They Call Me MISTER PIG- He Said, She Said (9/1 Lights, Thunder, Fantasmic? Page 47)

[SnowWhite607]

I am so sorry for all your recent troubles and that you have been so sad.

Emotional?? Um, arent you supposed to be? Your marriage is ending. I dont think you would be human if you werent. Yeah, I'd like to see how that flies...."Um, Your Honor, I think Baby should be with me cause SHE is too emotional after I told her out of the blue that I didnt love her anymore and didnt want to be married to her." Um, HELLO???????? Sorry to be mean, but is this man all there???? OF COURSE you are emotional!! What were you supposed to do when he dropped that bomb on you? Say "oh, ok then, have a nice life" and go on your merry way?? Either he's real stupid or real immature (or both) to believe for one second that you should not be a bit emotional at this time. Girl, I dont know what your daily life was like but it sounds like you are better off throwing this fish back. Clearly he doesnt think rationally and doesnt know which end is up.

With that being said, I know you are still sad about the end of the marriage. I left my first husband but I was still sad in a way about the end of the marriage, mostly because I think I looked at it as my failure. Took me a long time to realize that is wasnt MY failure and that I was worthy of being loved. Now I am married for almost 12 years to my 2nd husband and I try to remind myself every day that I am worthy. You should too, cause I know you are.

Just cause A marriage ends does not mean you are stupid, or a bad wife, or a failure or any of the other things you have said. It just means you are HUMAN and sometimes we get dealt a pretty bad hand. The thing that matters now is how you play that hand in the future.

Thinking of you and wishing a good day for you

 

[DisneygirlTeacher]

Thinking of you and knowing you will soon feel stronger every day. Your children will help get you through this and help to make you happy again. Thoughts and prayers sent to you.

 

[reelmom]

Like others have said, He's crazy to think that a judge would give him custody because you are emotional. What else are you suppossed to be? I think he is just trying to play head games and scare you. He's trying to make himself feel better for what He has put you and the kids through. I wouldn't be surprised that the lawyer is telling him to act like this so when he puts the "real deal" on the table, you will take it. And what judge is going to reward custody to a man who just up and leaves. Not exactly a stable environment to a child. Try not to worry. I know easier said than done, but document everything and FIGHT with all that you have. And when you feel like there is nothing left, let us know. We will be there to encourage you and to pray for you.

 

[ChevyNat]

I can't believe how similar he is to my Ex... wow! I documented everything, every little phone calls, how he left, everything... I still do to this day! My Ex also wanted shared custody of the children.... but I told him that I would drag him and her (new girlfriend) through the mud and he would not know what hit him.... You see my best friend is a lawyer and between him and this board... I had very good advice.... I was sad, confused, heart broken at first... but soon turned it all in anger and fought back...
Like I said today I have the kids... the most important thing in my life... and all I wanted to do was to protect them at all cost.
Please get some professional help, don't let him manipulate you with promises of trying to get back together, I would be leary (?) of him, like you said, if he is taking out a loan for custody ????? HUMMMM!
If he is sincere, great.... but take notes and document everything!

Please let us know how things go.... You are in my prayers and thoughts... Be brave and be smart!!!

 

[StitchyPoo81]

After reading what people wrote let me tell you I have a almost 6year old daughter. I have been going to Custody Court since she was 1 1/2 with my ex. From the beginning all he wanted was 50/50 so he wouldnt have to pay child support. To this day he is still fighting for 50/50 and cant get it. His vistitation is every other weekend and every tuesday night for 2 1/2 hours. He will never get more time no matter how much he trys. The courts look out for the best interest of the child. And I advise you have a lawyer and lots of money. Its not cheap, but I would pay anything in the world for the protection of my child. Im have $20,000 in lawyer bills but his child support pays those bills.

 

[sunnyday123]

Becca,

Just wanted to let you know we are thinking about you and the kids. Hope you are staying strong, I know you've had alot thrown at you in the past month or so. We are all here for you, and you will get through this.

 

[awaldo]

Becca - I may be one of the few men reading this - but I did, from the beginning to the end. I am so sorry for what you're going through - it made me want to run right home and hug my wife and kids...

Anyhow, my thoughts are with you and your kids. Like most men, I don't have any advice worth listening to, but I hope that everything works out for the best for you and your children, WHATEVER that may be.

