The FB thread got me thinking

[ilovejack02]

I love facebook. I use it mainly for keeping up with all the cooking blogs I read. So easy to hop on and see what everyone is cooking this week , instead of having to look up each blog. I pick up a new recipe at least once a week to try from it.

I also keep up with my NOLA Dis gals on it LOL, we discuss private things via messaging , instead of talking about it on our Nola thread for all to see .

 

[ugadog99]

I have one and love it. Facebook lets me keep with old friends and former students.

 

[SookieStackhouse]

Yes I have it. i am pretty hot and cold with it. I know I probably take it too seriously and let stuff from there affect me too much.


Also, I know I spend too much time on Farmville, and trying to figure out Cityville.

 

[crazelion]

Only reason I got facebook account it seem like all the good coupons is facebook. We regal cinamas give out really good coupons via facebook I join. I have very little o my facebook page. I don't even have friends on there. LOL I bet half fill out the info it. Most people don't even know I am on facebook.

I don't text either. I can recieve a text message. I will call back beside sending a text.

Still trying figure out how text for free using google voice.

 

[louey]

I have now found many of my highschool friends on Facebook. I love it we would have not hooked up again if it weren't for FB. Not just far away friends but ones that are local which we have even gotten together and are going out to dinner again at the end of this month. I honestly think its a good thing you can set your privacy to only let friends view your profile and you are the one that decides who can be a friend on FB. I love it

 

[aprilgail2]

Only reason I got facebook account it seem like all the good coupons is facebook. We regal cinamas give out really good coupons via facebook I join. .

I LOVE all the free things I get from using facebook! At Christmas I got gift cards to Tanger outlets though facebook 50.00 gift cards for 25.00- that was a nice deal!!!
All of my family all over the US is on facebook- including my 82 year old mother! Its a great way for us all to keep in touch, especially since I hate talking on the phone- text me or facebook me is perfect! In my group of friends there is only one that doesn't have facebook and then she gets mad when we go out or do something that we all arranged on facebook and no one remembers to call her!

 

[Tinkh]

I have one. Spend about 10 minutes a day on it. My family is spread all over the nation and so are many of my friends. It is TRULY a wonderful way for them to share in our lives and same for us. When my cousin(that I adore, but she lives across the county) ,in Washington, has a bday party for my little cousins facebook allows me to be there through looking at all the pictures. When my son went to homecoming it allowed me to have a perfect and quick place to load up the photos. My mom who lives a state away was able to see all the pics while my son was still at the dance. My pictures do not take an hour to upload like they would if I sent each and every one of my friends and family the pictures. I have endless space to post my pictures.

That being said. I respect those who do not have them. Some in my family do not because of working in law enforcement and are not allowed do to undercover work they perform. They do enjoy looking at the pictures that I post though on their families pages. When a friend from high school was killed two weeks ago (Deputy Suzanne Hooper) it allowed the news to come quickly to our graduating class and helped with the planning of our graduating class giving her a tribute. Facebook may have its negatives, but those positives sure are pretty good.

Lastly, I love how some are being so judgmental and rude about others having them. Good gosh, do some of you just sit there like miserable lumps being condescending because you are rude or hate your lives so much? Wasting time on facebook is worse than being faceless and wasting time here and insulting people? Love the thought pattern there. Insulting those who have facebook while sitting here wasting your own on a Disney board I think a simple reason why you do or don't would have been sufficient.

 

[Tinkh]

Which is precisely what FB and those who use it want you to think. I saw a comment once in our local paper from someone who said 99.99% of people are on Facebook.

Hardly.

I already get target-marketed enough, just look at some of the ads you see here on the DIS when you open a thread. I don't need to put more information out there that will attract more target-marketing. Sorry.

Ditto.

In addition, I see too many people spending (IMO) way too much time focusing on their computer screens rather than directing their attention to the people they physically touch or talk to on a daily basis. I'm refuse to be like them. I'd rather have a small group of people who know me intimately and will be there for me because they know me personally than have 100's of "friends" in cyberspace who, to tell the truth based on what I've seen, only really seem to care about themselves and what is put on their facebook pages.

