They Call Me MISTER PIG- He Said, She Said (9/1 Lights, Thunder, Fantasmic? Page 47)

[stagemomx3]

He forgot. I am so upset. I am beyond tears at this point. I reminded him two days ago and everything. I hate to say it but it makes me feel like I am just not that important to him, that we aren't that important. I didn't feel like talking to him so he went out with his friends. I dont get it. I feel like smashing the gift I bought him.

-Becca-

Did you tell him he forgot or is he still clueless? Don't smash the gift, just sweetly give it to him and wait for the guilt to kick in.

 

[Charleston Princess]

I am so sorry, Becca!!!

 

[brandi~momof3]

I am so sorry.

 

[creativeamanda]

I am sorry, Becca. Look, I don't live too far away. You want me to come up there and beat him up for you? I can say Dan has never forgotten an anniversary. Although, ours and his best friend's anniversaries are 4 days apart.

 

[AZMickeyfans]

I'm sorry Becca. Men reallly are pigs sometimes. I totally agree with giving him the gift nicely and letting it sink it what he did. Better than any old smashed gift.

 

[Moonlitdreams82]

First of all....

I am so sorry that he forgot. I am not making excuses for him, but men are just really big dummies sometimes. They don't realize how much this stuff means to us. Don't let this ruin everything though. Just talk to him and let him know how hurt you were that he forgot...you never know maybe he will feel so bad that you'll get something extra out of the deal

If it makes you feel any better my DF and I BOTH forgot our anniversary. It's not the same I guess since we aren't married yet, be we always celebrate out anniversary of the day we started dating. I looked at the calander the next day and proclaimed "AND THE WORST COUPLE OF THE YEAR AWARD GOES TO...DA DA DA DA DA DA.....AMY AND STEVEO" We both laughed it off and celebrated later.

I know a wedding anniversary is a bigger deal, but sometimes people just forget the date or day of the week. These things just happen now and then sweetie. Just by reading yoru posts and seeing the pictures of you guys I can tell that he loves you more than anything in the world. I am sure he feels terrible. Give him the benefit of the doubt and make the most of this. Just make sure that he knows if he forgets next year you won't go so easy on him

Smile sweetie....you're to pretty to be so sad!

 

[dreamer17555]

Hey, tell her great job!

My studio's company wins a ton of awards

They do a fantastic job. I know some of the girls in the "mini" company (ok, so I know all of them!) and they're such sweeties (they're about 8-12 years old). Their energy onstage is amazing

ANYWAYS, I'm a dancer too

I usually take Tap, Ballet, Jazz. I do love watching Hip Hop, too. I just lost my best friend there (she's moving to Florida)

Cat is vey talented

EDIT:

I've been dancing for 11 years, and I STILL can't do what your daughter does!

My leg doesn't go up in the air like that

Awesome! Her studio has so many girls that they actually have two teams in the Mini Category the 6 year old and the 8 year olds. I love watching all of the girls at our studio but our 11 year olds are so talented it blows my mind. And don't feel bad about the leg thing, she is just extremely flexable.

OMG! 3 girls in our studio have that same shirt! We love Katrina wear because its the few places that sell the brown in everything from leos, booty shorts, skirts, pants etc. Thats so funny you picked it out too! We have the same taste! It is cute isnt it? I should grab that for Morgans birthday next month.

Morgan got this one for $5.00 at a convention in the trunk of damaged goods! part of the mesh was ripped about 1/8 of an inch. I just put some fray check on it and voila, you cant tell! http://www.katrinawear.com/mm5/merc...inawear&Product_Code=33006&Category_Code=kids

I'll be on the lookout for blue and green too!

Wow I'm really diverting from your TR here! Sorry. The mind tends to wander.

I'm so glad you posted what the CM told you regarding fastpass return times. At DL you can come back whenever so we hoard them for night time. We are like chipmunks right before winter gathering fastpasses. I'll keep in mind not to do this at EPCOT and that they might not take them at MK. For Rock N Rollercoaster WOOHOO! I'll take your advice. Great thing is we have a 5 year old son too so we can get Fastpasses from his ticket too! Score!! An inversion sounds so cool! we watched that being built and had to move before it was finished so I've never got to ride on it. I'm so psyched!

