Too old for family vacations?!?!?

[carrie6466]

My first post! I have a ds 18 and a dd 4. We are going to WDW on 6/26. My ds is more excited than dd. When I asked him if he was sure he wanted to go with us, his answer was..."you'd go without me???" LOL


Carrie

 

[powellrj]

my oldest DS stopped wanting to travel with us when he was about 16. He went as far as signing up for summer school so he didn't have to go!

Now he is engaged and his DFIN wants to travel with us, but he still doesn't want to go! I have decided he just doesn't like to travel. He lived in Germany off and on for 2 years and never did get out and see much of the country. I thought it was a waste of an opportunity, but he just doesn't like to travel.

Middle DS keeps telling us he would rather not go, but he still goes pretty willingly.

DD is the go girl! I think she will always be ready to travel!

 

[bzzymom]

I still take vacations with my family and I am in my mid 30's and my siblings are in their 20's. It is hard to schedule, but when it falls in to place, it is awesome!

 

[ASFCurly]

the youngest of us is 20 and we still take family vacations. My Mom is actually going on vacation with just her mother next summer. You might get to a point where you want them to contribute to the cost a little more, pay for some of their own things, but I think as long as they are willing to go, they are never to old.

 

[Love the Mouse]

I am 36 and this summer I will be going on vacation with my DH, DD(3), my mom and dad, my sister and her husband. We all rented a house on the beach in NC. We all can't wait. We are a very close family and I love it that way. Of course, we don't vacation all of the time together (busy lives), but being with your family is what it is all about.

Now we want to plan a family cruise together...but with that vacation, my aunt, uncle and cousins and their families will be in on it as well. I can't wait!

I say keep doing it for as long as you can.


Michaela

 

[*KeepMovingForward*]

Me and my siblings always traveled with my parents-well into our 20's and then when we hit our 30's, roles reversed and suddenly we were the ones taking our parents to Disney. I shudder to think that my kids would ever outgrown the mouse, but I guess it happens sometimes. So far we have always been able to schedule around kids work schedules and their dating and social lives.

 

[dreamn_Disney]

While I feel you are never to old to vacation with family I do feel you become to old to have to. My dd who will be 17 next year is going to NY with Grandma and I do not think ds and I will be going. I feel ds who will be 4 is still to young to enjoy the trip. We will be going elsewhere. I am sure dd will still join us at WDW in later years but for 08 she sadly will not.

 

[blessedby3]

I am pretty shocked that so many of you with teens say that the family vacations are over. I have DD17, DS12, DD8 and am due with DD Oct.1. We still vacation as a family and my kids love it. They have never even spoken a word as to not doing it. They always say that they will always go with us especially to Disney. This came up because my nephew couldnt go with his family on their Disney vacation in April because of college. My kids said they would want to go for sure. I think family time is so important and sending the kids off to camp for a month at 10 years old is just so crazy sounding to me. No way to build up the family by doing that. I can say all of our kids will vacation with us into their adulthood. I still vacation with my mom and DH's mom!! We went to Disney with my mom in 2005 and DH's in 2006. If we arent at Disney with them we are at the beach.

 

[peanut1967]

My son will be 20 on our next WDW trip and I would not like to be the one to try and keep him away from it lol, this year he is 18 and still comming away in a caravan for a week with us...I dont think he or my dd will ever be too old.

 

[Blue Skies]

I hope our DS will enjoy family vacations for a loonnngg time! We enjoy these times as a family, making lasting memories together!

I remember growing up my older sister did not join us on some family vacations. One of the trips was to Disney. She preferred to spend the time with her then boyfriend and friends. That was definitely her choice... but in my opinion she missed out. Our father passed away 9 years ago, so you can't get those opportunities back to spend time together.

 

[soccerEAGLE09]

No way! I am 16, and my sister is 21. We STILL convince our parents to take us back every summer. WDW is my get-a-way from my busy schedules. Loves it!

 

[disykat]

Since I am the only one here who has mentioned teen's summer jobs being a conflict, I have to ask "what do people do about their teen's jobs?"

