TKers...8 is NOT enough!

[Pikester]

Jo: Sounds like the cookout was fun. Sorry to hear about your Father not showing up. Glad to hear that you DH's dad was able to make it.

D&D: Happy Birthday to your Mom. I know how rare it is to be with your mom without the "other" mucking things up and I'm glad you enjoyed your time with her. Good luck for next weekend though.

LITC: You know I want cake now.

Magi: I can't believe how fast the holidays are coming! I saw a commercial the other day for those Barbie like dolls and you could make your own snow. I consider that a winter or holiday commercial. It starts earlier and earlier every year. There is Halloween candy in the stores all ready.

Was very happy to hear that M&N was alright.

DL55: Have fun on your trip! Sorry to hear about your "garage".

I just know that I'm missing people so I'll say Hello! to everyone that I missed.

Have a good Labor Day!

 

[Pikester]

Pike, your FIL sounded like such a wonderful man to have in your life. I'm sure he's entertaining all of heaven right now.

The posted lyrics was quite impressive. and now I have it playing in my head. They should totally have a trashy musical marathon on today! Or a John Hughes marathon.

Don't be too impressed. I had to Google the lyrics because it would have taken me to long to type them out myself.

I use to sing Hopelessly Devoted to you all the time.

 

[DL55]

I like Grease too. I think I'm too old for poodle skirts. I just missed them the first time around.
I read those lyrics, it gave me a headache.
One week from today we'll be on our way to visit family. Oh boy

 

[MagiKitty]

I have to vent. My nephew just cancelled on our trip on Wednesday. This has been planned for weeks now. Why? So he can attend the baptism of a cousin of his on the other side on Sunday. We were supposed to be back Sunday. Now he's totally cancelled coz he'd rather go there.

I get it, he wants to be with the other side of his family. But he's with them ALL THE TIME. They were just here this past weekend. THey went on a three week vacation with them this summer.

I'm tired of feeling like the poor relation side of the family. So maybe we're not as fun and outgoing as those other people. I would have even understood if there was some family going to be there that they never see. But I'm really hurt and pissed off. And seriously, I'm done. I'll get together for mandatory family occassions, but nothing else. There's no reason to be treated like this.

I'll go and have fun with my sister and friends and move on. I used to enjoy being close with my brother and his family, but in recent years, its been more obligatory rather than we like each other. At least for me. I'm included because I should, not because they actually care about what it going on in my life. I don't need that.

 

[DL55]

MagiKitty I get that felling from my own side of the family. We are here for you to vent.

 

[MagiKitty]

D...thank you so much. I just don't understand. My nephew did come over, but I was out. Actually, I was sitting in the grocery store parking lot crying on the phone to BF. I just don't know why things are like this sometimes. I think we've talked about it before--I've never gotten that feeling from anyone (aside from my mother) that I really mean something to them, outside of obligation. My grandparents, aunts, cousins, anyone. It makes me feel self-conscious--what's wrong with me? Why doesn't anyone appreciate me?

BF was sweet and just said that we'd just have to make our own family (happiness level---HIGH!) but it almost makes me scared that sometime down the road he may also not want me in his life. I try to be a good person, but it can really mess with your head when you just have such obstacles.

On the other hand, I thank God that I have so much going to for me and for all my other blessings. While I would love to have family who was close and loving, its not the cards I was dealt. But I'll never let my own kids feel like they're second rate family.

Hugs to my family here. I really appreciate each of you for being a part of my life willingly and sharing your lives with me.

 

[JOCAmom]

Oh MK. I am so sorry he did that to you. And I so totally get what you are feeling right now. I'm in tears right along side of you.

And you have us for always. I've learned that family is exactly what you make it. I've found mine here with all of you.

 

[MagiKitty]

Thank you so much JO, I wish it didn't hurt me, but I thought that the nephew and I had something special. Just the idea that he didn't think I'd be disappointed or hurt by his choice makes me think I didn't know him very well at all. And his parents (my brother especially) should know that if you make plans with someone, you should maintain that obligation unless if were absolutely unavoidable.

I'd almost understand it more if it were a girl or his college buddies...but when its just coz he would rather be with them, that's what really upsets me.

But, I guess I'll just learn from this experience and proceed with my plans anyway. I bought a bunch of fruit today and I'll chop it up tomorrow for the sangria. Good way to get out the aggression!

