now's the time to take our kids to Disney! It's a different experience every time you go!!! Especially for the kids. Last trip was a Cinderella trip. This one is a Pirates of the Caribbean trip. It depends on which movie we're feelin' at the time. Lol. As many times as we visited Magic Kingdom last year, I always felt amazed at how absolutely splendid Main Street looked!!!

When the kids are older, we'll start going to different places. But I don't want to bore the 2 year old just yet. She will love this trip whereas when she's 5 or older, she may begin to appreciate New York City, London, or Paris. My 7 year old is ready to see those places, and in time, she will. (We have been on a mission trip to Mexico...) But now, it's time for Disney. It's so family friendly and exciting!

 

[mytwinklestar]

We get the "attitude" often. Quite frankly, I don't care what anyone else thinks. I agree with previous comments... Disney is a - no, "THE" - FAMILY vacation. You are constantly interacting with your children. The world revolves around the children ... and the child inside you! You leave all the worries and cares at home and step into a world of sheer joy. Hello? This is wrong why??? Children grow up WAY too fast today. Why not enjoy every fleeting moment? We do go to other places- Tennessee, Panama City, nearby state parks for camping, etc. But... Disney is OUR family's most favorite, hands down. When the children are older, we will do the ski trips and shopping in N.Y., whatever....... I am saddened and feel sympathy for anyone who takes issue with our choices. I think jealousy absolutely plays into this feeling of "you-aren't-going-THERE-again"! I know a mom who has told her two boys that she would take them to Disney for the past five years. She and her husband took an exotic island "couple-only" vacation this summer. I could never do this to my children... tell them Disney is too expensive but Mommy and Daddy can go away. No way. I think these nasty comments are so much more about their own guilt/jealousy than where we choose to vacation. I pity the fool. They know not of what they speak! Stick with the Dissers here... We have our priorities straight, IMHO. Life is TOO short. To each his own... but for me and mine... Been there, done that, going back.............yes, AGAIN!!!!!!

 

[palmickey2005]

I tried convincing my cousin to join us in Feb.2008 for both WDW and a 4-day Disney Cruise so that our kids could play together.

She replied with, "I never went to Disney World when I was little so my kids don't have to either". Hugh ? I coudn't believe she said that. I never went as a child either...so what does that have to do with it ???

I then told her "But it would be nice to be on the cruise together". She then replied that her and her husband already went on a cruise (Princess Cruise)...and then I said "Yes, that's right. I remember you left your kids with your mom for that week".

Oh......I really hate when people say "again"...I have to come up with a good comeback .

 

[elderfam]

We get the same from our families. I tell them "its more than just the parks , its an amazing 5 star resort, beautiful hotels and pools, outstanding resturants, fantastic service, landscaping and with piped in music while I walk. Its a great place to get into shape and loose a few pounds while you have fun. Golfing is top notch here are well. BUT, I realize not everyone gets it which is just fine with me .

When they ask and make a snotty comment about it, I respond with : dont tell my your surprised, you would think that by now you would understand that I look forward to my trips and will continue to take them as often as I feel like going. If this bothers you, you might want to work on getting over that.

now, funny thing happend since my brother and his wife didnt want to "do" disney with the kids, we asked if they could come with us. They agreed, but wanted to be sure we understood that they would fly in with the kids, drop them off with us, and go do their own thing. I said Super!
(i did not offer to help them book a hotel or tell them about where we were staying)
Beach Club Villas, 1 bedroom. Towards the end of the stay, they boys really wanted to show off our villa and pool so talked parents into coming out to dinner with us. When my brother saw the "DIGS" he said, hey, how do you get to stay here? I responded with, next time your asked, say yes! ha ha

Once they saw where we stay and how impressive the boardwalk area was with great resturants and the pool....he doesnt bother us anymore.

 

[SereneOne]

Why would anyone with children want to visit PCB? It is a cesspool! Nothing but people partying wild and and every year wilder and wilder. We used to live there and it became so bad we stopped going to the beach. So glad to not live there anymore.

