To the parents of teens...I am fed up with you!!

[poohandwendy]

Ok I'm confused here - should I be thanking my parents for not allowing me to have a tv in my room (or cell phone or computer for that matter), or should it still be included in my book "Things my family did to screw me up"?

Well, you could do both... but the latter is going to make you money...so definitely include it in there.

 

[CRAZEDMOMOF2]

My son is on a campaign because he wants the following items that "everyone" has...

1) He wants a TV in his room. Every child he knows has their own TV and DVD player in their room.

2) He wants a computer in his room! Of course, every child he know has one in their room.

3) He wants a cell phone. Now, he has a MIGO, which is a phone with 4 programmed numbers where he can reach my husband and I, but he is teased about it and he is embarrassed about it.


I don't get parents...Why does a teenager, especially 12-15 year old, need a TV and computer in their room? It makes me really angry at other parents, because I blame them, not the children. It infuriates me, because I see it as laziness on the part of parents, and because of this, my child doesn't fit in. He also doesn't get why he can't have one.

Why would you want your child to have a TV in their room? So you don't have to see them or talk to them? So you don't have to be bothered with monitoring their TV programs? What about a computer? So they can surf and email on a computer and go on MYSPACE and again you don't have to be bothered by it? I don't get why kids need these things and why it's so popular that they have them in their room.

Why does a 12 year old need a regular cell phone? Why does any teen who doesn't drive yet need a cell phone?

I usually lurk around these boards, but after reading this I had to post my opinion-and NO I'm not a troll!

When a person has to lash out and blame others for what they can't afford imo are only looking for a scapegoat. You want to lay your guilt at others feet when in fact you need to face your own problems.

All your ranting and calling people lazy is not only childish, but it also says alot about you as an adult. Playing the blame game because your kid can't have what others have is irresponsible on your part.

You might as well face the fact that someone will always have more than you, me and everyone else, but it takes a bigger person to not blame others for their lack of buying power imho.

I guess I'm in the lazy parent category because both my 13ds and 17 dd have 2 tv's in both bedrooms. One for their xbox 360, xbox, ps2, gamecube and the older games. The other tv is for them to watch. I'm probably a horrible parent because they both have digital cable in their rooms. They also have cell phones and their own telephone lines

Am I lazy um... no because dh and spend time with our kids when we want to. We play board games and video games together (sometimes) when I can pry the phone from my daughter's ear.

Dh and I also have time to ourselves and time alone because no matter what you say, I want to have some ME TIME alone and I'm sure I'm not alone.




Oops forgot to add and I know this is will sure send me to hell. We bought our daughter a ford explorer that she can't drive yet because she doesn't have her license, but it's in the driveway just waiting and waiting waiting.

Take care, God Bless and quit playing the BLAME GAME

 

[poohandwendy]

Oh and to the OP...don't come back here complaining about the popular kids if you aren't willing to ante up when it comes to providing for your kids.

 

[foolishmortal]

well everyone please stop typing responses so fast. I had to go to lunch...imagine my lazy self had to walk all the way to the lunch room...I should have stayed at my desk.

I get back and now I cannot even keep up...geez...Maybe if I didn;t have a tv or nintendo in my room growing up I would have faster reading skills and not have this problem. This makes even more sense to me now and am so glad the OP has opened my eyes to this whole new world of parenting for me.

my DS: "Dad can I have a cell phone?"

me: Are you kidding? remember when I took your tv and dvd and video games away? What did I say, no cell phone for you until you turn 18 and out of the house.

ds: But please dad all the kids are doing it.

me: oh no they're not, look at this thread from 5 years ago in this message board I go to. http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1082771 Now son you see why you have nothing except Concentration and opertion games in your room.

I was going to get you candyland and chutes and ladders as games but as a poster mentioned I didn't want to contribute to your high sugar intake, and make you afraid of heights.

Hopefully you understand that I didn't want to be blamed for all the bad things that would have happened to you so please try and undertsand son.

ds: Thank You dad. I love you more now than ever before!


Thank You OP I now have my son back!

 

[mickeyfan2]

(By the way, has anyone seen my kids? They don't have cell phones, T.V.'s or computers in their rooms, and apparently they've left home for better pickings)

Don't worry they are safe. I picked them up walking the interstate with a sign that read,"Will work for TV, Cell Phone and computer in room."

 

[bumcat]

Disteach - go back and read some of the stuff you posted back in Jan. I do believe you will find who you really should be blaming for all your problems with your kid and it aint us.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

The OP probably could have worded the whole thing differently and gotten a whole different response.

Instead they comes out throwing punches and poking the "OTHER" parents in the chest.

I have a well rounded good student in school for the most part listens to us child. I must be doing something right. (pats self on back).


Okay lets not worry about the parents that leave work and hit the bar all night before coming home to deal with their family or child. Because they probably don't have TV's or Computers so they are the good parents.


Amazing what the OP thinks makes a "Good" parent.

 

[Crankyshank]

hmm.. just thought of something. My Mother was concerned about being a bad influence on my 13yr old cousin because we play dice games (for money) and ghettopoly at family holidays and occasions.

She'll be relieved to hear ghettopoly is disteach approved

 

[L107ANGEL]

well everyone please stop typing responses so fast. I had to go to lunch...imagine my lazy self had to walk all the way to the lunch room...I should have stayed at my desk.

I get back and now I cannot even keep up...geez...Maybe if I didn;t have a tv or nintendo in my room growing up I would have faster reading skills and not have this problem. This makes even more sense to me now and am so glad the OP has opened my eyes to this whole new world of parenting for me.

my DS: "Dad can I have a cell phone?"

me: Are you kidding? remember when I took your tv and dvd and video games away? What did I say, no cell phone for you until you turn 18 and out of the house.

ds: But please dad all the kids are doing it.

me: oh no they're not, look at this thread from 5 years ago in this message board I go to. http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1082771 Now son you see why you have nothing except Concentration and opertion games in your room.