Great minds think alike! Oh I love that top your DD has and what a steal! I love good deals What are you doing for Morgan's Birthday? Do you do the big party thing with millions of kids? Cat only has those every other year thank goodness. This year she had more gifts from her Bday party than for Christmas. It was insane!

We had no problem at MK but the CM said that Epcot is pretty strict. I think that is because Soarin and Test Track are so popular. So I would just keep that in mind.

-Becca-

 

[dreamer17555]

Did you tell him he forgot or is he still clueless? Don't smash the gift, just sweetly give it to him and wait for the guilt to kick in.

I don't want to give it to him, it took me a lot of work and I feel stupid about spending the time and effort when he didn't even bother. I didn't smash it but it is sittting in my closet still wrapped. See I don't do normal gifts. I like to do special stuff, like for our first Christmas together I found a handmade midevil style leather journal, I then sent it to have his name leather pressed into it and then through much searching found all the poems he had written as far back as high school (some on paper and some on long forgotten web pages) and then copied them all into the journal and left him the other half blank to continue his writing. So stuff like that. I don't even want to post what I got him incase he reads it here.

I can't tell if he even feels bad. I told him on the phone how hurt I was but I haven't really spoken to him since then. I am focusing on the kids and taking care of them. It just makes me feel really dumb that he didn't bother at all.

I am so sorry, Becca!!!

Thanks! back

I am so sorry.

Thank you. Another back

I am sorry, Becca. Look, I don't live too far away. You want me to come up there and beat him up for you? I can say Dan has never forgotten an anniversary. Although, ours and his best friend's anniversaries are 4 days apart.

Would you? He has been so mopey lately and then this... Grrr. I even reminded him! Several times!

I'm sorry Becca. Men reallly are pigs sometimes. I totally agree with giving him the gift nicely and letting it sink it what he did. Better than any old smashed gift.

Its still sitting in my closet- unsmashed at the moment. I just hate that I put so much time and effort into it and he didn't bother.

First of all....

I am so sorry that he forgot. I am not making excuses for him, but men are just really big dummies sometimes. They don't realize how much this stuff means to us. Don't let this ruin everything though. Just talk to him and let him know how hurt you were that he forgot...you never know maybe he will feel so bad that you'll get something extra out of the deal

If it makes you feel any better my DF and I BOTH forgot our anniversary. It's not the same I guess since we aren't married yet, be we always celebrate out anniversary of the day we started dating. I looked at the calander the next day and proclaimed "AND THE WORST COUPLE OF THE YEAR AWARD GOES TO...DA DA DA DA DA DA.....AMY AND STEVEO" We both laughed it off and celebrated later.

I know a wedding anniversary is a bigger deal, but sometimes people just forget the date or day of the week. These things just happen now and then sweetie. Just by reading yoru posts and seeing the pictures of you guys I can tell that he loves you more than anything in the world. I am sure he feels terrible. Give him the benefit of the doubt and make the most of this. Just make sure that he knows if he forgets next year you won't go so easy on him

Smile sweetie....you're to pretty to be so sad!

Back. I know guys tend not to care about this stuff but He KNOWS that this stuff is a big deal to me. I tend not to care what the gift is as long as he puts some effort into it. Heck he write beautiful poems and the best gift he ever gave me was a handmade book with a poem he had written to me. I mean even sometime small like a note stuck somewhere saying Happy Anniversery and that he loved me would have been wonderful. But not bother to do anything...

I am starting to worry about our relationship now. Lately He has been treating me like a roommate instead of his wife. Its upsetting and this just brings it out. I mean a little romance wouldn't kill the guy.

Oh and we used to celebrate our date anniversery too! Somehow he never forgot one of those.

-Becca-

 

[karajeboo]

Becca - I'm so sorry that He forgot your anniversary! Since He didn't send flowers, I will!

I know this is the opposite, but I actually forgot our anniversary last year! We were in the process of moving to FL (DH was already living and working here and I was home with DD trying to sell the house). I think he called me that night to wish me a happy anniversary and I had totally forgotten! No card, no nothing! I felt really bad about it, especially since he was living in a hotel away from his family. Hopefully, He will do something to make up for it!