 

[aubriee]

My coworkers used to say something about me having a 'thing for Mickey', but not anymore. They've finally given up on me. In fact, one of the nurses I work with asked me about a month or so ago, "When is your next trip to Disney? I'd sure like to work some of your shifts for overtime." I just gave him a blank look for a minute, as he was one who used to tease me about my trips. He finally said "If you don't have a trip planned soon, could you plan one? I'll work for you." I laughed and said 'as a matter of fact I'll be down there Sept 29th-Oct 7th and again Dec 8th-Dec 16th and I've already got my time approved for both trips, so you'll have to talk to our nurse manager about working any of my shifts, if you want them.' One of the workers started laughing and asked him if he was trying to force me to go see Mickey. I tried once again to explain that WDW isn't just about the characters and little kids. I started talking about free dining, the MNSSHP, the Eat to the Beat concerts, and the Food & Wine Festival, then started talking about all the Christmas decorations, all the fireworks and laser shows, the Flower Festival and Flower Power concerts, and how to use codes. Even though she didn't say anything then, the next morning one of the workers asked me very quietly if I'd help her plan a trip to WDW and if I could help her get some discounts. She'd never checked into a trip because she just 'assumed' it would be too expensive for her family.

My problem now is my new D-I-L. My elder son got married this past May. His daughter from his first marriage is like me and just loves WDW. Unfortunately her new stepmother doesn't get it and says there will be no more taking Aubriee out of school and she doesn't understand why I want to 'waste' my money on WDW. She was over at my house a couple of weeks ago and happened to pick up my cell phone (which has a Tinker Bell cover on it). She laughed and said, 'my god you're obsessed'. I'm afraid it just hit me wrong and I decided OK, we were going to have our first disagreement. I told her that she needed to drop the subject, as it was obvious we didn't agree. As far as wasting money, to me all the money they spend on four wheelers, a new, bigger camper, my son's cigarettes, going out to eat four and five times a week, and all their little weekend trips were a waste of money, but it was their business and I've never said anything did I? No, because it's their business, just like my trips to WDW is my business. Now drop it!!

My son laughed, told my new D-I-L that she better drop it, that I didn't get mad often but when I did, I didn't pull punches, so she better back off, as he could see I'd had just about enough of her comments. I still can't believe that she won't let me take my GD in Dec, when her own mom (ex D-I-L) has already said that I could.

 

[SereneOne]

My coworkers used to say something about me having a 'thing for Mickey', but not anymore. They've finally given up on me. In fact, one of the nurses I work with asked me about a month or so ago, "When is your next trip to Disney? I'd sure like to work some of your shifts for overtime." I just gave him a blank look for a minute, as he was ones who used to tease me about my trips. He finally said "If you don't have a trip planned soon, could you plan one? I'll work for you." I laughed and said 'as a matter of fact I'll be down there Sept 29th-Oct 7th and again Dec 8th-Dec 16th and I've already got my time approved for both trips, so you'll have to talk to our nurse manager about working any of my shifts, if you want them.' One of the workers started laughing and asked him if he was trying to force me to go see Mickey. I started talking about free dining, the MNSSHP and the Food & Wine Festival, then started talking about all the Christmas decorations, and how to use codes. Even though she didn't say anything then, the next morning one of the workers asked me very quietly if I'd help her plan a trip to WDW and if I could help her get some discounts. She'd never checked into a trip because she just 'assumed' it would be too expensive for her family.

That is awesome!

BTW, we are both Alices and going to Disney at the same time.

 

[SereneOne]

Now's the time to take our kids to Disney! It's a different experience every time you go!!! Especially for the kids. Last trip was a Cinderella trip. This one is a Pirates of the Caribbean trip. It depends on which movie we're feelin' at the time. Lol. As many times as we visited Magic Kingdom last year, I always felt amazed at how absolutely splendid Main Street looked!!!

When the kids are older, we'll start going to different places. But I don't want to bore the 2 year old just yet. She will love this trip whereas when she's 5 or older, she may begin to appreciate New York City, London, or Paris. My 7 year old is ready to see those places, and in time, she will. (We have been on a mission trip to Mexico...) But now, it's time for Disney. It's so family friendly and exciting!

