DIS Dads The Official DisDads Prayer and Praise Thread

[Cinderella's Fella]

Looking for Opinions...Sad story too...

When growing up I had this Neighbor named Michelle. She's the closest thing I ever had to a sister. Well about 4 months ago her husband (Bill) was diagnosed with Stage 4 Melanoma... after many test... treatments... being told the best they could do would be give him was 3 years... they told him that just a few weeks ago.

Well he died earlier this week from complications of his condition... and the services are tonight. Bill and Michelle have 2 kids. DS14 and DD12. Bill was 44.

What does one say to this family? I'm at a loss... not sure how I would feel... lost... hurt... angry... numb? Those poor kids...I just can't imagine how they feel. Certain Michelle is just devistated.

I've read that the best thing to do, is do something for them, don't ask. Tell her that you will be over to cut the grass, make her dinner, do her laundry ect. She doesn't really know what we needs at this point, so you need to tell her what you will do for her. That will go a long way in helping her and gives you something to say to her.

 

[theduck619]

I've read that the best thing to do, is do something for them, don't ask. Tell her that you will be over to cut the grass, make her dinner, do her laundry ect. She doesn't really know what we needs at this point, so you need to tell her what you will do for her. That will go a long way in helping her and gives you something to say to her.

I agree with Randall, just be there for the family. No one ever likes to hear "I know how you feel". Your efforts will bring enormous comfort.

 

[AirGoofy]

Looking for Opinions...Sad story too...

When growing up I had this Neighbor named Michelle. She's the closest thing I ever had to a sister. Well about 4 months ago her husband (Bill) was diagnosed with Stage 4 Melanoma... after many test... treatments... being told the best they could do would be give him was 3 years... they told him that just a few weeks ago.

Well he died earlier this week from complications of his condition... and the services are tonight. Bill and Michelle have 2 kids. DS14 and DD12. Bill was 44.

What does one say to this family? I'm at a loss... not sure how I would feel... lost... hurt... angry... numb? Those poor kids...I just can't imagine how they feel. Certain Michelle is just devistated.

Prayers for you and the family.

Just be there for her and the kids. The words will come. It was difficult when my brother passed away a few months ago from cancer. It was tough seeing my 28 YO niece. When I first saw her, all I could do was hug her and ask her if there was anything she needed.

Sorry to hear this.

CJ said it best. There is nothing you can say to make this better. She knows you are there for her, but tell her that anyway. She'll ask you later if she needs anything.

 

[wasnotafan]

Looking for Opinions...Sad story too...

When growing up I had this Neighbor named Michelle. She's the closest thing I ever had to a sister. Well about 4 months ago her husband (Bill) was diagnosed with Stage 4 Melanoma... after many test... treatments... being told the best they could do would be give him was 3 years... they told him that just a few weeks ago.

Well he died earlier this week from complications of his condition... and the services are tonight. Bill and Michelle have 2 kids. DS14 and DD12. Bill was 44.

What does one say to this family? I'm at a loss... not sure how I would feel... lost... hurt... angry... numb? Those poor kids...I just can't imagine how they feel. Certain Michelle is just devistated.

Prayers for the family. Now all you can do is be there for them. What they need will become apparent with time.

 

[jmwest]

Though I'm not much of a prayer myself I would really appreciate the thoughts/prayers of those of you who do. My dad has not been feeling well and today was told they found a mass on his pancreas. Of course the internet is both good and bad what I've read thus far is like a kick in the groin. We have to wait for a biopsy later this week and the results probably won't be found out until my family and I are due to be in Florida.

 

[goalierich]

Though I'm not much of a prayer myself I would really appreciate the thoughts/prayers of those of you who do. My dad has not been feeling well and today was told they found a mass on his pancreas. Of course the internet is both good and bad what I've read thus far is like a kick in the groin. We have to wait for a biopsy later this week and the results probably won't be found out until my family and I are due to be in Florida.

We will keep you and your father in our prayers. Hopefully it will not be too serious. Take care.

 

[wasnotafan]

Though I'm not much of a prayer myself I would really appreciate the thoughts/prayers of those of you who do. My dad has not been feeling well and today was told they found a mass on his pancreas. Of course the internet is both good and bad what I've read thus far is like a kick in the groin. We have to wait for a biopsy later this week and the results probably won't be found out until my family and I are due to be in Florida.

Praying for your dad and the rest of the family as well as the medical staff.

 

[AirGoofy]

Though I'm not much of a prayer myself I would really appreciate the thoughts/prayers of those of you who do. My dad has not been feeling well and today was told they found a mass on his pancreas. Of course the internet is both good and bad what I've read thus far is like a kick in the groin. We have to wait for a biopsy later this week and the results probably won't be found out until my family and I are due to be in Florida.

Prayers for your dad and your family.

 

[GoHerd1028]

Though I'm not much of a prayer myself I would really appreciate the thoughts/prayers of those of you who do. My dad has not been feeling well and today was told they found a mass on his pancreas. Of course the internet is both good and bad what I've read thus far is like a kick in the groin. We have to wait for a biopsy later this week and the results probably won't be found out until my family and I are due to be in Florida.

Certainly will be praying for your Father and the entire family!! Please keep us updated on things!