IMO, Facebook is the ultimate, "Me Me Me". Slap as much paint on it as you want, tell everyone how wonderful it is that you can 'connect' with all your friends and family, but I think I'll always see it as some badly written reality show that comes through the computer and interests the user because the user is part of writing the script.

I'll be glad when the FB trend goes the way of the dial-up line or the housing bubble.

I would get off here and go spend some time with those you are longing to touch or talk to. I am sure that at least on facebook you would be in contact with someone you care to be around right? Thinking that you are being a little to ME ME ME with all this wasted time on the DIS boards.

 

[Jennasis]

I DETEST Facebook. Hate it. HATE it....with the white hot intensity of 10,000 suns.

I do not have a personal page and refuse to get one. I have no desire to talk in any way to the people from my past, and I talk to my family on the phone daily. Currently, I am aware of at least 5 separate instances of personal "wars" being carried out on FB between people. Divorces, dying friendships, name-smearing, boyfriend/girlfriend disputes and on and on.

That said, I did finally cave and make a FB business page for our business after my clients began demanding one. It is used for keeping them up to date of our businesses closures and such.

 

[Klismania]

I have to wonder why people are defending such a "wonderful" thing with such vehemence, even to the point of being insulting, if it's such a wonderful thing. Sort of like those who have clean tap water getting all defensive to those who don't have clean tap water making a remark about how clean tap water isn't all it's cracked up to be. You know you have clean tap water and no amount of someone in another state is going to change the wonderfulness of your clean tap water. So why get defensive?

Based on what I've seen in real life with co-workers spending 1/2 their day on FB wasting company resources; marriages/relationships being destroyed by FB because old 'friends' come back into someone's life (and wouldn't have if it weren't for FB); and based on some of the fallout I see posted here and in the news, I've come to the conclusion that FB causes more problems than it solves.

If it works for you, great. But I have to base my conclusions on what I've seen. I'm too old to fall for the spiel of, "Who ya gonna believe? Me or your own eyes?"

 

[Tiger926]

I have to wonder why people are defending such a "wonderful" thing with such vehemence, even to the point of being insulting, if it's such a wonderful thing. Sort of like those who have clean tap water getting all defensive to those who don't have clean tap water making a remark about how clean tap water isn't all it's cracked up to be. You know you have clean tap water and no amount of someone in another state is going to change the wonderfulness of your clean tap water. So why get defensive?

Based on what I've seen in real life with co-workers spending 1/2 their day on FB wasting company resources; marriages/relationships being destroyed by FB because old 'friends' come back into someone's life (and wouldn't have if it weren't for FB); and based on some of the fallout I see posted here and in the news, I've come to the conclusion that FB causes more problems than it solves.

If it works for you, great. But I have to base my conclusions on what I've seen. I'm too old to fall for the spiel of, "Who ya gonna believe? Me or your own eyes?"

I am going to disagree with you. Facebook doesn't cause problems, people who don't know how to use it properly, cause problems. People who struggle with social skills, and people who like drama, cause problems. These people will find problems regardless of Facebook or not. The problem is that innocent people probably are getting caught up in Facebook drama, at the expense of others, and so it's up to them to be able to work it out, or, cancel their account, if they deem it necessary.

My at-risk students say this constantly, "Trouble always seems to find me!" and I remind them that they find trouble.

I'm pretty sure that most people who have problems with Facebook, had problems before Facebook, and will continue to have problems after Facebook.

Tiger

 

[Wall-E1]

I have a facebook page. I like it. It's nice being able to reconnect and catch up with friends that I have fallen out of touch with. All of my current friends have one also. I don't allow any family on it though, as I am already the black sheep and don't need more drama. It also helps to pass the time during the work week, when I feel like slacking off. I don't get involved with any of the games on there, as I would never cheat on my one true love - Tetris.

 

[KristaTX]

Yes, I have a Facebook account and use it regularly. I've said why on multiple other threads.