 

[sunnyday123]

Becca - I may be one of the few men reading this - but I did, from the beginning to the end. I am so sorry for what you're going through - it made me want to run right home and hug my wife and kids...

Anyhow, my thoughts are with you and your kids. Like most men, I don't have any advice worth listening to, but I hope that everything works out for the best for you and your children, WHATEVER that may be.

Actually, you could probably give more insight than we can.

 

[reelmom]

Hey Becca~
Hope you are having a good day. We are here for you when you need us.

 

[LuccaDrake]

Becca, I hope all is well. I know you are taking great care of the children, but I hope you are taking care of yourself as well. I know you have some health problems but hope that they are not causing you pain. Hang in there girl!

"Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow."
-Anonymous-

~Beka~

 

[awaldo]

Actually, you could probably give more insight than we can.

Well, I'm not sure about that. I'd be willing to try, or help in any way I can for you to get through this.

 

[stagemomx3]

How are you doing?

 

[dreamer17555]

Hey everyone. I am still alive. I have a mountain of PM’s to get through though. Anyway here is a small update on my life:

My dear friend (ex-boyfriend) is still in ICU with something I have never heard of called Sepsis. He is going to be okay but any prayers for his recovery would be greatly appreciated. I have known him for years and I was there when at the age of 23 , He buried his mom and then his dad. He is a good guy and His little sister has been through so much in her young life (She just turned 19). So anyhow that’s what’s up with that.

Matt has scheduled an appointment to see a psychiatrist . It won’t be until the middle of August but I am very proud of him for taking that step. I would like to say I think it will fix things between us but I doubt it. To be honest the first few days it was hard to even breathe but now… I don’t know. I feel more like myself than I have in years. I am still so upset about what the kids are going through and I would be willing to give it another chance for them. But I am not sure if it would be the right thing for me personally.

Cat has an appointment to see a child therapist. I had to go in last week and meet the doctor and just talk over my concerns. She is still very clinging and while she is sometimes seems like her old self every once in awhile she will just start sobbing in the middle of whatever she is doing. It is very hard to watch. The doctor said my just is to comfort and support her but not to push her. If she doesn’t want to talk about I can tell her I would love to hear but can’t push it more than that. Stuff like that. She’s eating again so I guess that’s good.

Matt called yesterday very upset about not seeing the kids and I let Cat decide if she wanted to see him. She said no at first but when I asked her about Matt taking her to see Wall-E again she was all for it. She explained later it’s because he can’t talk during the movie. I have my fingers crossed that it will all go well. So it’s set for tonight. I am very nervous but I think it’s the right thing to do for him and for her.

Other than that some friends came over for dinner last night and then introduced me to The Shining. I don’t do horror movies as a rule. I am a big baby about them. This movie was my undoing. I sat sandwiched between people and was reduced to hand holding while cuddling a pillow. And because of that I had almost no sleep last night. That movie sure lingers, doesn’t it? I was promised a gold star from one of them and I better get it.

I have almost completed the next chapter of my TR but it will be sadly without all the He Saids. Hey I totally get a free pass on that, no?

Oh and I now have Cat addicted to the Legally Blonde soundtrack. She sings it all the time. We are going to have to break that habit before she goes to school singing There, Right There (Gay or European). Dance starts next week and the studio was so nice and has given me a lot of time to pay. They really want Cat on the teams. So Happy!

Thanks for all the concern and well wishes. I am hanging in there.

-Becca-

 

[reelmom]

Glad to hear that everybody is getting the help they need. I hope you will be able to work it. I am also glad to hear that you got to hang out with your friends. Nothing like letting go of your problems and having fun. Praying that movie night goes well for Cat and also praying for your friend.

 

[Princesskeyblade]

I am happy to read this update. I know things are tough, but I am glad to see that you are starting to breathe a little more.

I am also very glad about the therapy appointments.

Stay hanging in there!

 

[SnowWhite607]

Even the smallest things can make you feel loads better, right? I am so happy to hear that everyone seems to be taking steps in the right direction. GREAT news about the dance studio.

Still thinking of you and hoping that you feel a little better each day........