 

[mom3sonstt]

My "He" forgot ours before, but I would usually let him off the hook by calling him before the day was over and he would stop and pick something up on the way home. I finally waited one year and didn't say anything until the next day. Then I called him from work on speaker phone with my girlfriends/co-workers around and asked him if he knew what "today is". He stopped and thought and didn't come up with anything so I told him it was the day AFTER our anniversary. He thought he was off the hook because I "forgot" too. Until I told him his card and everything were at home waiting for him I just wasn't giving them to him until I could confirm that he had truly forgotten. He immediately had several of his co-workers put the date on their calendars so they could remind him in the future and he hasn't forgotten since.

 

[reelmom]

Becca,
I am so sorry this is happening. Don't give up on him just yet, he might redeem himself(Hint Hint He: if you are reading this, a short Disney trip for the two of you might help the situation). Your DH sounds like mine. When he realizes that I am upset at him, he just pretends like nothing happened. Like ignoring the situation will make it go away and that I will somehow forget it too. In time I do but it still hurts. Maybe he is afraid to talk to you right now because he can't seem to face you knowing that he has caused you so much hurt. And he knows that when the tears start, it will tear his heart up even more. Men are chickens when it comes to emotions and my DH would rather turn tail and hide than see me cry. Especially when he is the cause of the pain. It is a defense mechanism. It stinks but that is the way he is.
I hope that you are feeling better and you can work this out. Sending prayers and hugs to you.

 

[SnowWhite607]

I told mine that my birthday was Friday. He said "well you should pick yourself up something". I do have to admit though that he is a terrible gift giver and whatever he gave me, I would probaby return but a little effort would be nice, ya know??

 

[AZMickeyfans]

Becca,

Dont give up just yet. I know what you mean about feeling like a roommate. My dh and I have been married for 10 1/2 years and we've gone through the roommate phase a couple times. One time it lasted for about a year. I started to have my concerns but I kept telling myself I was married to my best friend and that is the basis of our marriage. It was tough but I believe a good marriage ebbs and flows and can withstand these kinds of ups and downs.

Go do something silly with him this weekend without the kids. Dont talk about the skipped anniversary or hurt feelings. Just go be playful somewhere and get in touch with that fun side. (I agree a adults only trip to WDW would be in order too but if that isnt in the cards a fun date would work). Shoot we go do bowling, mini golf, laser tag (that one is fun when I'm angry at him) etc.

He reallly seems to care for you a lot and I'm sure he's like most men where he feels stupid for forgetting and men tend to avoid situations when they feel stupid. When my dh messes up he just pretends nothing is wrong because that is how he copes with it. Doesnt mean I dont yell my head off though!

to you.

 

[Moonlitdreams82]

I'm so sorry you guys are going through this tough time Becca. I wish that I could do or say somethign to makeit better for you. Relationships/marraiges are hard work sometimes. It's unfortunate, but that is how it is. I am praying that everything works out for you and that your love for each other will pull you through this. Just remember communication is the key.

 

[dreamer17555]

Breaking News:

Well we talked last night and umm... He basically said He thinks we should split up and has been feeling this way for a long time. I knew we were having some problems but I thought things were doing much better so I feel completely blindsighted. He already had mentally worked out custody arrangements. I feel just sick. He kept imploring me to be logical about it and I kept crying because I am head over heels in love with him. He just sat there very cool and collected, like it was no big deal.


Last night he slept at a friend's house. I told Cat he had to go to work early so thats why he wasn't here this morning.I am completely heartsick. I don't know when or if this TR will be finished. I don't know what to do at all. I guess there is nothing I can do, He said he isn't in love with me and hasn't been for a long time.

Well at least I will start losing some weight. When I am this upset I can't keep anything down.

I am off to cuddle my kids and play with them and pretend that my life has completly fallen apart.

-Becca-

 

[Charleston Princess]

I'm so sorry, Becca!

 

[SnowWhite607]

I wish I could give you a big hug right now.

 

[dis75ney]

Longtime lurker here...

I just wanted to give you this...



I am so sorry for the recent turn of events. Just know that there are plenty of DISers here who would gladly beat up He for what he's putting you through...

 

[Camster0307]

So, so sorry!

 

[tyiwara]

Omigod! Becca, I'm so sorry! I haven't posted before on your TR, but I've been reading and I just have to say I'm so so sorry, big hugs coming your way

Kim