So I am not sure if this counts as an update to my trip plans or just a general overall rant. So I don't think I will link it to page one.
Basically, the last few days have kinda sucked.
Friday, Kira and Steve both had moments where they came to realize something and this realization caused me grief.
First there was Kira. She was tallying up how much more on the trip (beyond the airfare) she was going to need to spend. It hit her that her total with park ticket and dp is going to be substantial. It made her frustrated and angry that her cost is almost about what it was when she and Josh stayed at Pop in January. This prompted a bit of a rant regarding DVC not saving money...bla bla bla.

It also prompted me to want to try and "fix it" for her. Unfortunately it is what it is and ticket prices are expensive. In fact that cost is a huge chunk of a package price. The best I could come up with was maybe purchasing through RD (which makes a 7 day ph ticket a substantially lower price than gate price) Problem is that she definitely needs more than 7 and I am almost certain upgrading a RD ticket is not an option.
Moments after I had my conversation with Kira (literally) I got a message from Steve that he needed travel dates. I gave them and instantly was met with

why

???? HOW many times have we been over the dates? Well, I guess he gets 20 PTO days and he is already down to 16. (here I am

) Doing the math
ToT = 8
AHM = 2 (assuming he works both departure and arrival days)
Donald = at LEAST 3.
So this does not give him much wiggle room for any sick time. And for those just joining.. my dh has a chronic condition that has almost always causes him take some disability each year. It has been over a year since he last was out on disability though... but the running in the last year kept his condition in remission. Getting sick in January (ok, so january is what sucked up those 4 days

) caused him to stop running and with just a short run here or there since then he is out of remission again and into a full blown flare.
Obviously looking at the above numbers we have already taken steps.
For the ToT trip there is no wiggle room. We have air fare both ways... and while we could leave earlier and possibly just change the flights... it would not really save days since we leave on a saturday. (however once you read below maybe the best option would be to fly home on Thursday - but that would still only save one day assuming he went back to work on friday)
For the AHM trip, we will have to make sure that we leave after he has worked that friday (if not fly out early on saturday morning) and then we will have to drop him back off at work once we arrive back to WA after the trip on Wed. This means... just 2 rather than the original 4 that I had anticipated.
Finally in January for the donald trip (which falls in his PTO year) we will have to be creative. Currently we are booked for 1/7 to 1/14. We will have to change that to leave on 1/8. This works better for me since I always have work on wednesdays so leaving thursday will be much less stressful for me. He will have to take thursday and friday off. Travel will be thursday and Expo/recovery from the travel will be friday. The race is saturday. Sunday can be for recovery and park time. Then he will have to take monday off to travel home if not tuesday. (this takes it to 3 or 4 days off)
So my plan is at the 7 month mark to shift things a bit. cut out the night of the 7th. However, I think I will keep the check out as 1/14 for now. IF by the time I absolutely need to purchase airfare, he has not taken more sick time then I might just say 5 days works. After all, that would leave him 1 day of wiggle room. Not a lot for sure but given that May is half over... then he has to get through 4 months and we have a long trip. Then a short trip in November and then his company gives him 2 weeks off in December.. it might just work. It would just be a matter of getting through the next 4 months and then February and March. Thing is though, they let him "borrow" against his 2014 PTO days in January (hence why at his anniversary he is 4 days low) I wonder if in February or March if he were to be low again if he would be able to borrow a day or two again.

Also... if he had to go back.. maybe I would just stay longer with Zoe. He knows this is a thought of mine and didn't seem to mind. However I do realize it is a bit selfish. However in my work cycle I basically work non stop for 2 weeks.. then have a slow week and then I kinda get a week off. This trip falls RIGHT on that week so I don't have to be back right away.
***So I am editing my original post. I was perhaps a bit moody/cranky/negative. No need to bore you all with that. (if you happened to catch it, my sincere apologies

) Suffice it to say that mothers day was a bit stressful. At some point I had both Zoe and Alex irritated with me and Steve and I fought almost all day. When he and I rarely if ever fight, it left me feeling a bit off and a fair bit cranky. So while some of it may have been justified... I really could have just remained more positive throughout the day and everything would have gone better.
Some important details to the day though involved Steve's family.

While he and I rarely fight, it is interesting how in laws can surely drive two people to argue.
1. Zach and Kimberly set a wedding date. However, the grandparents will not be attending because they just booked a cruise. Long and the short of it.... while I can understand how "once in a life time" of a deal it may have been, I also feel as though Zach will only get married the once. So perhaps they could change their plans. Steve feels that is asking too much. Which made me comment that they perhaps should have asked if the date had been set before booking. Steve feels that asking anyone to put their own life on hold "just in case" is too much to ask. In the end he had his own frustrations that were much like my own. However he felt he needed to take a defensive stand for them (kinda a I can feel like this about them but you can't sort of deal) I may have felt as though I was not attacking them, but he certainly did.
2. His parents made changes to the plan for the fall. I had told Steve way back that I had a feeling that there was a good chance that the beach house would fall through. He assured me then that it was booked and his parents said it was a "done deal" I laugh because I even think he said to me (and I know better from years and years of being a member of his family) that once they say they are doing something they are doing it. So of course, the beach house has fallen through. I think this did not help matters because even though I still felt like I was not attacking (because honestly, the reason why their plans have changed is completely understandable and the reason why I didn't think it would work in the first place) Steve felt I was even more on the offense with this.
3. We now need to figure out what we are doing once we check out of BWV on 10/9. We fly home on 10/11. His parents were going to be going to Anna Maria Island as well as Orlando as a part of a trip to FL to take care of Steve's grandfathers affairs. He will be moving out of his house in Sarasota. So the realization that getting the house in order is a larger or more important task has surfaced. So they will be staying in Sarasota in that house rather than on the island. I tried to get Steve to understand and appreciate that it is unlikely they will be available for us to spend time with even though they have said that there is enough room for us to stay at the house with them. I could be wrong, but when they say there is enough space - I don't think it means... "come down and we will spend our days on the beach with you" but rather "we are not leaving you high and dry you will have a place to stay" He doesn't see them as different. I do. I think they will be quite busy and that we will only be in the way.
So we will need to make some changes to the plan in October. Does this frustrate me? Yes. Does it surprise me? No.
No matter what we choose to do though, it will still make for a great trip.

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