This worries me...Advice??

[♥Ariel♥]

Little bit of background: my cousin's parents are divorced and his mama lives in Utah and and his dad in Georgia. My dad and his dad are brothers. he has lived with his mom his entire life but got sick of her moving around to follow every boyfriend so he moved up to GA with his dad. his dad is not the greatest and strictest dad ever (EX: does not see problem leaving teen boy home alone for 1 week) < although he never did this, this is when my cuz first started living with him and he has become a better father.

anyway my aunt called my mama today to say that on facebook he had joined a hate group for some girl and his dad will take something away but he replaces it with another. and then his dad takes that away, it is like a cycle. (like no ipod so he watches tv then no tv and ipod so moves to computer you get the picture). and it is no that he has joined his group which i personally would classify as cyber bullying but idk. my aunt says he is also being bad, wrong crowd of kids, huuuge bad language issue, etc. well this summer we are going on a one week vacay with my dads side of the family so he is coming and my mom thought i could influcance him i guess because i am good kid. she said she wants me to show him you can actually have fun and be happy without being bad or whatever and maybe change him a bit.

my thing is i am just unsure of how to approach this. keep in mind i havent seen him in three years and he is like two months older than me. okay please help me out here.

sorry this was wayyyy super long i am just worried he used to be such a good kid.

 

[WestCOT]

This sounds like the plot of a bad Ages 14-16 novel.

Nonetheless, you should be fine. I don't know what worries you; he probably won't change no matter what you do, and it doesn't sound as if you'll be influenced by him.

 

[mommycrawford]

All you can do is be yourself, and hope he appreciates the quality example you set. If he is open, he will see that being happy is a choice you make...think lemons and lemonade. Another child's behavior cannot be your responsability, but your opinion of him might be important to him, so speak your mind if he does something that's not cool.

BTW...being two months older probably would only matter if he was the girl, and you were the boy.

HAVE A GREAT TRIP, and don't put pressure on yourself!

 

[♥Ariel♥]

its not a novel...its life.

anyway thanks. part of it is since he moved in with his dad all he wants to do is spend time with him and doesnt have a lot of friends and they ones he has are not that great. like i still think he is a good kid he seems to be when we talk via facebook. but his dad wont give him the time of day anyway thanks for the support

 

[snowyjoey]

i say just confront him its always better to identify the problem first but if you don't want to cause a scene like that on your vacay then i say let him learn by expierence like hang with him while on your best behavior and stuff like that if he sees that maybe it will help