Travelling with the in-laws

[Marseeya]

I'd rather have my teeth pulled with no novocaine!

DH came to me yesterday and said that my MIL wants us to take a cruise together. That's easy, I just said no. Then DH told me it was a Disney cruise. Not so easy. I luvvvv Disney.

He sounds like he really wants to go. After all these years, I've been dodging this particular bullet, but I think I'm going to have to suck it up and do it for DH.



Have any of you ever taken a cruise with the in-laws? How did it turn out? How much togetherness is it? That's my biggest thing with travelling with ANYbody -- I hate too much togetherness.

 

[Mercy]

I'd rather have my teeth pulled with no novocaine!

Oh, my gosh.... I feel your pain!

 

[disneymac]

We've never cruised with the in-laws (one weekend a year in Cape Cod is enough of that, thank you very much!) but we have cruised. The ship is a pretty big place and there are so many things to do - it shouldn't really be a problem getting time away from others. Unless of course, your in-laws are the type who will have to do everything together just because you're on the same ship! Good luck - I hope you have a great trip!!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Well since it is a once in a lifetime for your dh I say go forth and enjoy the "togetherness". I have vacationed with IL's and I cherish the memories now. Give yourself something nice to remember.

I have never cruised and probably never will but I am sure you will have fun!

 

[Cruisin]

I agree that the ship is plenty big enough to lose someone in if you really want to

Maybe you can set some guidelines, like.... you eat dinner together everynight but all go your own way during the rest of the day.

 

[Mari annie]

We always went places with my parents.
Enjoy them.
My dad passed away last Saturday, and it hasn't really hit me yet.
Cherish every day.

We live across town, so that wasn't hard to do, we aren't close to DH parents (who live 20 minutes away) they already have a closeness with another of DH sibling (and that was enough for them)

I am happy/grateful for all the wonderful memories of trips we have taken with my mom & dad.

We are returning back to FL in April for 2 weeks with mom and already it's hard planning activities without him. My dad's favorite ride was "It's a small world".

Thanks for letting me share this.

Tell your loved ones how much you love them. Treasure them.

 

[ilovepcot]

I've found that the things you dread most sometimes turn out to be the best surprises. Let's hope this is one of those.

 

[momrek06]

It is NOT my in-laws but MY parents that are EXTREME high maintenance. But enough about my crazy family.....

I WOULD GO!!!! NO, I have never cruised with in-laws or out-laws BUT like another poster said and you said it is D I S N E Y!!!!!

The ship is BIG!!! That helps. You will each have your own cabin, RIGHT?

I would set up some excursions and make your ressies at PALO. How about the SPAS for you and DH? Will they help out with kids? Are you taking kids along? Sitting on the deck and reading and relaxing may just be what they want as well as you.

I sometimes find that when I THINK I am going to have the worst time of my life (this goes for everything/anything) I am actually quite surprised how good the event actually turned out......hmmmm!!!!

 

[ceiligh1]

My DH (then fiance) and I sailed through the San Jan Islands with his mom and stepdad and two other people on a 30 ft sailboat for a week. Let me just say containing me and them in that small a space will never happen again. We also now have an agreement between DH and I that we will never skipper the same boat with his mom and stepdad. It was strained for many reasons but we still managed to have some fun.
I would set rules and expectations for the trip beforehand and plan out the ports. I would also make sure to have some time just for yourself as well as for you and DH and have a great time.

 

[momrek06]

I've found that the things you dread most often turn out to be the best surprises. Let's hope this is one of those.

HEY ILOVEPCOT: See my POST, GREAT MINDS THINK ALIKE and look we posted at the EXACT SAME TIME.....hahaha!!!!

 

[Marseeya]

We always went places with my parents.
Enjoy them.
My dad passed away last Saturday, and it hasn't really hit me yet.
Cherish every day.

I'm so sorry about your father.

 

[Mad4Mickey]

never taken a cruise with them but we plan on it . My MIL is a pushy woman ( much like myself ) but we get along fine . We have taken them to Vegas and we had seperate rooms that ajoined but she knocked on the door so much the 1st night that we left it swung open the rest of the time LOL

We took them to Disney World 2 years ago and to prevent her from knocking on the door between the rooms we just got one room : ) it was fun .

If you do it set up guidelines and dont cross them

 

[powellrj]

there isn't a ship in the world big enough for me to go on a trip with my in-laws!!!

 

[Beth76]

there isn't a ship in the world big enough for me to go on a trip with my in-laws!!!

Yeah, me too. Fortunately, it's not a problem for us as my in-laws don't ever leave their small town.

 

[Marseeya]

there isn't a ship in the world big enough for me to go on a trip with my in-laws!!!

That's the way I feel, and I'd hoped that was the way DH felt as well, but it's sounding more and more like this is something he wants to do.

For the past several years, they've asked us to go to a cabin with them in Maine. Cabin in Maine is no vacation for us! We live in a small town surrounded by country, so we live that every day. Plus step FIL drinks to excess and I really don't want my kids around that, or myself. He gets mean.

DH seems to have selective amnesia when it comes to his family.

 

[kristen821]

You will have fun. There is so much to do on the Disney cruise that you can spend as much or as little time together as you want. You can always "accidently" chose the early dining time when they choose the late (or the other way around) You can probably even request disney does not put your rooms close together, but that might be a little risky. You are trusting a person you don't know to not say anything when your in-laws ask to be close together.

 

[princess pooh]

A friend of mine goes on a yearly cruise with her in-laws. She makes sure their rooms aren't too close together and they mainly meeet up for meals and some excursions. She seems to enjoy it.

Personally, I'd rather beat myself with a sharp stick than be stuck in a confined space with my in-laws. I'd probably need a vacation to recover from that vacation!

 

[debbiedoo]

there isn't a ship in the world big enough for me to go on a trip with my in-laws!!!

I know that feeling. . . . .

to the OP -- best of luck with your decisions -- I would sent guidelines before I left -- both parties are on vacation and should have there own space -- I agree with eating meals together and going on way the rest of the trip

 

[SqueakyMouse]

I always think our big family trips are going to be so much fun...until I go on them. Ugh!! My advice: DO NOT GO!!!

 

[LindaG4458]

We've done WDW with my in-laws twice with us treating them to the trip. We couldn't breathe alone while they were there. Luckily they left early (hinting at how much they'd LOVE to stay longer) and we did get some time alone afterwards.

If you do go make sure you have the ground rules set before you get onto the ship.