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[Kickapoo Joie Juice]

Is the OP coming back to update us? is it possible she forgot about us Disser's out here, waiting patiently while the childs' education hangs in the balance... whtever could have happened to the OP???
Kickapoo... any other ideas???

Logically, if she got the resolution she was hoping for I would think she would have posted it here.

She may still be getting the brushoff from the school, perhaps, so there's nothing to post?

I hate not having closure so I used to make up endings to orphaned threads in my head, every now and then I've been posting them....

 

[scootch]

If I was paying tuition to a school and felt that strongly about it, I would talk to the principle and explain your situation. If they chose not to help you by changing the teacher, I would take my child out of the school. There are other options out there. A good teacher at a public school is better than a bad teacher at a private school. There may be other private schools in town that you might be able to look into. Where I live, there are no private schools (small town) and only one very poor public school. This school had more than 50 % failure rate the last three years. So, I chose to homeschool my kids. You make the best choice you can for your kids and hope it all turns out. That's what we all do.

i ditto this. My girls go to a private catholic school and there is only one grade per class. My oldest daughters 2nd grade teacher was very poor. I will be faced next year with the decision to change schools, home school or whatever when my youngest gets to that grade. To me, especially early on... you can't waste a year on a teacher that isnt' good. No disrespect to teachers, my hubby is one! But school is important. I would just show up at school, today.... and insist things be changed.

 

[PinkRhombus]

Our school office is closed the entire month of July....the OP's school might not be open yet either.

 

[JerseyMamaBear]

any news yet?

 

[horseshowmom]

The OP's profile said that she hasn't been on the boards since July 16th, so she may just be busy.

 

[dzorn]

Maybe she is busy checking out different schools.

Denise in MI

 

[Kickapoo Joie Juice]

Maybe she is busy checking out different schools.

Denise in MI

Either that or the final installation of the hamster wheels is keeping her busy.

 

[twinmommyks]

So sorry about leaving you all hanging. We were on family vacation for 2 weeks and weren't able to make contact with the principal until we returned since she was out of town the week prior to our leaving town. Nothing was resolved until just recently and this is my first time back on the boards.

Without going through everything that happened, I just post briefly the ending so we can all put this behind us............trust me, I need to. Too many sleepless nights trying to decide what to do. And, anyone with twins knows, that the decision has to be best for both of them, not just one.

The student lists went out to teachers already, so the principal will not change it. After much discussion with the principal, we have decided to stay at the school with the teacher we are concerned about. However, the principal's reassurance that the teacher is very qualified and does a good job in the classroom makes us feel better. We discussed some observations with her and she did admit that the teacher does come off "very rough" in front of parents and indicated that should any situations arise during the year, that we contact her about them.

With that being said, our children will be enrolling for school soon and are excited to see their friends. My dh and I are being very positive for our children so that they can enter school with the same feeling. I know there have been feelings on both sides of this issue and I respect all of them. Please trust me in that we made the best decision for our children and have considered all options. It has been a very stressful situation and we are glad to have it resolved. My dh strongly believes that everything happens for a reason and there is one for this.

Thank you to all my Dis friends for your support, kindness, caring, and opinions. You are GREAT!!!!

 

[JerseyMamaBear]

thanks for getting back to us, I hope all goes well with your school year.

 

[surfgirl]

good luck with things, but as my dh would say, 'you need to recognize that she did an excellent job of 'handling' you.' Go into this with your eyes open and don't be afraid to pull the plug quickly if things go south.

 

[twinmommyks]

good luck with things, but as my dh would say, 'you need to recognize that she did an excellent job of 'handling' you.' Go into this with your eyes open and don't be afraid to pull the plug quickly if things go south.

Yes, we are well aware of the "handling". I also believe that the principal knows should there be any issues, we will speak up. Our eyes are always open and that's why this was so difficult for us.

 

[dimimi]

So sorry about leaving you all hanging. We were on family vacation for 2 weeks and weren't able to make contact with the principal until we returned since she was out of town the week prior to our leaving town. Nothing was resolved until just recently and this is my first time back on the boards.

Without going through everything that happened, I just post briefly the ending so we can all put this behind us............trust me, I need to. Too many sleepless nights trying to decide what to do. And, anyone with twins knows, that the decision has to be best for both of them, not just one.

The student lists went out to teachers already, so the principal will not change it. After much discussion with the principal, we have decided to stay at the school with the teacher we are concerned about. However, the principal's reassurance that the teacher is very qualified and does a good job in the classroom makes us feel better. We discussed some observations with her and she did admit that the teacher does come off "very rough" in front of parents and indicated that should any situations arise during the year, that we contact her about them.

