Thanks for asking.
No, here's what I was doing. I was legitimately asking if she was serious, because it sounded like the kind of statement that could be offered facetiously. I didn't know whether that was the case, so I wanted to ask. I *try* not to assume to much. It gets me into trouble.
Then, I offered my experience (which is probably what caused me to ask whether she was serious). My experience *seemed* to be very different that what she described. Doesn't mean either of us is wrong.
When two people have had wildly different experiences at the same theme park, there could be lots of things going on to account for those differences. The only answer is not that she's wrong, or lying, or misrepresenting. That wasn't my allegation and I'm glad I could clear it up. It's actually why I asked the question, rather than assuming.
Back to the original question: Does FP+ allow for more spontaneity? My opinion is no. Others can have their opinion. My default position will never be that Disney told me so, so it must be so. I run the question through my brain, plug in my experiences and form an opinion. In my experience, there is still room for spontaneity in a Disney vacation. There was always a great degree of planning required for us to do what we wanted. Sure, you can plan things on the fly, but that potentially left us out of experiences we wanted. So spontaneity always took a hit. I think it took an additional hit with FP+. I think there are still room for spontaneous moments, but I think it's really a stretch to say it allows for MORE spontaneity.
That is all. To be clear, I don't hate FP+. As I said, upthread, I don't even mind the extra planning. I'm one of those weirdos who loves the planning. It's why I'm here (on the boards so much). But I am not under the illusion that when I am booking my FPs, it's a spontaneous activity or that when the family actually has those experiences, that there was anything spontaneous about it.
And the truth is, spontaneous doesn't equal good, and planned doesn't equal bad. They're just different.