TTC thread take 2

[cherbear]

Sweetie, we'll all been where you are. Please try to stay positive but I know after being through so much it is called self preservation.
My prayers and a giant hug are with you.

We come home Oct. 8th so it just may be a lucky day.
I will throw some coins in the water by the Castle and say a prayer on your behalf.

oh I love this!!!

I know and I'm SO thankful to have women like you and everyone else to share this with who truly understand how I feel. I feel like I don't have it in me anymore to be positive. I hate that I'm wishing time away.

That gave me chills! Thank you SO much! Here's hoping that's the magic we need.

How are your twins and surrogate doing?

It is GREAT to have women that understand. You've been my rock all these years. Who would have thought we'd meet through the DIS and become great friends who both also have years of infertility??

The twins are doing better than our surrogate. Really strong heartbeats so we are blessed but some days very guarded.
Jessica (our surrogate) has been vomiting for 3 days. The doctor told her to try Emertrol an OTC drug and if that doesn't work he will call in a script. Thank you for asking

oh poor thing! How is your relationship with her? (if you don't mind sharing) Emetrol is a pretty good one so hopefully that will do the trick. Otherwise Zofran should fix her right up! (well I don't know anything about pregnancy nausea but just in general and I've had a lot of stomach issues in my time)
So glad the twins are doing good.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Today she sounds 100% better. What a relief. She was really suffering.
She actually was able to eat last night and today!!!

Our relationship overall is very good. There are some real up and down moments but they are few.
Before she was pregnant I loved every single inch of her. We talked so much loved being together and became true friends.
Since the pregnancy we have had a few bumps in the road. It is very hard when you have some distance (miles) between you and you wish things were being done differently.
It has been tough at times to hit home that even though she has had perfect pregnancies in the past IVF is high risk off the bat and then add twins into the mix and the high risk goes through the roof.

Overall I think we are as perfect a match as you can have. I spoke & met with so many women and I knew she was the right fit. After my husband felt the same way it was a go & here we are~

 

[cherbear]

Today she sounds 100% better. What a relief. She was really suffering.
She actually was able to eat last night and today!!!

Our relationship overall is very good. There are some real up and down moments but they are few.
Before she was pregnant I loved every single inch of her. We talked so much loved being together and became true friends.
Since the pregnancy we have had a few bumps in the road. It is very hard when you have some distance (miles) between you and you wish things were being done differently.
It has been tough at times to hit home that even though she has had perfect pregnancies in the past IVF is high risk off the bat and then add twins into the mix and the high risk goes through the roof.

Overall I think we are as perfect a match as you can have. I spoke & met with so many women and I knew she was the right fit. After my husband felt the same way it was a go & here we are~

I appreciate your candidness! I'm glad that you are achieving your dream through this wonderful woman. If you don't mind me asking, can you remind me what all you went through before choosing surrogacy? I'm so sorry to ask, I wish I could remember everything about all you girls here but I can barely remember what I had for dinner yesterday

 

[cherbear]

AF is here! Started yesterday!

Getting the ball rolling here...bit of a slow moving ball though!

timeline is:

this Sunday, Oct 2 - start BCP, continue through Oct 22
Oct 18 - begin daily lupron injections (continue for 3 weeks)
Oct 24 - ultrasound & bloodwork, start wearing estrogen patches & daily estrogen shots
~ Oct 28 - change estrogen patch (only 1 at this point)
~ Nov 1 - change estrogen patch, apply 3 this time
~ Nov 5 - change estrogen patch, apply 4 this time, and keep changing out patches every 4 days, sticking with 4 at a time
There will be 2 ultrasounds (and bloodwork) during this time, while I am on the estrogen patches and shots, then once my lining looks good, the transfer is scheduled (around mid November)
5 days prior to transfer - begin daily progesterone shots (while continuing to wear patches, changing every 4 days, and daily estrogen shots)
Transfer occurs mid November, then wait 10 days for blood test!

 

[Falltime]

Hi Girls

Sorry I have been MIA, a lot going on here. Just to recap as I see quite a few new faces. Been TTC for 6 1/2 years. Been seeing an RE since last December. Did 4 rounds of clomid/injectibles and TI with no success, then did injectibles with IUI in July with one mature follicle and got a BFP which ended in a M/C at 5 weeks.

So the latest is that we did another IUI with femara and injectibles in September and I had 3 mature follicles with 2 close behind. Found out 9/29 it was another BFP but beta came back at only 10. Went back 4 days later and beta was at 50, they were pleased with the increase and then I went back last week for the 5 week ultrasound in which nothing was seen and unfortunately the beta was only at 90 so they had me end all meds and I started bleeding yesterday. Friday I stayed home from work and had a complete meltdown. Here I thought getting pregnant was the hard part but trying to stay pregnant is proving to be much more difficult and emotional. Anyway after letting it all it out I am actually doing much better today and ready to move forward.