 

[Northern Disney Girl]

Hey Becca!

good to hear that you are still hanging in there! I think of you often and you are in my prayers daily! Hoping things continue to improve! Can't wait to hear about the rest of your trip! even without the "He said's" it is one of my fave TR's! Hope the sun is shining on you today!

 

[dis75ney]

Hey everyone. I am still alive. I have a mountain of PM’s to get through though. Anyway here is a small update on my life:

My dear friend (ex-boyfriend) is still in ICU with something I have never heard of called Sepsis. He is going to be okay but any prayers for his recovery would be greatly appreciated. I have known him for years and I was there when at the age of 23 , He buried his mom and then his dad. He is a good guy and His little sister has been through so much in her young life (She just turned 19). So anyhow that’s what’s up with that.

Matt has scheduled an appointment to see a psychiatrist . It won’t be until the middle of August but I am very proud of him for taking that step. I would like to say I think it will fix things between us but I doubt it. To be honest the first few days it was hard to even breathe but now… I don’t know. I feel more like myself than I have in years. I am still so upset about what the kids are going through and I would be willing to give it another chance for them. But I am not sure if it would be the right thing for me personally.

Cat has an appointment to see a child therapist. I had to go in last week and meet the doctor and just talk over my concerns. She is still very clinging and while she is sometimes seems like her old self every once in awhile she will just start sobbing in the middle of whatever she is doing. It is very hard to watch. The doctor said my just is to comfort and support her but not to push her. If she doesn’t want to talk about I can tell her I would love to hear but can’t push it more than that. Stuff like that. She’s eating again so I guess that’s good.

Matt called yesterday very upset about not seeing the kids and I let Cat decide if she wanted to see him. She said no at first but when I asked her about Matt taking her to see Wall-E again she was all for it. She explained later it’s because he can’t talk during the movie. I have my fingers crossed that it will all go well. So it’s set for tonight. I am very nervous but I think it’s the right thing to do for him and for her.

Other than that some friends came over for dinner last night and then introduced me to The Shining. I don’t do horror movies as a rule. I am a big baby about them. This movie was my undoing. I sat sandwiched between people and was reduced to hand holding while cuddling a pillow. And because of that I had almost no sleep last night. That movie sure lingers, doesn’t it? I was promised a gold star from one of them and I better get it.

I have almost completed the next chapter of my TR but it will be sadly without all the He Saids. Hey I totally get a free pass on that, no?

Oh and I now have Cat addicted to the Legally Blonde soundtrack. She sings it all the time. We are going to have to break that habit before she goes to school singing There, Right There (Gay or European). Dance starts next week and the studio was so nice and has given me a lot of time to pay. They really want Cat on the teams. So Happy!

Thanks for all the concern and well wishes. I am hanging in there.

-Becca-

I'm glad to hear that you, Cat and the Baby are doing okay. Keep focusing on you and your little angels. Things will work out the way they're supposed to...God makes sure of that.

Isn't Legally Blonde the best?!?! As long as Cat doesn't start singing "Bend and Snap"... It's great that the studio is so accomodating...

 

[dreamer17555]

I'm glad to hear that you, Cat and the Baby are doing okay. Keep focusing on you and your little angels. Things will work out the way they're supposed to...God makes sure of that.

Isn't Legally Blonde the best?!?! As long as Cat doesn't start singing "Bend and Snap"... It's great that the studio is so accomodating...

I showed her the MTV airing of the Musical from You Tube and she was like I can do that! And I said "Not Until-" And she finished with "college". Man do I have my baby all sorts of brain washed or what? She has a list a million miles long of alll the things she can't do until college. When she finally goes I am going to be so freaked.

-Becca-

 

[AZMickeyfans]

Becca,

I will definitely pray for your friend and his sister. How awful.

I am really glad HE and Cat are getting help. No matter what happens between you two he is the father of your child and I'm sure you want him as healthy and as sane as possible for them.

I'm also glad to hear you are feeling more like yourself. That is great news. I'm sure everything will be come more clear for you as a little more time passes. You'll be fine no matter how things end up.

And are we talking about the Legally Blonde Broadway soundtrack. I haven't seen or heard that yet! I may have to check that out! I loved the movie!

Great that the studio is able to let Cat dance and give you time to pay. It will probably be very theraputic for her.

Keep you chin up!

Shawna