I agree and disagree with that statement. I agree with the part that it is how parents deal with the melt downs that matter, but I don't agree that all children have to have them. I have always warded off the melt downs before they started and I can honestly say that I have NEVER had any one of my three kids melt down because I pay very close attention to the signs that they are beginning to get upset. Believe what you want, but I have always been able to prevent melt downs before they happened, both at home and in public. I do not believe that melt downs have to happen. Babies melt down when they are hungry, need to be fed, need loving/hugs, or are tired/overstimulated. If you read their clues, they never develop the need to scream to get what they want. Once they begin to communicate with gestures or language, they are more than capable of using those means to get what they want and they do not need to scream, cry, and melt down. Children melt down when they don't have better ways to communicate their needs. Even a one year old can be taught that they must use their words, not throw fits. Perhaps I've been lucky and have very mild tempered kids, but they do not and never have had meltdowns. They use their words, it's much more effective.