We have decided not to try IUI any more and move onto IVF which was our plan in June but when the 1st IUI worked we decided to give it a 2nd try. Anyway the RE's office only does IVF in odd numbered months so with the M/C I we won't be ready to go until January with the pre-month being December. So anyway that's the plan for now.

 

[cherbear]

Hi Girls

Sorry I have been MIA, a lot going on here. Just to recap as I see quite a few new faces. Been TTC for 6 1/2 years. Been seeing an RE since last December. Did 4 rounds of clomid/injectibles and TI with no success, then did injectibles with IUI in July with one mature follicle and got a BFP which ended in a M/C at 5 weeks.

So the latest is that we did another IUI with femara and injectibles in September and I had 3 mature follicles with 2 close behind. Found out 9/29 it was another BFP but beta came back at only 10. Went back 4 days later and beta was at 50, they were pleased with the increase and then I went back last week for the 5 week ultrasound in which nothing was seen and unfortunately the beta was only at 90 so they had me end all meds and I started bleeding yesterday. Friday I stayed home from work and had a complete meltdown. Here I thought getting pregnant was the hard part but trying to stay pregnant is proving to be much more difficult and emotional. Anyway after letting it all it out I am actually doing much better today and ready to move forward.

We have decided not to try IUI any more and move onto IVF which was our plan in June but when the 1st IUI worked we decided to give it a 2nd try. Anyway the RE's office only does IVF in odd numbered months so with the M/C I we won't be ready to go until January with the pre-month being December. So anyway that's the plan for now.

I'm so sorry. I can't believe it happened again!!! I'm really sorry you have to wait a while for IVF. I hope the holidays are not too hard. I know, easy to say right.

 

[ckret01]

Hi Girls

Sorry I have been MIA, a lot going on here. Just to recap as I see quite a few new faces. Been TTC for 6 1/2 years. Been seeing an RE since last December. Did 4 rounds of clomid/injectibles and TI with no success, then did injectibles with IUI in July with one mature follicle and got a BFP which ended in a M/C at 5 weeks.

So the latest is that we did another IUI with femara and injectibles in September and I had 3 mature follicles with 2 close behind. Found out 9/29 it was another BFP but beta came back at only 10. Went back 4 days later and beta was at 50, they were pleased with the increase and then I went back last week for the 5 week ultrasound in which nothing was seen and unfortunately the beta was only at 90 so they had me end all meds and I started bleeding yesterday. Friday I stayed home from work and had a complete meltdown. Here I thought getting pregnant was the hard part but trying to stay pregnant is proving to be much more difficult and emotional. Anyway after letting it all it out I am actually doing much better today and ready to move forward.

We have decided not to try IUI any more and move onto IVF which was our plan in June but when the 1st IUI worked we decided to give it a 2nd try. Anyway the RE's office only does IVF in odd numbered months so with the M/C I we won't be ready to go until January with the pre-month being December. So anyway that's the plan for now.

Aww honey I am so very sorry!
I too, was just thinking the other day that trying to stay pregnant is going to be just as hard as getting pregnant. That has been going through my mind so much lately. This journey sure is a difficult one. Big HUGS to you

 

[Leger13]

The twins are doing better than our surrogate. Really strong heartbeats so we are blessed but some days very guarded.
Jessica (our surrogate) has been vomiting for 3 days. The doctor told her to try Emertrol an OTC drug and if that doesn't work he will call in a script. Thank you for asking

Glad to hear the twins are doing well. Sorry Jessica is feeling so sick but I see below that you said she was feeling better so thank goodness for that. I hope things are still going well!

AFM ~ sorry I've been MIA. I went nuts in my TWW testing out my trigger. Well, it stayed for 13 freaking days on the IC's so I was all confused but then it ultimately turned into a BFN and stayed that way. So, the IUI didn't work sadly So now we're on a break. My RE wanted DH to see a urologist. His appointment was yesterday. The doc said he felt an enlarged vein but wouldn't call it a vericocile so he wants DH to take these multi vitamins that he recommended (expensive!!!) and come back in 2 months to reassess. If things are still the same then he said he would go in and try to repair the enlarged vein. So that's where we are. Back in waiting land. Blah. Canceled Disney trip and no baby. Sucks! But I'm trucking along just trying to enjoy this time with Alex and the holidays and his upcoming first birthday.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Hi Girls....

Leger13, Waiting Land is the hardest place to be. Please enjoy your time with your little one.

Falltime, I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

cherbear, so glad your off and running. Looking forward to some wonderful news in the future!