This has become such a debate on the Community Board as of late, but it still cracks me up that some people are so willing to post on an internet discussion board that Facebook is such a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad thing. Even some people with quite high post counts who seem to post here on the DIS multiple times a day - some of whom really seem to like to argue .

As for drama? I guess I have around 300 friends or so on there - I'd have to look to know. I must keep strange friends, though, because maybe 10 of those people post enough stuff that would be considered drama or boring "I'm at the store" kinds of things. And the drama is never anything I'm personally involved in . If it gets too bad, I just hide those people so I don't have to read their stuff, or I delete them. No different from ignoring someone on the DIS, really. In fact, it's easier.

 

[MELSMICE]

I am going to disagree with you. Facebook doesn't cause problems, people who don't know how to use it properly, cause problems. People who struggle with social skills, and people who like drama, cause problems. These people will find problems regardless of Facebook or not. The problem is that innocent people probably are getting caught up in Facebook drama, at the expense of others, and so it's up to them to be able to work it out, or, cancel their account, if they deem it necessary.

My at-risk students say this constantly, "Trouble always seems to find me!" and I remind them that they find trouble.

I'm pretty sure that most people who have problems with Facebook, had problems before Facebook, and will continue to have problems after Facebook.

Tiger

I was going to say the same thing. These people whose marriages are ruined & blame it on FB, most likely didn't have the strongest marriage to begin with if they are reconnection with old flames via FB.

That said, I did finally cave and make a FB business page for our business after my clients began demanding one. It is used for keeping them up to date of our businesses closures and such.

I had my business FB before I had a personal FB. A large majority of businesses have FB pages now.

I can use it to send updates, post pictures of what goes on in classes, let people know when things are due, when we are closed, etc.

Yesterday I sent out a "thank you" via FB to all my Saturday assistant instructors. We have a day filled with young students & they do an amazing job with them. For high school students, their patience, love & understanding for young children amazes me & I not only wanted to let them all know that, but I felt it was a way to let the parents know how great these girls are with their kids.

 

[Scurvy]

I have a Facebook account and I really enjoy it. If my friends or family were dramtic types maybe I wouldn't like it as much as I do, but they aren't. If they were, I supposed I'd just delete and block them so I wouldn't have to deal with it. The only place I've seen major Facebook drama is when people have posted about it on here, or when I've been reading Lamebook or Failblog.

 

[PaulaSB12]

Yes I have a facebook account I like playing some of the games. Also if you need to get in touch with somone on a different shift its the easiest way. I got a mobile phone the moment I started working nights so I could call for help if needed.

 

[Klismania]

Yes, I have a Facebook account and use it regularly. I've said why on multiple other threads.

This has become such a debate on the Community Board as of late, but it still cracks me up that some people are so willing to post on an internet discussion board that Facebook is such a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad thing. Even some people with quite high post counts who seem to post here on the DIS multiple times a day - some of whom really seem to like to argue .

There is a critical difference between posting on internet bulletin boards and posting on FB. There is a slim to none chance I will run into anyone from these boards in real life. It's all anonymous and faceless.

You can't say that about FB.

I can speak my mind and state opinions here that I'd likely never give to people I know because I simply don't want to deal with the static of having a less than popular opinion amongst my group. Been there, done that. I've learned that it's easier to simply nod and keep my thoughts to myself when someone has a differing opinion in real life, or on FaceBook, instead of wasting time fighting for the right to be told I'm right.

That's the difference between the DIS and FB.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I have friends in real life that are on here. Hi Em!


I love Facebook. With friends all over the globe, it is really easy to keep track with them and share pictures. Then again, I'm a grown woman with an adult group of friends. It has been years since High School so I don't have to deal with that mentality.

I love seeing pictures of newborns within seconds of them being born. I love seeing wedding pictures of weddings I couldn't attend. I LOVE being able to share and comment on such photos with family and friends.

I also have a private group of friends on FB. No one else can see our comments and discussions and it is just like having a group of women over for tea or coffee or beer or wine even though we are four time-zones apart from each other.

