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Crissup

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Posted this over at the Think Tank (Think Tank Post
) and the women folk there found it very interesting and useful. ;) So, I thought I would post it here also.

I thought it might help some of you to be better wives... :teeth:

The following is an exact copy from a 1950's Home Economics Textbook: (so no flames from feminists please!)

Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

Clear away the clutter: Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc. then run a dustcloth over the tables.

Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind to. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

Minimise all noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

Listen to him: You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

Make the evening his: Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, and his very real need to be at home and relax.

Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

Don't greet him with complaints and problems. Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair. or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low soothing and pleasant voice.

Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him. A good wife always knows her place.
 
Okay how far back will I set women if I say that I agree with some of those?

:duck:
 
Originally posted by CBRorBust
Okay how far back will I set women if I say that I agree with some of those?

The question is, how far back are some of these women going to knock us when they read this? :p ;) :earseek:
 
Make the evening his: Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, and his very real need to be at home and relax.

Now, THAT'S funny! What "other places of entertainment" is he going to?? LOL
 

If you are a SAHM or the first to get home I agree with some of these, to the best of your ability. But if he is the SAHD or the first to get home he should return the favor and do the same. Alot of women think that showing appreciation and making their husband a good home is somehow demeaning and anti-woman. It's the forcing that role, or the belief that this is something that only women must do that is demeaning.
 
his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
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Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you.
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Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him. A good wife always knows her place.
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This must be from the 1950s...right? Ozzie and Harriet, Donna Reed, Leave it to Beaver... :faint: :faint:
 
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"Don't complain...... even if he stays out all night. Count that as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day."

Yeah....... and I'll tell him what he can go through the next night......!
 
Originally posted by Crissup
Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him.

Now that is a sentence with different meaning these days. :teeth:
 
Here's my edited version entitled "Great ways to pamper your spouse".

Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his/her return. This is a way of letting him/her know that you have been thinking about him/her and are concerned about his/her needs.

Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he/she arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He/she has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little cheery and a little more interesting for him/her. His/her boring day may need a lift and wouldn't it be nice to be the one to provide it?

Clear away the clutter: Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your spouse arrives. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc. then run a dustcloth over the tables.

Over the cooler months of the year you might want to prepare and light a fire for him/her to unwind to - or maybe some candles. Your spouse will feel he/she has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, doing something special for his/her comfort will provide you with personal satisfaction as well.

Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he/she would like to see them playing the part.

Minimize noise: Every so often, at the time of his/her arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him/her. Greet him/her with a warm smile.

Listen to him/her: You may have a dozen important things to tell him/her, but the moment of his/her arrival is not the time. Let him/her talk first. A few minutes of peace may set the tone for a pleasant evening together.

Occasionally, make the evening all about your spouse. A pre-planned night out with the guys/gals may be very rejuvenating.

Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your spouse can renew him/herself in body and spirit.

Exercise fairness and truthfulness. Treat each other the way you would like to be treated. A good spouse cares about the needs of their partner and desires to make them happy.
 
John, John, John.......I think the ladies at the Think Tank said it best! ::yes::
 
I have a book simliar to that. My grandma received it when she got married. So hers was made in the 1930's.
 
Originally posted by Crissup
Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

Well, it will be warm if he can drive home fast enough after picking it up!

Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

Are you even kidding. I dont wear any of that crap now. Only if I go to his office. Who has time to make dinner, pick up the house, and put on makeup!

Clear away the clutter: Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc. then run a dustcloth over the tables.

Okay, now I am completely confused!!! Did they want me to make dinner or pick up the toys..becuase if I am making dinner the kids are playing with the toys! And unless everyone wants to eat a cold dinner....this is just not going to happen!

Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind to. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

Catering to him will give me immese satisfaction..are you kidding? No that would drivce me to the Looney House! I cater to two (almost 3 people) all day long. I dont have anymore to give by the end of the day...where as he has catered to himself all day. he got a lunch break, he got to potty without people banging on the door, he got to get up shower and dress himself, and he did not get woken up by his boss telling him to get to work. (My kids wake me up every morning, I have to get them, fed, dressed, and washed before we start outr day..let alone get myself ready. He has had plenty of "time" to relax.

Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

HA! Prepare the children, to eat a meal so they can throw the food all over them so I have to clean them twice. No Way!

Minimise all noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

Well, now this is just silly. He is the loudest one of all of us!

Listen to him: You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

Now, I think everyone should be listened to. The kids, me, and DH. And since I have heard what the kids did that day, I think Daddy needs to listen to them. Besides, if something is really urgent that he needs to tell me, we have telephones, cell phones, email, and IM...so we pretty much talk all day long. Welcome to the 21st century!

Make the evening his: Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, and his very real need to be at home and relax.

Ok I just spent all day doing hard physical labor. I chased after my kids, changed bio waste, ran the laundry around the house, walked the dog, and lifted heavy groceries into the house. He worked on computers all day. WHO needs the an evening out?

Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

Dh can take a bath and move on with his life! Or take us to WDW. Otherwise I need him to help. See Next Reponse for more on traquility!

Don't greet him with complaints and problems. Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

Well, if he stayed out all night and didnt come home, this place is NOT going to be peaceful and tranquil for the next month!

Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair. or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low soothing and pleasant voice.

Offer to take his shoes! I wont go near those things..YUCk. There are cold sodas in the fridge..he can grab one if he wants.

Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him. A good wife always knows her place.

Sorry, in my house I am the boss (master). I know my place, I tell everyone what I need and what is expected of them. And, let me tell you, I question him as he does me. This is called communication.

And for the record, I am not a feminist,! I am a realist!
 





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