 

[DisneyElite4]

Hi everyone! We just returned from a much-needed Disney trip with family. It was only four nights, but we were able to see and do a lot. I was so worried seeing all of the families was going to be upsetting, but there were only a few sad times out of the entire trip. I am sure you all can understand how seeing parents with their children, especially babies, can be hard while going through infertility. Especially at a place we all love - Disney! Sometimes I wonder if I will ever get there with my own children.

I wanted to say how sorry I am for Carla and Falltime! I am wishing you both success in your upcoming treatments, whenever they may be. Cher, keep us posted on your lupron injections, I think they start today? Can you tell me what exactly the purpose of lupron is in the IVF/FET process?

We had our consult with our RE two weeks ago, and for many reasons have decided to move forward with IVF in January. I was pretty bummed that we had to wait, but our RE will only cycle a few patients through IVF each month so that each gets undivided attention, and they were booked up through the end of the year. So Falltime, December will be our pre-month stuff as well.

Trying to be positive and wishing for the best for everyone~!

 

[cherbear]

Hi everyone! We just returned from a much-needed Disney trip with family. It was only four nights, but we were able to see and do a lot. I was so worried seeing all of the families was going to be upsetting, but there were only a few sad times out of the entire trip. I am sure you all can understand how seeing parents with their children, especially babies, can be hard while going through infertility. Especially at a place we all love - Disney! Sometimes I wonder if I will ever get there with my own children.

I wanted to say how sorry I am for Carla and Falltime! I am wishing you both success in your upcoming treatments, whenever they may be. Cher, keep us posted on your lupron injections, I think they start today? Can you tell me what exactly the purpose of lupron is in the IVF/FET process?

We had our consult with our RE two weeks ago, and for many reasons have decided to move forward with IVF in January. I was pretty bummed that we had to wait, but our RE will only cycle a few patients through IVF each month so that each gets undivided attention, and they were booked up through the end of the year. So Falltime, December will be our pre-month stuff as well.

Trying to be positive and wishing for the best for everyone~!

I'm glad you had a wonderful trip, and have IVF coming on the horizon! I know exactly what you mean about seeing happy families and babies, especially at my "happy place".

Today IS the day, indeed! I took my first shot this morning. The purpose of lupron is to supress the ovaries (by way of signaling the pituary gland).

 

[DisneyElite4]

I'm glad you had a wonderful trip, and have IVF coming on the horizon! I know exactly what you mean about seeing happy families and babies, especially at my "happy place".

Today IS the day, indeed! I took my first shot this morning. The purpose of lupron is to supress the ovaries (by way of signaling the pituary gland).

Thanks for the info! I have another possibly silly question. I thought that the BC was to supress the ovaries? Does taking lupron double-supress them? Just trying to figure this all out!

 

[cherbear]

Thanks for the info! I have another possibly silly question. I thought that the BC was to supress the ovaries? Does taking lupron double-supress them? Just trying to figure this all out!

it is. Lupron overlaps with the bcp....it's something I'll be continuing to take along with the estrogen. I am still trying to figure it out why.... I pretty much just do as I'm told since FET is so new to me

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Hi everyone! We just returned from a much-needed Disney trip with family. It was only four nights, but we were able to see and do a lot. I was so worried seeing all of the families was going to be upsetting, but there were only a few sad times out of the entire trip. I am sure you all can understand how seeing parents with their children, especially babies, can be hard while going through infertility. Especially at a place we all love - Disney! Sometimes I wonder if I will ever get there with my own children.

Trying to be positive and wishing for the best for everyone~!

So any times WDW has brought tears.
It can be really tough when your walking through infertility and it seems the entire world has children or are expecting.

Disney if you ever wanted to chat with the doctor we used he will chat with you on the phone for a 15 minute consult.
Thank goodness friends of ours decided to use him and after 3 failed IVFs with other doctors they are now pregnant after one try with him!

 

[DisneyElite4]

So any times WDW has brought tears.
It can be really tough when your walking through infertility and it seems the entire world has children or are expecting.

Disney if you ever wanted to chat with the doctor we used he will chat with you on the phone for a 15 minute consult.
Thank goodness friends of ours decided to use him and after 3 failed IVFs with other doctors they are now pregnant after one try with him!

I would be interested to know who your RE was - he may be the same one we were considering having a consult with. Does he treat specific cases of women? That is great news about your friend - what was the treatment that finally worked for her?

 

[Falltime]

So Falltime, December will be our pre-month stuff as well.

Yeah!! It will be great to have an IVF buddy here who is going through the same things at the same time! I am learning a lot about IVF and how it works and I appreciate you Cher telling us the steps you are going through so I know what to prepare for. At least with it being a while yet it will give us time to save up some more.

