
I like your reasoning on the in-laws! I pretty much feel the same way except my in-laws are... nutty.

You cannot have a mature, reasonable conversation with them about anything. With them, everything is an opportunity for a drama fest and if there really is none, they will make some up. So basically, if I were to say anything about my sister-in-law's kids, it would probably end up with us rolling around on the ground like two redneck women. Not that I am above that if it comes right down to it...

just kidding, but I will defend my child no matter what if I have to. I'm just hoping that DD can stand up for herself and it won't come to that. I try my best to set a Christian example for my child and I would hate for her to see her mama smack the fool out of her aunt.
And no it's not bad to want justice for your kid. I feel the same way. And you are so right that there are a growing number of parents that don't teach their kids the basics of how to act and how to treat other people. My SIL is a prime example of that. But like I said earlier, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree... my MIL is a nut, she birthed my SIL who is a nut, and she has birthed 5 children who are now driving me NUTS!

It's a vicious cycle!
And I have just discovered the bright spot in all of this

(I'm always looking for a bright spot)... my husband came from that same gene pool, but somehow he is NOT a nut!

Miracles do happen!