You are in for a wonderful time!! We were there at the end of October for 3 days at the end of our Japan trip and enjoyed every second of it.
Not sure what the crowds will be like for your trip- our stay coincided with the last few days before Halloween when they allow adults to dress in costume (during regular park hours) and the parks were jammed. Reached capacity by noon on the Saturday and the fastpasses were all gone by late morning. But we still had tons of fun. Hopefully crowd levels will be lower in November. And IIRC, when you stay at the Miracosta you can get into TDS before the regular gates open to the general public.
Get there at least 30 min before park opening and head for one of the superheadliners, grab a fastpass and then go standby on the next closest headliner. Read your park map carefully- Splash Mountain at TDL and a couple of others at TDS (Indiana Jones and at least one other ride) have Single Rider Lines. These seem to be almost a secret- we hardly ever saw anyone using them, but they can save you a ton of time.
I hope you will devote a couple of days to Tokyo Disney Sea- there is nothing like it in any Disney Park anywhere in the world. It is just jaw-droppingly awsome, and you really need more than one day to explore it. Many of the rides are also in WDW, but don't assume they are identical. They are always different once you get inside!
If you go further down the main page you can find the Tokyo Disney forum. It's located inside the "Other Lands" forum. Lots of really helpful people who can give you excellent advice. And try to find time to read Lurkyloo's TR of her visit to TDL- It's a guide book all by itself, absolutely invaluable for anyone visiting Japan for the first time. Here is a link to that forum:
http://www.disboards.com/forumdisplay.php?f=178
I hope you have a wonderful trip.