 

[cherbear]

Yeah!! It will be great to have an IVF buddy here who is going through the same things at the same time! I am learning a lot about IVF and how it works and I appreciate you Cher telling us the steps you are going through so I know what to prepare for. At least with it being a while yet it will give us time to save up some more.

just to be clear, some people going through a full IVF do lupron, but still many others do not. I did not use lupron during my full IVF's, rather I used ganirelix --which is a daily shot started once the bloodwork shows a surge in LH. Whereas lupron is a small amount taken daily that keeps the surge from even happening so no ovulation can occur.

 

[cherbear]

I would be interested to know who your RE was - he may be the same one we were considering having a consult with. Does he treat specific cases of women? That is great news about your friend - what was the treatment that finally worked for her?

I'm interested too! There are 2 that I was thinking of having a consult with, but DH didn't/doesn't want to give my eggs anymore chances and keep spending money.

 

[Leger13]

Hi Girls....

Leger13, Waiting Land is the hardest place to be. Please enjoy your time with your little one.

Falltime, I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

cherbear, so glad your off and running. Looking forward to some wonderful news in the future!

Yeah it is. Thank you, I am doing my best. At least the holidays are coming up so that will be fun

Hi everyone! We just returned from a much-needed Disney trip with family. It was only four nights, but we were able to see and do a lot. I was so worried seeing all of the families was going to be upsetting, but there were only a few sad times out of the entire trip. I am sure you all can understand how seeing parents with their children, especially babies, can be hard while going through infertility. Especially at a place we all love - Disney! Sometimes I wonder if I will ever get there with my own children.

I wanted to say how sorry I am for Carla and Falltime! I am wishing you both success in your upcoming treatments, whenever they may be. Cher, keep us posted on your lupron injections, I think they start today? Can you tell me what exactly the purpose of lupron is in the IVF/FET process?

We had our consult with our RE two weeks ago, and for many reasons have decided to move forward with IVF in January. I was pretty bummed that we had to wait, but our RE will only cycle a few patients through IVF each month so that each gets undivided attention, and they were booked up through the end of the year. So Falltime, December will be our pre-month stuff as well.

Trying to be positive and wishing for the best for everyone~!

Yay for going to Disney but I know how hard that can be too. I usually just tried to ignore all the happy families there. I'd walk around calling the kids brats to make me feel better about not being there with a child of my own. Harsh? Probably, but it helped me mentally.

I'm sorry to hear you have to wait until Jan for your IVF but I think it's great that your RE wants to make sure all of his patients gets good personal care throughout something so stressful. I'll be praying the IVF works for you guys and you'll be on your way to being parents after this IVF!!

 

[Kennywife]

Yeah it is. Thank you, I am doing my best. At least the holidays are coming up so that will be fun



Yay for going to Disney but I know how hard that can be too. I usually just tried to ignore all the happy families there. I'd walk around calling the kids brats to make me feel better about not being there with a child of my own. Harsh? Probably, but it helped me mentally.

I'm sorry to hear you have to wait until Jan for your IVF but I think it's great that your RE wants to make sure all of his patients gets good personal care throughout something so stressful. I'll be praying the IVF works for you guys and you'll be on your way to being parents after this IVF!!

Not harsh at all girl. I do that sometimes. I know I shouldn't, but....

I plan to do my best to just have fun and enjoy being with my guy. It's hard, but such is life.

Ken and I will be there Nov. 10-13 off property at Clarion Inn and then Nov. 13-16 at Pop Century.

After this year.....I need Disney therapy!!!!

Here's an itenerary of our plans:

Nov. 10--flight to MCO (we get in late, so pizza delivery).
Nov. 11-Ohana 9:40 a.m. (Am I lucky or what?! Last one!!!!)
Explore parks
Rose & Crown 9:10 p.m. (Illuminations!!!!!)
Nov. 12-- Enough said. We are HUGE HP fans!
HOB 9 p.m.
Head to Pop!!!!
Nov. 13--LTT 11:30 a.m. (lunch with co-workers!!!)
Le Cellier 4:50 p.m.
Nov. 14--Boma 7:30 a.m. (not sure about this one. May leave morning open)
Via Napoli 12:45 p.m.
Cali Grill! 9:10 p.m. (Wishes)
Nov. 15---Epcot emh a.m.
Crystal Palace 10:20 a.m.
Akershus 1:55 p.m. (may cancel this one though). Too short time between meals.
MVMCP
Nov. 16--Cape May 9:05 a.m.

Go home.

Get geared up for my solo trip to D-land Dec. 2 and April birthday trip!!!! (35 in April 6!!!!)

In the meantime, while I'm waiting for the April trip...have my surgery and then...BD time again!

Gabbie