I totally agree! We plan on taking trips to Washington DC, Europe, etc. when our preschooler gets older. Disney is at the "bestest" when kids are little, I think because it is so REAL to them...I love seeing WDW through their eyes...it is the best part!

 

[eliza61]

These comments are always funny to me. I live near the Jersey shore and people here flock to the beach every year like salmon returning to spawn. Usually when I point that out to them, they get a little red in the face and change the conversation.
Nothing like a little sarcasm to shut folks up.

 

[DisNae]

that is soooooo the right reaction....I have a friend that had that same reaction....She tells me "it must be nice to have a husband who can afford to take you everywhere and buy you whatever you want while you sit a on you @$$ at home"....I'm a stay at home Mom with a 2 and 4 yr old, 2 dogs and 2 cats...I work...I just don't receive a paycheck in the form of money.

I think that when people have these kinds of negative verbal reactions it is more of a jealousy thing than anything else...even if they are in denial, they would so rather be able to say they are going to Disney than not!

OK, there are too many comments on this thread for me to even address individually, but this one I had to tackle! While I've never had anyone have the nerve to say this to my face, I can tell through actions, little remarks, etc. that some think this same thing about our family. I stay at home with my kids and DH is in the military. He's enlisted, E-6. His pay is public info, anyone can look it up. I want to tell these people look it up, and THEN tell me if my husband's rich....we are able to have me stay home and still afford our trips to WDW through careful planning and by saving money every day and watching our pennies, instead of blowing it on dinners out, new cars, every new cell phone and gadget that comes out, every new toy for the kids, name brand clothes all the time, etc.

And as far as the comments about "you're doing it AGAIN?"....yep, I get the same comments and attitude from people, but I just don't care. I never got to go anywhere as far as trips or vacations as a child, and I think that may be why I'm so in love with Disney. My parents didn't do "kid stuff", heck we never did anything as a family, so I feel like sometimes I'm catching up on what I missed in my childhood. I love love love Disney and I'll go even when the kids are out of the house. In fact, that's one of the things DH and I talk about, how we'll stay at the GF and do a second honeymoon or something once the kids are grown!

And yep, I agree--Disney is no more expensive than most other week long vacations. And why DO people think it's ok to repeatedly visit Vegas, but not Disney? I guess there are those of us who are just kids at heart and love to relive that every chance we get. I do like Vegas, too, but truthfully if I had my choice between the two, I'd pick Disney!

My youngest DD is 20 months old and will have her second trip to WDW under her belt in a couple months, and my oldest is 5 and she'll have been 3 times plus 1 time to Disneyland. Some people think that's nuts, but I think that's fantastic! My 5 y/o still remembers vividly the trip we took when she was only 2 1/2. I feel like we're creating a family tradition for our kids and lots of fun family times together. I wouldn't trade it for all the Cozumel and Vegas trips in the world.

 

[mom2aredhead]

Not that our Dec trip is a big "secret" (there's a countdown calendar hanging at the bottom of my stairs), but I'd rather avoid the comments for a while if I can - we were just there in May so I'm sure there will be comments.

And THANK YOU whoever posted the "not as expensive as your cigarettes" answer - that will work as a great response for both my father and my MIL.

I have 1 neighbor that makes remarks every time we go - Things like OMG, I can't believe it, you're crazy - or my favorite from her - That's so much money, what a waste. Her son has asked when they can go and her answer is "We can't afford it". She says this to her kids, who are dressed in Gap clothes head to toe, while she holds her Ralph Lauren purse, Coach diaper bag, and adjusts her Chanel sunglasses while she is wearing an outfit (her 3rd of the day) that has just jumped off the pages of "In Style" magazine. And btw, she now has her "fall hair" - the summer blonde is gone, and she is now back to brown (the color changes about 4x a year like the seasons) Don't get me wrong, we're friends and she looks terrific, that's just not my thing.

I guess she doesn't get that i'ts not a matter of "affording it" - its that we make different choices about how to spend our money. My roots are about 4 inches long right now, and when I go clothes shopping Ithink to myself "OK I can splurge on this, or pay for 1 night at AKL" - then I usually put the whatever back on the rack - unless it's for my son of course. Not saying I'm right and she's wrong, but I would never say to her "OMG, Lucky Jeans and a BeBe top, that's such a waste of money" - it's just RUDE!