 

[palavra]

There is a critical difference between posting on internet bulletin boards and posting on FB. There is a slim to none chance I will run into anyone from these boards in real life. It's all anonymous and faceless.

You can't say that about FB.

I can speak my mind and state opinions here that I'd likely never give to people I know because I simply don't want to deal with the static of having a less than popular opinion amongst my group. Been there, done that. I've learned that it's easier to simply nod and keep my thoughts to myself when someone has a differing opinion in real life, or on FaceBook, instead of wasting time fighting for the right to be told I'm right.

That's the difference between the DIS and FB.

And that is your opinion.

In my life, I became very involved on a mom's message board when I was pregnant with my daughter 8 years ago. I really enjoyed chatting with one of the ladies on there, who has a daughter the same age as mine. At the time we first got to know each other online, she lived in China and I was here in Georgia. Fast forward a few years, and her husband took a job in the states in a small town here in Georgia. About a month ago, we met in person for the first time after having "known" each other for over 8 years!

A couple of weeks ago, I got a message on here from someone who was in central Georgia. We had posted to the same thread. Turns out, we live less than 20 miles from each other. The world has a way of getting smaller and smaller as you get to know people online.

 

[KristaTX]

In addition, I see too many people spending (IMO) way too much time focusing on their computer screens rather than directing their attention to the people they physically touch or talk to on a daily basis. I'm refuse to be like them. I'd rather have a small group of people who know me intimately and will be there for me because they know me personally than have 100's of "friends" in cyberspace who, to tell the truth based on what I've seen, only really seem to care about themselves

IMO, Facebook is the ultimate, "Me Me Me". Slap as much paint on it as you want, tell everyone how wonderful it is that you can 'connect' with all your friends and family, but I think I'll always see it as some badly written reality show that comes through the computer and interests the user because the user is part of writing the script.

Based on what I've seen in real life with co-workers spending 1/2 their day on FB wasting company resources; marriages/relationships being destroyed by FB because old 'friends' come back into someone's life (and wouldn't have if it weren't for FB); and based on some of the fallout I see posted here and in the news, I've come to the conclusion that FB causes more problems than it solves.

There is a critical difference between posting on internet bulletin boards and posting on FB. There is a slim to none chance I will run into anyone from these boards in real life. It's all anonymous and faceless.

You can't say that about FB.

I can speak my mind and state opinions here that I'd likely never give to people I know because I simply don't want to deal with the static of having a less than popular opinion amongst my group. Been there, done that. I've learned that it's easier to simply nod and keep my thoughts to myself when someone has a differing opinion in real life, or on FaceBook, instead of wasting time fighting for the right to be told I'm right.

That's the difference between the DIS and FB.

That's what I don't get, though. And you are not the only person who I have seen take that stand. On one hand, you want the anonymity that the DIS provides. It sounds like you enjoy being able to express your opinion to people that you don't really care about and who you won't ever run into "in real life". But on the other hand, you complain about how Facebook somehow impedes the nurturing of one's real-life relationships.

I have many friends who I know because of the DIS. I have been to their homes. They have been to mine. I have vacationed with many of them at WDW, and at places other than WDW. We talk on a regular basis, share things and goof off on sites like Facebook, and so on.

I could criticize your choice to remain anonymous on the DIS and say that hiding behind that anonymity and "wasting time" here is more impairing to your ability to nurture "real life" relationships than Facebook is to me. But it's probably not doing that to you, so I won't .

But neither is Facebook impairing the relationships of most people who use it. Sure, people can and have used Facebook for what ultimately leads to destructive consequences. They have used the DIS for the same thing.
But most people don't do that. Like anything, the negative gets more attention. Facebook is not a slippery slope any more than the DIS is. Or the internet altogether. And it is probably less harmful than TV and video games when it comes to relationships. It's just a tool, and for most people it appears to be improving their relationships with other people. Why not just say (like some others on this thread have), "Hey, I don't want to communicate that way, but that's great that other people make really good use of it."