ImarriedGrumpy
AKA Miss lady who isn't my mommy
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Ok, I'm a "New Dad" and was hoping to get some advice/suggestions. Hopefully there are some more experienced parents in here too who can help.
Our DS is just over 5 weeks old now. With very rare exceptions, he only sleeps well during the day. Night time is a huge fuss fest, with maybe hour long naps. We certainly do not expect him to sleep through the night, but even 2 to 3 hours would be nice. Even when he does stay up and/or is fussy most of the day, he still doesn't sleep well at night.
My wife and I have a system now where we both get sleep, me more than her, but she gets 3 or 4 hour blocks when I can take him and feed him a pumped bottle in the middle.
The problem is going to start in another 2 and half weeks when my wife goes back to work. How do we get him switched over from sleeping primarily during the day to sleeping primarily at night? Again, we are not expecting 4 or 5 hours at a time. 2 to 3 hours at a time would be an improvement.
Hi and welcome!
My DS was a major fussy sleeper until he was about 4 or 5 months old. The only way we could get him to sleep for more than 20 min at a time was to hold him. It was a nightmare!
But like the others have said, it's just kind of how most babies are at first.
As far as the day and night thing, Nicole had some great suggestions with noise/activity level stuff. My friends' DD had her day and night switched up, and this is what they did to get her back on track:
1. Lots of noise and activity during day time naps - they didn't fully darken the room, kept the TV on in the living room, sometimes even vacuumed while the baby was sleeping
2. No noise or lights at night - like Nicole said, they kept the rooms dimly lit if they had to turn on a light, and they didn't talk to the baby except in whispers, and they set her down again right away after changing her diaper and feeding her.
3. They woke up the baby after 2 hours of sleep during the daytime - they never let her nap for more than 2 hours during the day until she got her days and nights straightened out. During the day they would wake her up and then play with her, talk to her, sing to her, etc. to give her some activity and interaction along with eating and diaper changes. The first week of this they said was brutal, but pretty soon she started sleeping longer stretches at night and things got much easier.
HTH, and congratulations! Welcome to what my DH calls "The Order of the Sleepless Knights"!

I was liking the "sleep in until 7" schedule he was doing while he was sick, and kind of hoping it would just stay that way after he got better. No such luck. Sigh. I miss that extra hour of sleep...
I have been there. I agree that you should check out what help you can get.
Try Tiger Balm if you can find it. It has a weird smell, but works wonders (much better than Icy Hot).


) As a speech-language pathologist who has worked with swallowing issues with ped's, they are absolutely still learning how to alternate breathing and swallowing, so you want to keep the consistency the same - thin like breastmilk. Also, cereal has never been proven to help kids sleep through the night in medical studies (even though many parents swear by it!). Getting into a "sleep routine" is most important. We swaddled our son for the first few weeks, but he would always break-out. So then we started using the sleep-sack evey night. As soon as we would put his arms through the vest, he would start closing his eyes. He is STILL wearing one now at 18 months old. DH and I joke he will be wearing one in college.
Works like a charm! My biggest piece of advice would be to keep Collin up during the day as much as possible....playing, music, people holding him, etc... Try to establish 2 or 3 set nap times during the day when you put him down to specifically sleep. The more he is up during the day, hopefully he will want to sleep at night. Good luck and KUP!
He always spikes really high fevers which linger for days. And last time he could barely walk the next day because they had hit muscles in his leg. Poor kiddo. AND he is getting chicken pox and DTaP.....2 shots that I feel like are going to kick his butt. Question - do you all give your kiddo's Tylenol or Motrin before the shots?
He has been telling me when he needs to go, but by the time we would actually get to the potty, he would have already gone. But today, I was doing my hair in the bathroom, and he came in and was trying to sit on the potty. So I asked him if he needed to go, and he grabbed his diaper...so I got him undressed and sat him down...and he peed!!!!! Hopefully we will have a repeat real soon!!!!
And in our old house, outlets are few and in weird places - it looks like they wired the house for electricity several years after the house was built - so we are always unplugging one thing and plugging something else in. 
I want to go soooo badly, and the dates would work with DH's spring break from school, but it would only give us a month to plan, and I'm not sure if that would work. Plus, I just don't know if I want to spend the money, you know? Darn Mouse. I even had a dream about planning the trip last night.
Just think of all the cute little princess dresses I could buy with $500. (Ok, really, I could only buy 5, but still- $500!!!)
And we always do Tylenol before shots. About 1/2 an hour before. Then, like Bethany, we alternate Tylenol and Motrin if she's fussy or feverish afterwords.
One set of g-parents won't mind, but the others will. I also can't find the book I bought for DH, or the little "I love my daddy" picture I made for Owen to give to DH (Owen kind of helped - he held the crayons and I helped him scribble a little on the matting paper, and then we put a photo of Owen and his daddy on the mat and framed it). Sigh. Just one of those days/weeks/months I guess!
BIL and SIL are going to come over with Dnephew, so that will be fun. Fondue and Wii games.
He feels terrible that he didn't even get me a card, but I really do understand. Poor guy has been in to the Dr. 3 times this week, and now has 2 inhalers, 2 nasal sprays, and 3 prescriptions to add to his usual routine of meds for diabetes, blood pressure, and cholesterol. He's off most of this next week (forced company shut down), and hopefully he'll feel better soon so we can have some good family time.
we planned to see Defiance, but misread the movie time- so ended up at Twilight, which i had been dying to see (i've read all the books). DH didn't think it was as horrible as he had expected. not as good as i hoped, but movies are never as good as the books. we had a good time- only the third movie we have gone out to see since Will arrived 15 months ago! so that was our night out- mom and my aunt came over to watch Will for us.
hugs to you! sorry for the loneliness, frustration and feelings of isolation. hang in there. you know, our day care honors all requests. we are paying them afterall. we bring in our own organic milk for Will. and if we wanted to bring special food, kosher, or otherwise, they would honor that as well. Is DH just not comfortable with putting him somewhere this young- or can you not find a place that would respect your wishes? pretty much anywhere here will- especially since you are paying them- they do what you want to keep you happy. anyways- hugs- i hope it gets better!!! 