 

[wasnotafan]

Ugh. I should have stayed in retail where I was in high school. An employee may have unwittingly violated one of the policies that we have (that is totally wrong and arbitrary) while attempting to do somethng good. Unfortunately another employee who really has nothing to do with our program has threatened to report it. I need wisdom in how to respond politely as all I really want to do is escalate this up the ivory tower. I need to remind myself that I don't need to get into a p*$$ing match with an unarmed man.

 

[GoHerd1028]

Ugh. I should have stayed in retail where I was in high school. An employee may have unwittingly violated one of the policies that we have (that is totally wrong and arbitrary) while attempting to do somethng good. Unfortunately another employee who really has nothing to do with our program has threatened to report it. I need wisdom in how to respond politely as all I really want to do is escalate this up the ivory tower. I need to remind myself that I don't need to get into a p*$$ing match with an unarmed man.

Praying for widsom and guidance...keep us posted!

 

[Cinderella's Fella]

Ugh. I should have stayed in retail where I was in high school. An employee may have unwittingly violated one of the policies that we have (that is totally wrong and arbitrary) while attempting to do somethng good. Unfortunately another employee who really has nothing to do with our program has threatened to report it. I need wisdom in how to respond politely as all I really want to do is escalate this up the ivory tower. I need to remind myself that I don't need to get into a p*$$ing match with an unarmed man.

Praying for the right words to be said!

 

[AirGoofy]

Ugh. I should have stayed in retail where I was in high school. An employee may have unwittingly violated one of the policies that we have (that is totally wrong and arbitrary) while attempting to do somethng good. Unfortunately another employee who really has nothing to do with our program has threatened to report it. I need wisdom in how to respond politely as all I really want to do is escalate this up the ivory tower. I need to remind myself that I don't need to get into a p*$$ing match with an unarmed man.

Tough one. I've found honesty is usually the best policy. Thus, if I screw something up, I just tell on myself, apologize, and say how it won't happen again. I know you have loyalties, but you also don't want to be found to be nvolved in a cover up. Prayers for you on how to handle this.

 

[wasnotafan]

Thanks for the prayers all. My response to the threat is humble and contrite with a confirmation that nothing like this will ever happen again. Waiting on permission from my employee before I reply back to the #$%^ that is bent out of shape.

 

[papamouse1]

Looking for Opinions...Sad story too...

When growing up I had this Neighbor named Michelle. She's the closest thing I ever had to a sister. Well about 4 months ago her husband (Bill) was diagnosed with Stage 4 Melanoma... after many test... treatments... being told the best they could do would be give him was 3 years... they told him that just a few weeks ago.

Well he died earlier this week from complications of his condition... and the services are tonight. Bill and Michelle have 2 kids. DS14 and DD12. Bill was 44.

What does one say to this family? I'm at a loss... not sure how I would feel... lost... hurt... angry... numb? Those poor kids...I just can't imagine how they feel. Certain Michelle is just devistated.

I've read that the best thing to do, is do something for them, don't ask. Tell her that you will be over to cut the grass, make her dinner, do her laundry ect. She doesn't really know what we needs at this point, so you need to tell her what you will do for her. That will go a long way in helping her and gives you something to say to her.

I don't know how I missed this post last month. I am sure this will not necessarily help for that situation, but maybe for others who will face it...

Cinderella'sFella got it right. I was 14 when my Dad died, and the honest truth is it actually frustrates you when people try too hard to "make things better" for you when you are going through the grief of loss. Just offer to help in simple things... don't worry about finding words to make it better... words can't make it better. But just being there to listen, etc does make a difference.

 

[jmwest]

I want to thank everyone for their prayers for my Dad. After a week at Northwestern filled with testing and a small procedure it has been determined that he does NOT have cancer. I can't tell you all how much of a relief this is. They were able to put in a stent to relieve his pain and help drain his pancreas. This all came about due to him being taken off his meds for some kidney issues he has had in the past. He will be fine.

 

[AirGoofy]

I want to thank everyone for their prayers for my Dad. After a week at Northwestern filled with testing and a small procedure it has been determined that he does NOT have cancer. I can't tell you all how much of a relief this is. They were able to put in a stent to relieve his pain and help drain his pancreas. This all came about due to him being taken off his meds for some kidney issues he has had in the past. He will be fine.

Great news. Glad you had a good trip and came back to great news.

 

[papamouse1]

I want to thank everyone for their prayers for my Dad. After a week at Northwestern filled with testing and a small procedure it has been determined that he does NOT have cancer. I can't tell you all how much of a relief this is. They were able to put in a stent to relieve his pain and help drain his pancreas. This all came about due to him being taken off his meds for some kidney issues he has had in the past. He will be fine.

Always good to hear a good report, especially relating to the pancreas. our prayers are still with him for a complete recovery.

 

[wasnotafan]

I want to thank everyone for their prayers for my Dad. After a week at Northwestern filled with testing and a small procedure it has been determined that he does NOT have cancer. I can't tell you all how much of a relief this is. They were able to put in a stent to relieve his pain and help drain his pancreas. This all came about due to him being taken off his meds for some kidney issues he has had in the past. He will be fine.

Excellent news! Thanks for the update.

 

[wasnotafan]

Dad is going in for cataract removal in the AM. Prayers appreciated for him but more for mom. She will have her hands full. He isn't a good patient.

Also just found out my brother needs full hip replacement and he is only 52. Always gave him a hard time about being an old man, but didn't think he would fall apart so soon. Not scheduled yet, but he is stressing already.