Thanks

I can't say I've completely given up. But, for my own sanity I had to get off the fertility/adoption roller coaster, know what I mean? We've done doctors and even tried adoption but the mom changed her mind last minute. It was heartbreaking but at least it wasn't after the baby was born. I'm afraid my DH is a bit scarred and bitter after that ordeal.

There are three threads over there dealing w/ childlessness. One is a group who have never wanted children. They're a nice bunch but it's different because we wanted children so our feelings are different from that group. The other thread is for people who are childless not by choice but are still trying so much of the conversations are about latest treatments or adoptions or disappointments.
My heart breaks for them all because I know first hand the pain but I had to distance myself from that because it will make you crazy. I became obsessed with having a baby and it wasn't healthy for me or my marriage.
Then there was this new thread but like I said, it's kind of dying. Another gal and myself were trying to keep it going but it's kind of hard when there are only two of you. It started out so good too.
Anyway, that's our story.