Do you make them quit? Do you not allow them to work? Do you only allow them to work at places that will give them the time off? I'm seriously amazed that no one else has this conflict.

As I said before, my family ALWAYS took a summer vacation - until summer jobs became #1 priority in the late high school and college years.

One year when all three of us were in college there was a family reunion and two of us had to quit our jobs early in order to go. It worked out great for me timing wise, but my sister had an extra 3 weeks of being unemployed before going back to school. My brother had worked for the same people before and was able to get the time off.

 

[*KeepMovingForward*]

Since I am the only one here who has mentioned teen's summer jobs being a conflict, I have to ask "what do people do about their teen's jobs?"

Do you make them quit? Do you not allow them to work? Do you only allow them to work at places that will give them the time off? I'm seriously amazed that no one else has this conflict.

As I said before, my family ALWAYS took a summer vacation - until summer jobs became #1 priority in the late high school and college years.

One year when all three of us were in college there was a family reunion and two of us had to quit our jobs early in order to go. It worked out great for me timing wise, but my sister had an extra 3 weeks of being unemployed before going back to school. My brother had worked for the same people before and was able to get the time off.

We always make our vacation plans well in advance and DS has given his employer the info as soon as he knew, never seemed to be an issue for us. DS job is not seasonal and is a normal everyday job, so maybe that is the difference. Never had his employer say no or force him to quit. That is sad that someplaces would do that, but I guess it happens out there.

Me and my sister and brothers also did this when we were teens, but same thing-no seasonal employment and I guess maybe the luck of having bosses that were okay with vacations as long as we told them months in advance.

 

[rhonhod]

I'm 32 years old and I vacation with my parents and also my sister-in-laws parents. We have a great time together.

 

[kerry34]

No such thing as too old IMO!! I asked my 14 yr old that question and she said that she will always want to come with us, its too much fun to miss. I hope she never changes her mind about that.

 

[jessica52877]

I don't think while kids are living at home and in high school that they are ever too old for a family trip. They might not enjoy disney as much but I am sure enjoy other places. As long as my son is in my house in high school he will not have the option of not going along. After that I hope he would love to continue to join us but if not then I understand. He'll have his own life too.

 

[disykat]

We always make our vacation plans well in advance and DS has given his employer the info as soon as he knew, never seemed to be an issue for us. DS job is not seasonal and is a normal everyday job, so maybe that is the difference. Never had his employer say no or force him to quit. That is sad that someplaces would do that, but I guess it happens out there.

Me and my sister and brothers also did this when we were teens, but same thing-no seasonal employment and I guess maybe the luck of having bosses that were okay with vacations as long as we told them months in advance.

You're right about seasonal employment being the reason for difficulty getting time off. Most teens I know only work in the summers in high school and in their home towns for the summer during college - making seasonal employment the way it is. In my home town these jobs were difficult to get and if you left there were other teens lined up for the positions.

There's no such thing as months in advance when you're job hunting in June, planning on only staying through Labor Day, and saying "by the way, I'll need two weeks off in July". It just meant no job for you.

 

[Liltx]

When I was a teen our family took vacations to the beach each year with friends along.

Then my mom and I woud go on vacation somewhere while my dad and brother went somewhere else. The guys loved to backpack camp and mom and I did not. Worked out great! I also stayed at home sometimes and went with friends alot. We did take a few family vacations to Colorado but even then split up.

I guess I can see that happening in my family someday. They just change not completely stop.

Now I quite often go on vacation with my parents and my kids and leave dh at home.

We also leave the kids at home with gps and go on vacation alone, even better.

Monica

 

[Merriwind]

Dsis and I and our famililes still vacation with Dmom and Ddad--well into our 30s! DD9 plans to live with me--or next door--forever, so I think we're safe for now!!

 

[Starr W.]

Dsis and I and our famililes still vacation with Dmom and Ddad--well into our 30s! DD9 plans to live with me--or next door--forever, so I think we're safe for now!!

That sounds like my DS10, he wants us to sell him this house when we want to downsize(that means moving to own of the villa developments down the road, not out of state). He would like DS6 to live with him, but younger one always gives a vocal NO!