I was going to get you candyland and chutes and ladders as games but as a poster mentioned I didn't want to contribute to your high sugar intake, and make you afraid of heights.

Hopefully you understand that I didn't want to be blamed for all the bad things that would have happened to you so please try and undertsand son.

ds: Thank You dad. I love you more now than ever before!


Thank You OP I now have my son back![/QUOTE]

 

[CookieGVB]

Don't worry they are safe. I picked them up walking the interstate with a sign that read,"Will work for TV, Cell Phone and computer in room."

Shouldn't that sign read, "Will be completely lazy (just like the adults) for TV, cell phone and computer in room"?

 

[Poohlovr]

Don't worry they are safe. I picked them up walking the interstate with a sign that read,"Will work for TV, Cell Phone and computer in room."

OMG--Diet-Coke everywhere!
(Can someone who is not as lazy as I come clean it up for me??)

 

[PooohBear]

Okay lets not worry about the parents that leave work and hit the bar all night before coming home to deal with their family or child.
Amazing what the OP thinks makes a "Good" parent.

We avoid that by bringing the kids with us to the bar

 

[foolishmortal]

We avoid that by bringing the kids with us to the bar

You JUST bring your to the bar. Hell mine were so lazy I taught them how to bartend now they work thier. I get free drinks, and family time at the same time...what a deal.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

We avoid that by bringing the kids with us to the bar

OH YOU ARE GOOD!!!

Always thinking!

 

[nuke]

I'm surprised you are all shocked to hear that you are bad parents for having TV's in the kids room. I was told what a horrible parent I am months ago for that.
My mom just called to tell me that they are giving my son their old computer for his room. I'll have to call her back and tell her that she's making me a bad mom again. Computer bad!!

As far as Charlie's study....we just got my son's testing back. He reads at an eighth grade levelbut he's only in second grade right now. I guess he needs to watch more TV so he fits in better.

 

[L107ANGEL]

You JUST bring your to the bar. Hell mine were so lazy I taught them how to bartend now they work thier. I get free drinks, and family time at the same time...what a deal.

 

[Pam]

If your son does not get why he can't have one, sorry...but that is up to you to deal with. It's your job to explain what he can and cannot have...and why. LOL, you hold other people accountable for your son not fitting in? Um, does he always have to be exactly like others to 'fit in'? It's none of your business why other people allow such things for their kids. If it were about 'need', my kids would have only a bed and dresser in their rooms. Blame them for what? Allowing them to have something you disaprove of? Please. Laziness? How so? OMG, you just figured me out...I don't want to talk to my kids, so I distract them with electronic devices to avoid conversation. Wow, what a stretch of the imagination. LOL, have you heard of channel blocking? Again, have you heard of parental controls? You also do know that not all bedroom computers are hooked up to the internet, right? Why are you under the impression that other parents should only provide their children with things that are 'needs'? I am sure your child has some things that are not considered necessity.

Better question is, why is it any of your business? And why are you blaming your son's reaction to your rules on other peoples actions?

You, PAW, are my hero!!
Your posts are always spot-on!

I want to meet you someday and have lunch!

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Maybe we should talk about how the OP posted on the DIS about how she pulls her son from school to take him to WDW. THE HORROR!

 

[Nana Annie]

You know - OP - I absolutely agree with you. TV's belong in the family room and nowhere else in the house. It really cuts down on the time you have to spend monitoring what your child is watching. That is such a pain to have to stay so involved.

And how else are you going to teach your youngsters about the facts of life without watching The Baby Story or Babies: Special Delivery? I love to watch those shows and I make sure the little ones are right there with me, sharing some important family togetherness time. Our family especially likes he shows where the ladies scream the loudest. Our girls cannot wait for the cameras to be in the birthing room with them.

And I also agree that kids absolutely do NOT need cell phones. Never mind that pay phones have gone the way of the dinosaur. What is up with that? In the high school here, kids are not allowed to use the school phones after the last bell. Miss the bus - oh well. No worries though, my kids' friends all have cell phones and if they really need to get hold of me, they can borrow one of theirs. No reason why I should have to shell out the money for my kid to be carrying one of those things.

OP - the others won't get this, but I know you will understand. I couldn't believe another mother last week. Swim practice was cancelled early due to a lightning storm and numerous kids did not have cell phones. And the pay phone was yanked out years ago. This one mom, who got there early because her kid had called her on her cell phone, had the nerve to tell her kid to hurry up and get in the car. Never mind that MY kids needed to call me. After she let 15 kids use her daughter's cell phone to call their parents, she said she had to go and made her daughter take her cell phone back and get in the car. MY kids had to wait the storm out because they couldn't call me and I didn't pay attention to the weather. Can you believe the nerve of that mother to not allow the rest of the kids to use her cell phone? If you are going to let your child have a cell phone, you most certainly need to accept the consequences of owning it by allowing others to use it.

And I have to agree with you that I need my kid to be talking on the phone in the kitchen. That way I can monitor very closely his every conversation. Isn't that what parenting is all about? Close control of your children?

Now, if you will excuse me, I just read in the TV Guide that Cinemax has some promising family television on. A show called Emmanuelle In Space. Emmanuelle, such a pretty name. It is on a bit late, but togetherness is all important, don't you think?

 

[poohandwendy]

You, PAW, are my hero!!
Your posts are always spot-on!

I want to meet you someday and have lunch!

The pleasure would be all mine...we would have a blast!