 

[JOCAmom]

Sangria sounds good. I'm having a margarita right not. And Curt grilled up some fish for dinner tonight. All I had to do was heat up the leftover rice and beans from the other day and the corn on the cob.

I heard from my dad. He pretty much told me that he always goes to the fair on the day that it was our picnic. So not only do I rank under his new family but fair is more important than us.

 

[MagiKitty]

oh JO--I raise my glass to you for a toast to all the sucky people in the world and their insensitivities....I'm sorry that you completely understand my feelings of being treated unfairly by family. I wish that you didn't. I wish that your father would realize how wonderful you and your family are and what a schmuck he's been....

 

[JOCAmom]

We've decided to have a Halloween costume party here next month. Jackie is all out for this one and has already requested a fog machine for the party. Now I just have to come up with a costume.

 

[MagiKitty]

oh that's going to be so much fun! I've always been really bad at costumes. Although I will say in high school for Senior Dress up day we went as a can of 7-Up and the red dots--do you remember that promo? It was really cute but our dots were so big we had to walk sideways through doors!

 

[JOCAmom]

I remember that. We've never really done homemade costumes except for Jackie. But we do love Halloween, or at least I do.

Livvie is standing here being nosy and she wants me to tell you that she got a Hello Kitty lunchbox for school this year.

 

[MagiKitty]

Hi Livvie! I think your Hello Kitty lunchbox is so cool! Are you excited for school?

 

[JOCAmom]

Hi MagiKitty! Yes, I am very excited for school. I miss seeing my friends.

 

[MagiKitty]

That's the best part, seeing all your friends and telling each other about the cool things you did over the summer. I miss the first day of school. It was so exciting and so much fun! Do you know who your teacher is? I hope you have the nicest teacher in the world!

 

[JOCAmom]

I know my teacher's name. She sent me a letter last week telling me what to bring to school for the first day.

I have to go to bed now.

Good night MagiKitty!

 

[MagiKitty]

goodnight and the sweetest of dreams darling! Good luck on the first day!

 

[JOCAmom]

I think I have my costumes narrowed down to 2.

http://www.frightcatalog.com/Hallow...stumes/Venus-Goddess-Of-Love-Costume-1023732/

Or

http://www.frightcatalog.com/Hallow...d-Medieval-Costumes/Juliette-Costume-1023714/

Jackie likes one and I prefer the other.

 

[LivinInTheCastle]

D...thank you so much. I just don't understand. My nephew did come over, but I was out. Actually, I was sitting in the grocery store parking lot crying on the phone to BF. I just don't know why things are like this sometimes. I think we've talked about it before--I've never gotten that feeling from anyone (aside from my mother) that I really mean something to them, outside of obligation. My grandparents, aunts, cousins, anyone. It makes me feel self-conscious--what's wrong with me? Why doesn't anyone appreciate me?

BF was sweet and just said that we'd just have to make our own family (happiness level---HIGH!) but it almost makes me scared that sometime down the road he may also not want me in his life. I try to be a good person, but it can really mess with your head when you just have such obstacles.

On the other hand, I thank God that I have so much going to for me and for all my other blessings. While I would love to have family who was close and loving, its not the cards I was dealt. But I'll never let my own kids feel like they're second rate family.

Hugs to my family here. I really appreciate each of you for being a part of my life willingly and sharing your lives with me.

Kitty -- for LOTS of people in my past,you may as well have been talking about me. I'mvery sorry that you are so upset. But moving on may be the most empowering choice you can make in this situation. Now that my father is gone, not only is there not a single person I speak to on my dads side, but I could trip over any of them (except one) and have not a clue who they even are. Life will go on, and what you said about kids--- I think you know how I am raising Walter. He will NEVER wonder if mommy (or daddy) loves him. He will ALWAYS know.
And we love you!!

I think I have my costumes narrowed down to 2.

http://www.frightcatalog.com/Hallow...stumes/Venus-Goddess-Of-Love-Costume-1023732/

Or

http://www.frightcatalog.com/Hallow...d-Medieval-Costumes/Juliette-Costume-1023714/

Jackie likes one and I prefer the other.

Jo --sorry about what you are going through as well. I have never understood people that can just "dump"the old family and move onto the new. Fully classifies them as (a womans sanitary product beginning with D)

And P.S. I like the first one.