With that being said, our children will be enrolling for school soon and are excited to see their friends. My dh and I are being very positive for our children so that they can enter school with the same feeling. I know there have been feelings on both sides of this issue and I respect all of them. Please trust me in that we made the best decision for our children and have considered all options. It has been a very stressful situation and we are glad to have it resolved. My dh strongly believes that everything happens for a reason and there is one for this.

Thank you to all my Dis friends for your support, kindness, caring, and opinions. You are GREAT!!!!

I would not take this answer. This happens at our school...all they have to do is say a mistake was made and that your kids were meant to be in the other class. At our school, we have had parents keep detailed notes about a teacher's behavior, and they moved the student mid year to a different teacher. Just remember, you pay tuition...you should have some control. However, I respect your decision to be done!

 

[aprilgail2]

wow, I think that principal played you like a fiddle- told you exactly what she thought you would want to hear and sent you on your way. I would never accept that reply from her- either she would change the teacher or my kids would be heading for a new school!

 

[connie1042]

Good Luck. I went to a Catholic school. I would never send my children to one. We had nuns, they were not all nice. We were low income( I did not know that), I have no idea how my mom,( she was divorced from my father, I never really knew him) could afford the tuition for that school. Because our mom worked, she really was not part of the PTA or there social network. We were made fun of in any way possible. The nuns would look the other way. They catered to the kids with parents that had money. We wore uniforms, so they would tease us about our shoes. I hated it, but never put my finger on it till much later in life. I grew stronger because of the treatment we got. I learned to stand up for myself at a young age. I got a good education and did have a couple of great teachers in elementary,(went to public HS) school, but I would never have put my kids through that. My mom passed away many years ago and never knew how I felt, but i know she did what she thought was best for us. Thanks mom.

 

[tinatark]

Good luck. My younger son had a HORRIBLE teacher at a private school - it was his 3rd grade year - he's going into high school and I still wish I had pulled him out, instead of "monitoring things" - I almost feel like that year of school and tuition was wasted.

 

[Kickapoo Joie Juice]

wow, I think that principal played you like a fiddle- told you exactly what she thought you would want to hear and sent you on your way. I would never accept that reply from her- either she would change the teacher or my kids would be heading for a new school!

In all fairness, until you've had to deal with the principal and the administration, you have no idea how adept they are at trotting angry parents right back out their door with no resolution.

We've done the "meet with the principal" thing (not for class placement) and had the same thing happen to us.

It's often really, really difficult to get resolution from school administrators.

In our case, they wanted to declare our older daughter "disabled" because of a minor peanut allergy and were trying to force me to sign a federal disability form (so they could get federal funds for the school-none of which my daughter would see because, duh, she's NOT disabled!). They put me in a room with no windows with the principal, a shrink, my dd's teacher, and four other "administrators" for two hours and called me a bad, negligent mother, threatened to call child protective services, and told me if my daughter ever did have a peanut reaction that they would do nothing to help her except call an ambulance . And this was with an epi pen and benadryl in the nurse's office (in 8 years she's never needed either). In tears, I signed the papers.

The next day we put the house on the market and eventually moved completely out of the county. I checked very, very carefully to make sure the new school system was not forcing all parents who had a child with an allergy to sign that form, and this county was simply horrified at what I had been put through.

This incident was not the only reason we moved, but it was one helluva straw that broke that camel's back.

So while I may goof and make silly endings to the OP's story, I absolutely do have sympathy to anybody who has an issue with school administrators...

 

[Teacher03]

Good Luck. I went to a Catholic school. I would never send my children to one. We had nuns, they were not all nice. We were low income( I did not know that), I have no idea how my mom,( she was divorced from my father, I never really knew him) could afford the tuition for that school. Because our mom worked, she really was not part of the PTA or there social network. We were made fun of in any way possible. The nuns would look the other way. They catered to the kids with parents that had money. We wore uniforms, so they would tease us about our shoes. I hated it, but never put my finger on it till much later in life. I grew stronger because of the treatment we got. I learned to stand up for myself at a young age. I got a good education and did have a couple of great teachers in elementary,(went to public HS) school, but I would never have put my kids through that. My mom passed away many years ago and never knew how I felt, but i know she did what she thought was best for us. Thanks mom.

I'm sorry you had such a bad experience with Catholic schools. But I hope you realize that not all Catholic schools are like this, and the same could be said for public schools. I attended public schools and had the same issues as you. I teach at a wonderful Catholic school, and yes, we have some teachers that are more passionate than others, and the only nun we have is our principal who is very well loved.

 

[teacher100]

Just wondering. I hope they are OK!