 

[tlbwriter]

My son laughed, told my new D-I-L that she better drop it, that I didn't get mad often but when I did, I didn't pull punches, so she better back off, as he could see I'd had just about enough of her comments. I still can't believe that she won't let me take my GD in Dec, when her own mom (ex D-I-L) has already said that I could.

So mom and dad said yes, but stepmom said no, so she doesn't get to go? That's a bad sign...

 

[luvsJack]

I get the same kind of thing from some of the in-laws and we have only actually gone as a family twice with another trip planned for Nov 08. I have a BIL that objects to disney for "relegious reasons", I don't even ask but know that he has a problem with gay day. Its funny though, he's own daughter went to wdw for a school trip, loved it and wants to go back with us. His wife always has something to say, but for different reasons. She is the one that objects because "its so expensive" and asks stupid questions like "why do you spend all that money?" Of course she spends mega dollars on her daughters clothes (not just them being name brand but more clothes than the child could possible wear) and they go to gatlinburg, TN at least 5 times a year. We have learned to just let them have their say, smile and nod a lot and then go on with our planning. The crazy thing is we don't even bring disney up around them, someone else always does.

 

[LauraAnn630]

We spend all that money going back Disney because...

10. We love Disney!
9. Disney offers all the things we like to do in one spot.
8. If you do your homework it just as expensive as any other vacation spot.
7. The memories we make are priceless.
6. Disney is close to some of the best beaches in the states.
5. We dont have to rent a car if we dont want to.
4. Disney is so huge we never get to do all we want in one trip.
3. Disney adds new attractions and things all the time.
2. They offer FREE dining. Yes FREE food!
We spend all that money going back Disney because...
1. WE CAN!

 

[tigerdragon]

that is soooooo the right reaction....I have a friend that had that same reaction....She tells me "it must be nice to have a husband who can afford to take you everywhere and buy you whatever you want while you sit a on you @$$ at home"....I'm a stay at home Mom with a 2 and 4 yr old, 2 dogs and 2 cats...I work...I just don't receive a paycheck in the form of money.

I'm a SAHM and have heard something like that a couple times. My reaction is, yes it is nice, with a big grin on my face. That's a very sarcastic reaction, I know, but if people want to give me attitude I will give it right back.

Anyway, I just don't talk to people about our trips unless I know they are actually interested. It's really nobody's business where we go. Fortunately for me I have a sister and SIL who are both as obsessed as I am. We love hearing about the plans each other has made. In fact, my SIL just called me a few days ago to tell me about the dining reservations she made for their trip next March.

 

[jennifer293]

We get that and we have only been twice. This next trip we are taking was paid for by Shriners because we were injured at their parade in Chattanooga. They asked my daughter in the hospital what makes her happy and she said Disney World so they called us up about a week later and said they were sending us there for 7 nights. We didn't ask for it, they offered. So my sister says to me..." I cannot believe you are going to let those people send you on a trip to Disney".. I told her we did not ask for it, that they offered it ,but my mom says she is just jealous because she has never been and this will be our 3rd time in 3 years.

Just ignore it!!!

 

[mytwinklestar]

Why would anyone with children want to visit PCB? It is a cesspool! Nothing but people partying wild and and every year wilder and wilder. We used to live there and it became so bad we stopped going to the beach. So glad to not live there anymore.

LOL, I totally understand what you are saying. Actually, my husband was born and raised in Panama City Beach. You are right, everything has changed. There isn't much beach left... it is all high rise condos! However, being from PC, we know the more quiet venues. We don't go during Spring Break and if we go during the summer, we pick and choose what areas to visit. The winter visits are our favorite. The beaches are empty and we hunt for ghost crabs and shells. We have spent two New Year's there and our best time was a New Year's Eve when we spent the midnight hour walking in the cool sand, hand in hand, behind our children, as they watched the distant fireworks. We all hugged and shared a Happy New Year kiss. It was a special family memory that we made and will cherish forever. Simple. Quiet. Family time. I do agree with you... IF you go during any of the high volume seasons in PC, you may be disapointed if you are hoping to have family time with youngsters.